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ORIGINAL: HoneyBears

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

call me old if you like but i thought a booty call was a sexual thang.
He said there was no sex. thats a pretty shitty version of my experience in booty calls
he said....For my birthday I wanted to get a Pro-Domme and have her come along too.
Now she may well be using him as a no sex "submissive" we dont have the full story or even her side..
But Im ONLY going on what HE said.

OP said he was not parking his dick with intercourse. He did not actually come out and deny there was any sex.

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ORIGINAL: subbybound

We are not having intercourse, so I'm not "looking to park my dick."

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

but once he started talking he turned me off, that's how I got into gags...

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: subbybound
I'll answer your questions and ask you some.
For me, play and sexual encounters do equate as being friends. I can't separate intimacy and feelings. If someone is sexually pleasing you don't you develop feelings for that person?

Me? Usually. However, it's not automatic. Like other Dominants, I can also get off on stuff like power and control and it has nothing to do with liking the other person at all. My personal preference is to have my sexual encounters with those who I have an emotional attachment but I've also done so with none.

Also, I happen to be one of the folks on the forum that engages in what's known as meet and beat and/or pick up play. I'm not attached to the people that I do that with over and above making sure they aren't harmed during the scene. I'm not going to sit here and tell you that every person I've ever swung a flogger at is a person who's been an actual friend. It's not an automatic inspiration for an emotional attachment.

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No, she is not treating me like a friend. One poster mentioned that "good friends" are able to talk and sort things out. Make amends. This is not the case with her. If someone gives me the time of day, on a continual basis, I consider this person to be a friend. If someone gives you the time of day and chats with you, on a continual basis, wouldn't you consider that person a friend?

Unlike some of the respondents to the thread, I also don't believe in the idea that a friend remains a friend no matter what they've done. I'm not saying what you did was big or horrible here. What I am saying is that certain things people do are a darn good reason to put them out of your life.

Is your 'friend' giving you the time of day now that SHE initiates? Has she called or sent an email to ask you how you are doing or if your job is going ok? Has she sent you a card? Did she think of a joke that she knew would make you laugh so she sent you an email? That's the kind of stuff I do for friends.

Play partners, I might talk to online to arrange play dates. I might discuss play plans. Check in to make sure they are doing well post play. (If there's any intense level of S/m going on or just to make sure they are doing well.) I'm not saying I don't communicate with the people that I play with. It's just saying it's more based on the play arrangement, rather than the broader scope of things that I'd talk about with friends.

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

he actually didnt say a lot of things, which is why I asked.
Someone else said booty call, not me i just responded with my definition of a booty call. MY definition of a booty call is sex...doesnt have to be intercourse.
Eating a pussy is sex.
Ive asked twice how long he has known her/had a"friendship" he hasnt responded.

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ORIGINAL: HAK1M

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

you have made at least three posts in less than 30 minutes claiming she is lying, not adding anything to the topic, just being a troll.

and does your butt hurt because i am a troll??? you are showing people your ass instead of you face ,are you that ashamed to show us your ugly face???? . and me , i would not initiate a conversation with a butt........