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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

ExiledTyrant I forgot to add in wise words.

And an additional question does she know

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

to be honest LP, Ive never been willing to read a complete post of his...after a few, i learned my lesson.

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ORIGINAL: slcsub

Greetings all. Thank you for reading this.

I try, during the course of my life, to be as open and authentic as I can be. On Collarspace (and other sites) I extend this honesty into my profile. Specifically, that I am married. I do not shy away from this topic and I am very upfront about it.

For me, BDSM and D/s is NOT about sex. I believe many here would agree. It can include sex (but not in my case) but unto itself, it is possible to have a long term, meaningful D/s relationship without sex at all.

However, is my being honest about my being married scaring off too many potential D/s partners? Would it be better to withhold that element until the first conversation, or is my current tact the best one?

I cannot and will not have sexual intercourse with another (no penile/vaginal penetration allowed; everything else is okay) and my spouse is completely aware of my BDSM activities as well as my participation online and in the local community. She simply has no D/s or BDSM interests and no desire to change. I've no desire to try to change her.

So is there a better way? I ask because in Utah my prospects of finding a local Domme are already miserably low. I hate to be putting myself at an even greater disadvantage.

Thank You,
moleste