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How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 11/24/2015 6:19:26 PM

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Does anyone know how the 'Princess' (if a woman labels herself as being one) dynamic
works in BDSM, as I did a forum search and nothing came up.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 11/24/2015 6:55:11 PM

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Could you clarify if you are asking about a dominating Princess or a submissive Princess?

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 11/24/2015 7:00:20 PM

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Sub Princess, but it doesn't hurt to know about both.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 11/24/2015 7:05:22 PM

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I view sub princess, more like treated as a slut/whore in the bedroom, but excessively spoiled rotten outside of it, kinda like worship the ground you walk on outside of the bedroom

And actually it's something I pondered about, because, that must be hard for doms who wants control in and out of the bedroom. In many ways, the outside bedroom part, she would have him eating from the palm of her hands, worship the ground she walks on, but once within sexual context, she becomes completely submissive to his wimps.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 11/29/2015 7:37:13 AM

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I view it like a form of D/lg. Daddy is the king and the lg is his little princess. Less servant than pet.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 11/30/2015 5:13:49 PM

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quote:

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Does anyone know how the 'Princess' (if a woman labels herself as being one) dynamic
works in BDSM, as I did a forum search and nothing came up.

There are no Princesses....only those who claim to be.

(It's kinda like fight club).

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 12/1/2015 1:58:20 PM

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 12/2/2015 9:44:15 PM

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I did the Daddy/princess thing once. And no, he was not eating out of my hand nor was I in control out of the bedroom.

There was a bit of daddy/lg, but it was more like he treated me as a teenager than a little. He took care of me, spoiled me and was indulgent to an extent in regards to things he found entertaining. But there was a definitive line in what was tolerated, and an understanding that he could readjust that line at anytime. Furthermore, the indulgence in no related to his expectation that I obey any order nor was it an excuse for defiance.

As with any pairing of people, there are an infinite number of expressions and dynamics - this is just how it worked with us. Just wanted to point out that there isn't necessarily a conflict with what happens in and out of the bedroom.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 12/3/2015 2:08:40 AM

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Is it common for western dads to treat their daughter as princesses or something?

Definitely not common here. So I always find the princess thingy related to Daddy/Daughter thingy, a bit disconnect.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 12/3/2015 5:33:37 AM

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Is it common for western dads to treat their daughter as princesses or something?

Definitely not common here. So I always find the princess thingy related to Daddy/Daughter thingy, a bit disconnect.

I think it's much more of a fantasy, some moms and dads will be besotted with their offspring and possibly spoil them rotten, I found the Princess thing more common in the typical FinDomme scenario, you know guys wanting to serve some college girl who acts like a spoilt little princess.

I think if I would have pulled the "I'm a little princess" act with my dad, I would have spent a lot more time being grounded than I already did.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 12/3/2015 6:00:55 AM

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It's common in affluent households for daughters to be indulged to a degree more than sons. Sons have higher expectations on them. Especially after enforcement of Title 9 started. At that point girls were pressed to go to the best possible liberal arts colleges, instead of being raised to be nurses or teachers to support themselves.

Whereas boys were pushed to become lawyers or doctors, respected professionals, girls were pushed to simply grow from the experience and not think immediately about how their degree transferred into a paying career.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 12/3/2015 7:04:09 AM

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Not really on this side of the pond, I wasn't indulged to get what I want and to be spoiled, to a degree it is right what you say with higher education, but that is because people often marry within their profession and a wife who's also a lawyer will be much more of an asset to a guy who's a successful lawyer...

If anything I was less indulged than my brothers, there were far more expectations placed on me, you know stuff the guys could get away with and would be explained as sowing their wild oats, and boys will be boys, dramatically different. I had to be home at a certain point in time, because *I* was the one who's reputation could be damaged. My choice of clothes was under much more scrunity than what my brothers wore, they could wear the ripped jeans, I couldn't. I was always quite handy when it came to woodwork, I still make most of the shelves in the house because it's something I enjoy and I have an affinity when it comes to wood, for a while I toyed with the idea of working in that field, you should have heard the outrage, because nobody who'd be socially acceptable would put up with a woman who's nails are broken and who might come home covered with sawdust...

I went to a school where they taught law from grade 6 on (like the 6th year after you started school) and it always came very easily, it just wasn't something I saw as a career, didn't interest me enough, my parents were bitterly disappointed that I was far more interested in languages, media and social studies....

The boys were more groomed to take over the family businesses, the girls were groomed to have an understanding of the business their future husband would have and to be an asset...

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 1/5/2016 3:55:06 AM

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If I were to be a "princess", it would be with me wearing a cute long skirted pink dress with puffy short sleeves (think Princess Toadstool :), and being a princess in the Daddy/Mommy's princess sense, not some nasty demanding diva demanding to be treated like royalty (I doubt a diva princess would make a good sub anyhow)

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 1/5/2016 4:03:14 AM

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quote:

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Is it common for western dads to treat their daughter as princesses or something?

Definitely not common here. So I always find the princess thingy related to Daddy/Daughter thingy, a bit disconnect.

You only have to look at the whole pageantry thing in the US to see a prime example of this behaviour.

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RE: How does the Princess dynamic work in BDSM ? - 1/7/2016 8:43:21 AM

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I always secretly wished to be spoiled with cake and forty fuckings daily by insane big breasted nymphomaniacs, not so much useless attention whore-bags

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