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First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 11:42:48 AM

littleone35

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I was just wondering how many sub/slave knew the first time they met their Dom/Master that they wanted to be his?

As for me i talked to my Master on the phone many times before he talked me into meeting him (public place of course). On the phone he said he was sure i was going to be his but i said i don't know about that. I could not agree to it as i had not met him face to face yet i knew i liked him. When we met we were talking i leaned forward to whisper something in his ear he turned his head and our lips met. The second his lips touched mine i knew he was going to be my Master. 6 months later we are happier than ever.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 12:21:25 PM

Merritt27

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Congratulations to you and your Master....

The first time i met Daddy, i was to say the least smitten. It did not take long after that before i knew i wanted to be his....we were playing with some saran wrap and he was wrapping my hands and arms.....and well, it became a mess. When he looked up, exasperated with it...i couldnt help but laugh. When he started laughing...i knew he was the one and there wouldn't be another for me. Eight months and a few bumps in the road later, we are have a very happy, stable relationship.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 12:46:33 PM

juliaoceania

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We met in May at IHOP. I sat down across from him and I tried very hard to listen to what he was saying, but I was so spellbound by his eyes I just couldn't concentrate. The eye contact was just...WOW. He and I just talked staring each other in the eyes.... it was quite something. I knew we would end up intimate before the day was done. I had a very strong feeling that is would be way more than just a casual thing, or I wouldn't have played with him in the first place.

I was right, it was way more than play, was way more than casual, and we are talking about the future. Sooooooo, we shall see! I can't say I knew he was the One, because I feel like that jinxes things...smiles. I can say I definitely wanted him to be from the first time our eyes met..

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 12:59:42 PM

babysburnin

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My Dom and I also spoke, emailed, Im'd, etc for a bit before meeting. I thought I already knew I wanted to pursue "whatever" this was, but I was also sceptical. Our first date was cool. He said he wouldn't kiss me until I kissed him first, if I liked him in person. I saw him, he brought me a rose, we got into his car, and kissed him right then. I think I knew from day one in retrospect. He told me it was my place to ask if I wanted him to be my Dom, and his place to then decide. It was only a few dates when I asked him and he accepted. AND...we are doing very well

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(He suggested separate cars, but I already knew he was trust-worthy and safe for many reasons - I don't suggest this.)

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 1:04:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

The eye contact was just...WOW. He and I just talked staring each other in the eyes.... it was quite something.

LOL - my Dom and I would laugh at each other as we planned dates...we would just end up on dates starring into each other's eyes...for hours. It's so cool.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 3:51:50 PM

diamonddreamlove

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Have started to write this several times. Erased and rewrote finding myself so wowed by a first date i just returned from. While i have only been r/t a short time i have met and chatted with several Doms. Some there was a small connection with but nothing that rocked my boat, until now. Perhaps it is just the first really good mind fuck. Perhaps i am just more comfortable or perhaps i just met the One that will own me body, mind, heart and soul. Now out of curiosity anyone else have the urge to cry and puke after meeting a Dom for the first time? Or if i am crazy by all means tell me, so i can somehow put today in the right perspective cause right now i feel like i have been somewhere too wonderful for words and can't quite reach the ground. The odd thing is He only touched me in a manner quite appropriate for a quiet vanilla restaurant and a first date.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 4:00:21 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: diamonddreamlove

Have started to write this several times. Erased and rewrote finding myself so wowed by a first date i just returned from. While i have only been r/t a short time i have met and chatted with several Doms. Some there was a small connection with but nothing that rocked my boat, until now. Perhaps it is just the first really good mind fuck. Perhaps i am just more comfortable or perhaps i just met the One that will own me body, mind, heart and soul. Now out of curiosity anyone else have the urge to cry and puke after meeting a Dom for the first time? Or if i am crazy by all means tell me, so i can somehow put today in the right perspective cause right now i feel like i have been somewhere too wonderful for words and can't quite reach the ground. The odd thing is He only touched me in a manner quite appropriate for a quiet vanilla restaurant and a first date.

There's a reason they call it a rush. I have felt the wave of nausea and tears upon meeting people for the first time due to the emotional and physical rushes going on.

Just don't use that as a basis for a relationship. Life proves that, while many believe they have an instant amazing lifelong connection- only a very small percentage actually make it work. Take the stories you see on these boards about people who get collared right off and then end up paying for it later seriously.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 4:02:58 PM

diamonddreamlove

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Thank you, perspective is what i need right now!

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 4:23:58 PM

afeathr

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quote:

ORIGINAL: diamonddreamlove

Have started to write this several times. Erased and rewrote finding myself so wowed by a first date i just returned from. While i have only been r/t a short time i have met and chatted with several Doms. Some there was a small connection with but nothing that rocked my boat, until now. Perhaps it is just the first really good mind fuck. Perhaps i am just more comfortable or perhaps i just met the One that will own me body, mind, heart and soul. Now out of curiosity anyone else have the urge to cry and puke after meeting a Dom for the first time? Or if i am crazy by all means tell me, so i can somehow put today in the right perspective cause right now i feel like i have been somewhere too wonderful for words and can't quite reach the ground. The odd thing is He only touched me in a manner quite appropriate for a quiet vanilla restaurant and a first date.

Personally, I was emotionally numb after our first meeting. I had no idea how to feel... even now there are times when I am numb and unable to think. It's almost as if the feelings are too overwhelming to comprehend.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 4:28:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

I was just wondering how many sub/slave knew the first time they met their Dom/Master that they wanted to be his?

