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dreamlady -> RE: Mistress (11/25/2015 11:39:29 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Not only is decent conversation appropriate for Dommes, but quite a few of them are pleasantly surprised by a good conversationalist. It's an easy way to score brownie points right away.
What's amazing is that any of this even has to be pointed out. MissKatya gives some great advice that applies across the board also to all men alike, whether applicable to F/m, M/f, or regular vanilla interactions which cover the gamut as tweaked below.
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ORIGINAL: MissKatya
For example-you message someone with a casual non-kink related question (that applies to their personal interests) and they respond accordingly and politely. You respond by giving out your phone number and offer them to chat that way [or push to cam or meet right away, before you have established an appropriate interest level, which will vary from woman to woman]. Domme[/Lady] replies with "I don't feel comfortable with that, especially when I don't know you yet and let's keep the convo on CollarSpace" (keep in mind-you messaged her once or twice or more, but are still unknown entities to one another).
So you stop responding or can't hold her interest....because she didn't meet your fantasy and conversational needs and because you failed to make yourself stand out in a good way from the rest of the herd. You gave up[/She's not interested] because she's treating you like a person and you are treating her like your misguided, stereotypical fantasy image that (kinky) women are sex-crazed nymphos who engage in sex talk with every Internet stranger with whom they make contact.
And that is why you have a hard time meeting Dommes[/women].
If you want someone to meet your fetish needs immediately, go find a Pro-Domme, pro-switch or pro-sub. If you are truly looking for something meaningful, take the time to know someone and create a friendship first. Stop thinking with your dick.
Addressing OP's Opening Post about being unsure how to talk to and how to meet a prospective Mistress, I sense it's more a matter of having to overcome his shyness. Often men who have a naturally shy personality (or not, but might get romantically shy) will expect the woman to make.every.freaking.move. They think that just proclaiming they are submissive - and in OP's case, he's 24 and says he's been a slave for 6 years [8|] - means that Dominant women are expected to rush on in there with guns blazing, taking prisoners and asking questions later.
This gets tiresome really fast, Ajohnson. Your profile states unequivocally that what you have to offer is foot worship, nothing more.
Is that what you think Dommes want, yet ANOTHER foot fetishist to add to their "stable"? What makes you different than 200 other horny fetishist dudes looking for a free fetish delivery system in the form of a female body for you to (sexually) objectify?
If that isn't the message you wish to convey, then rethink what it is that you truly do have to offer that makes you special and not a run-of-the-mill male wannabe sub.
DreamLady
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