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Missokyst -> Snobbish? (11/13/2015 9:56:43 PM)
Recently I opened up my profile on the other side, and on fet. Gakk. I may be a snob. Ok, I am definitely a snob when it comes to compatibility. I expect men in my life to be relatively intelligent. I am not hung up on looks as much as I am personality. I will have to admit I am not that attracted to skinny men, but if there are other attributes I quickly get beyond that. But I find myself repelled by older guys. When a man tells me he is 70+ and his next statement is he needs to cum 6 times a day, or that he can spend all day at the Y it makes me shudder. I am older now myself. My days of attracting a 35 yr old came and went last year. I AM older and I feel it. But I still can't get over the prejudice of not wanting an older man. What can I do to get over this aversion?

angelikaJ -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 2:08:41 AM)
Is it all older guys that make you shudder or a certain type of older guy: But I find myself repelled by older guys. When a man tells me he is 70+ and his next statement is he needs to cum 6 times a day, or that he can spend all day at the Y it makes me shudder. Cary Grant was plenty sexy in his 60s. Is it all older men, or just the ones who resemble randy teenagers?

blacksword404 -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 2:22:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst Recently I opened up my profile on the other side, and on fet. Gakk. I may be a snob. Ok, I am definitely a snob when it comes to compatibility. I expect men in my life to be relatively intelligent. I am not hung up on looks as much as I am personality. I will have to admit I am not that attracted to skinny men, but if there are other attributes I quickly get beyond that. But I find myself repelled by older guys. When a man tells me he is 70+ and his next statement is he needs to cum 6 times a aday, or that he can spend all day at the Y it makes me shudder. I am older now myself. My days of attracting a 35 yr old came and went last year. I AM older and I feel it. But I still can't get over the prejudice of not wanting an older man. What can I do to get over this aversion? Other than hypnosis or something like that, I don't think you can. I've seen fat chicks be snobby to fat guys. Ugly women be snobby to ugly dudes. They have every right to their preference. But I'd advise not to be picking up any stones. Nothing wrong with not liking dudes 10 years older. Those are a crucial 10 years. It could be the difference between being fine and in your own place to having to move in with family because you can't live alone anymore. Or the difference between healthy and a wheelchair. The snobby attitude ain't so good but at your age you aren't likely to change. You're set in your ways.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 2:44:13 AM)
I can sort of relate. For as long as I can remember, I've been (physically) attracted to ladies in their 30s to somewhere in the early 40s or so. Well, I'm 51, now and still find myself (physically) attracted to that same type of lady. The trouble is: I've always connected on an intellectual and emotional level better with ladies of my own age or a bit older. I have two terrific ladies in my life, right now, but I know if anything happens to change that, I'll be alone for the rest of my life. There's no changing to whom you're attracted. There's just adjusting to that fact as part of your life experience. Michael

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 6:21:49 AM)
It's not snobby to have sexual attraction preferences. We all have them. I laugh when I get messages from older guys 10-20 years my senior thinking I should be interested in hooking up with them. I always wonder if they are interested in hooking up with women 10-20 years THEIR senior. Are they messaging women in their 80s and 90s? Somehow I doubt it. Men always think they should be attractive to younger women without the reverse being true. I've found over time the window of age range I'm attracted to has narrowed, maybe 5 years older/younger. That's just my personal preference. I'd never rule someone out if I were attracted outside that range, but I'm entitled to my own preferences, and so are you. If anyone thinks we're snobby, well bless their hearts. They just think they should have younger women to fuck. Too bad [:D]

Kaliko -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 7:29:11 AM)
When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 7:59:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody. Love that ^. I wish someone had told me this when I was young. Figuring it out for myself came at some cost.

Turdistanjihdhi -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 9:00:33 AM)
No women you just like younger and more viral men who can keep it up and in longer!

Missokyst -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 9:10:27 AM)
Hmm... you are right there, I would have gone down on Cary in a heartbeat. Maybe it is the ones who try to push their virility into view that repel me.

Missokyst -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 9:16:33 AM)
Maybe. Though much of my life I have been adaptable, mostly because I try to fit in. So, if I was with bikers, I was like them. If I was with college professors that was my persona. Because of my upbringing I had to learn to change many times over. Right now, this is me. I don't dumb down like I had to for many years, in order to keep people happy. That part needs to stay intact because of everything I have been, that is the most me. I can learn to change anything else in order to adapt. But like everything, that is a skill.

Missokyst -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 9:18:46 AM)
LOL I never thought about that! quote: ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2 It's not snobby to have sexual attraction preferences. We all have them. I laugh when I get messages from older guys 10-20 years my senior thinking I should be interested in hooking up with them. I always wonder if they are interested in hooking up with women 10-20 years THEIR senior. Are they messaging women in their 80s and 90s? Somehow I doubt it. Men always think they should be attractive to younger women without the reverse being true.

Missokyst -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 9:21:33 AM)
Actually that is where my thoughts are currently. I have considered being alone the rest of my life. Hanging out with my daughters in the last few months has been ok, but I feel like part of me is lost. I am not sure I want to be alone. Heck, I had always thought I would be one of those people in retirement homes, doing the staff. quote: ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr I can sort of relate. but I know if anything happens to change that, I'll be alone for the rest of my life. There's no changing to whom you're attracted. There's just adjusting to that fact as part of your life experience. Michael

Missokyst -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 9:22:41 AM)
Good points, thanks! quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody.

Wayward5oul -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 10:19:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody. I have seen this sort of discussion come up on other sites, and it gets pretty heated when people start accusing others of discrimination because they won't date out of a certain age bracket, race, religion, economic class, etc. This statement may have shut them all up before things got ugly. Should be a sticky or something.

DesFIP -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 1:20:41 PM)
You like who you like. Refusing to rent to someone based on age or race or religion, etc, is prejudice. Refusing to date or have sex with them is not. You don't owe anyone an equal opportunity fuck.

HAK1M -> RE: Snobbish? (11/14/2015 8:20:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ Is it all older guys that make you shudder or a certain type of older guy: But I find myself repelled by older guys. When a man tells me he is 70+ and his next statement is he needs to cum 6 times a day, or that he can spend all day at the Y it makes me shudder. Cary Grant was plenty sexy in his 60s. Is it all older men, or just the ones who resemble randy teenagers? nah men in general like to play with the (on, off ) button. no man likes to spend his day digging even if it were for a treasor.....................................

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