crumpets -> RE: Don't be a creeper (12/14/2015 9:03:30 AM)
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes There is a difference between explaining and excusing. You are excusing. Explain: Some men have been raised to believe that they have a right to a woman's body when she displays it in public. Excusing: Women show off their bodies, and men can't help reacting. This constant new idiotic captcha Collarspace/CollarChat implemented (instead of adding real security) is making it almost impossible to respond, so, I apologize in advance if I don't respond to each of your salient points. I will likely spend more time on FL instead, which isn't as painful to use as CollarSpace/Chat has recently become. [image]http://cdn.collarspace.com/attachments/121415/2C00117C-2A68-4BAD-9AB2-2B463B993E2F1.jpg[/image] quote:
ORIGINAL: NookieNotes Most of this doesn't actually bother me. I am bothered by VERY few creepers, and I don't mind being catcalled. It tells me exactly where such people stand on the social skills ladder. I find it amusing, and know that they are not a good match for me. Win-Win. Let's be clear about one thing, since your next sentence is about "me". I don't think I have *ever* catcalled a woman in my entire life. I've *practiced" the classic catcall whistle, which we've seen in countless movies, as likely almost all boys have, just as I've practiced the whistles of many birds, but I've actually never used my roueet rouuuua whistle, ever! quote:
ORIGINAL: NookieNotes I am speaking TO YOU. OK. I'm listening. I may not respond much, moving forward, because this ill-advised new captcha idiocy is killing me. (Why the Collarspce/chat owners just don't protect YOUR privacy is beyond my comprehension.) quote:
ORIGINAL: NookieNotes To your communication about this issue and your excuses on behalf of men everywhere. To show the flaws in your logic in HOW youa re going about it. Nothing more. Heh heh heh ... you must admit that I approach things from a different angle than you do. Most of you women *assume* I'm catcalling, and that I'm leering, and perhaps even worse, that I'm pinching, groping, raping, whatever. The fact that I (think I) *understand* why this stuff occurs, doesn't mean I'm doing it. I mean, I (think I) understand why ISIS wants to form a caliphate, but that doesn't mean "I'm" forming a caliphate. The fact that the US set up a lousy government in Iraq is partly why ISIS is easily taking over the Sunni portions of Iraq, so, both the US and the Shiite-driven government bear some responsibility for the fiasco that is northwestern Iraq today (as does Britain, by the way). Your attempt to absolve women of any responsibility for how men think about them is similar to you absolving the US for why ISIS so easily took over Mosul, for example, against hugely disproportionate numbers of well equipped Iraq soldiers (1,500 against 30,000, where the 30,000 simply fled, um, er, as they stated - they "organized a tactical redeployment"). [image]http://cdn.collarspace.com/attachments/121415/2C00117C-2A68-4BAD-9AB2-2B463B993E2F2.jpg[/image] Do you see the parallel? [image]https://binarythis.files.wordpress.com/2012/02/media-orchard-chalkboard-sl-746783.jpg[/image] The words of the US/Iraq coalition were merely an excuse for how they really behaved (they fled, pure and simple). It's not politically correct for me to say that they fled, of course - nor that the US put in place a government that couldn't stand because it was dominated by the minority party. Until you accept and understand what is really going on, you'll NEVER be able to come to a solution. It's just complaining, otherwise. [image]http://cdn.collarspace.com/attachments/121415/E59C7608-8E7D-4EA2-B03C-E78F4615E70C1.jpg[/image] quote:
ORIGINAL: NookieNotes In this case, you are looking at the BODY LANGUAGE of the human, while not changing the clothing AT ALL. Because the clothing is not what matters. Ah, but you hit the nail upon the head! Women are cryptic to most men ... well ... they have ALWAYS been cryptic to me. Just as I read every ingredient on every box of medicine I buy in the drug store, and just as I understand exactly why every single ingredient is there, and in what amount (taking into account obscure details such as the LD50 when comparing analgesics, for example), I have been trying to UNDERSTAND women. But women don't come with an ingredient label. They basically make no sense whatsoever. The younger the women are, the less sense they make, so, we're all at an age where you actually start to SAY what you WANT and you (for the most part) start to DO what you want. But, trust me, men are constantly barraged with idiotically obfuscated messages from women all the time such as the "no... please ... don't.... stop" classic which means "please take me - but keep trying because I want to appear to be unwilling when I'm really willing". [image]http://www.brucesallan.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Men-and-Women-feelings.png[/image] Short fuck-me skirts are one such obfuscated message from women. Like it or not, what you wear sends a message to men, and, it's no longer up to you how that message is interpreted. How that message is interpreted, as I said in the prior post, is the sum total of that man's experience with ALL the women who wore similar clothing. He doesn't expect you to TELL him directly what you think (in fact, you're more likely to tell him the opposite of what you actually think, the younger you are). Women think that's being coy. Men just think they make no sense and men come to their own conclusions. That men are almost assuredly wrong a LOT of the time in their assumptions about why women dress the way they do is merely a probability function of the system. I didn't make the system. I am simply trying to understand it. [image]http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/files/2013/08/Screenshot_17.png[/image]
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