As for me i talked to my Master on the phone many times before he talked me into meeting him (public place of course). On the phone he said he was sure i was going to be his but i said i don't know about that. I could not agree to it as i had not met him face to face yet i knew i liked him. When we met we were talking i leaned forward to whisper something in his ear he turned his head and our lips met. The second his lips touched mine i knew he was going to be my Master. 6 months later we are happier than ever.

Matt's littleone

I went out with several (read: many many) Doms and Masters before meeting Sir. We talked via email, IM and phone and had fun via cam before we actually met. He was more than worried that I would be too shallow and judgemental, and I was just wanting to meet him!! I knew, at the end of the 'date', that I would kneel for him. He pinned me against my car and made his presence known to me in a way that no other Dom/Master has *ever* done. It was more than just the control, it was chemistry. And to this day (granted, only a couple months later) we still laugh that He was concerned about my reliance on "chemistry" as a deciding factor in our meeting.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 7:07:10 PM

eruditegirl1

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I just meet my Dom for the first time last week, but yet I have known him for 2 years...we have worked together for 2 years.....saw one another 3 days a week....6 hours a day...we have gone out in social groups together....he even helped me move....seen one another go through a lot and always supported one another as just friends....he even held my hair one night while I threw up....then a question was posed to me....my answer was going to be no....we decided to meet at my home for dinner to discuss the question....we talked for 5 hours..non stop....come to find out...he is a Dominant...it was like seeing him in a whole new light....seeing him for the first time....I know him and he knows me...and it is just clicking beyond what I ever imagined my first (hopefully my last too) D/s relationship to be....

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 7:17:50 PM

bandit25

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That is so cool!

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/18/2006 7:40:20 PM

eruditegirl1

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

That is so cool!

Thanks....I was actually getting ready to just give up on ever finding someone....and then when I least expected it....and in the place I least expected it...there he was...and now everything is making more sense...like the time he swatted me on the ass with and apron....lol....and we both smiled....

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 2:34:55 AM

lolipop

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eruditegirl1 - That's amazing, and I'll admit there have been some people in my life who I've WISHED were dominants haha. Some who have some strange behaviours that make me think, though I am way too shy to slip D/s into a serious conversation...

I'm relatively inexperienced, and have only had one relationship involving D/s, and the fact is that it only started about halfway through our relationship (it lasted 2 years). The most loving relationships I've known of (and this is just my experience) started very oddly. Like, for example, I knew a man who would call random phonenumbers and try to start up conversations, and that is how he met his wife. Interesting ways. :)

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 6:17:17 AM

eruditegirl1

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ORIGINAL: lolipop

eruditegirl1 - That's amazing, and I'll admit there have been some people in my life who I've WISHED were dominants haha. Some who have some strange behaviours that make me think, though I am way too shy to slip D/s into a serious conversation...

I'm relatively inexperienced, and have only had one relationship involving D/s, and the fact is that it only started about halfway through our relationship (it lasted 2 years). The most loving relationships I've known of (and this is just my experience) started very oddly. Like, for example, I knew a man who would call random phonenumbers and try to start up conversations, and that is how he met his wife. Interesting ways. :)

I am pretty shy by nature too....but...there is always ways to bring things up in a casual way...like I told my Dom once (still friends then)....we had been busy at work...bad day fro both of us...and he snapped at me....so I looked at him and said..." if you are going to yell at me...the least you could do is pull my hair and call me bitch"....it broke the tension and apperantly got him to thinking....

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 7:20:52 AM

diamonddreamlove

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if you are going to yell at me...the least you could do is pull my hair and call me bitch" love it!

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 7:35:35 AM

ownedgirlie

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I knew before we met. Meeting proved it.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 7:38:26 AM

Littlepita

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Our first meeting was when he came to pick me up and take me home with him. His hands were shaking and I was so nervous I did think I would throw-up. I even forgot my clothes as we drove off leaving them hanging in the closet at my sister's house. We had to drive for about 4 hours until we arrived at the bed & breakfast he had rented for our first night together. It was an entire day filled with smiles, touches, and us realizing that what we had felt online all those months was really true.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 7:38:45 AM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: eruditegirl1

I just meet my Dom for the first time last week, but yet I have known him for 2 years...we have worked together for 2 years.....saw one another 3 days a week....6 hours a day...we have gone out in social groups together....he even helped me move....seen one another go through a lot and always supported one another as just friends....he even held my hair one night while I threw up....then a question was posed to me....my answer was going to be no....we decided to meet at my home for dinner to discuss the question....we talked for 5 hours..non stop....come to find out...he is a Dominant...it was like seeing him in a whole new light....seeing him for the first time....I know him and he knows me...and it is just clicking beyond what I ever imagined my first (hopefully my last too) D/s relationship to be....

What a great story! Back in the days I went to a chat room, I was chatting during a break at work. So was another guy in my department - same chat room. We figured out it was "us." He walked over to my desk, crossed his arms, and grinned. Heh.

No connection between us though, but it was a fun discovery.

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RE: First time meeting your Dom - 7/19/2006 8:13:38 AM

subjenny74

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First time I met Master I knew I was His. We met for coffee and sat there and talked for a couple hours. A week later we went to a park and walked and talked. Shortly after that I went to His house to play. and it became a weekly date. 10 months later for my birthday we held a ceremony in the company of friends and he placed his collar on me.
others in our lifestyle group i think knew it also...when introduced to people(even before i was his) i was introduced as his.

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