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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Before they bounce me out of this joint (again) I'd like to tell some of you folks that I enjoyed talking with you. I'm pretty sure I'll be kicked to the curb for what I'm about to say.

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

In a social scene, bar, mall, wotever, there are predators looking for prey. Ted Bundy preyed upon his victims in very public places, as did Dahmer and Gacey, although Bundy was much more successful in charming his victims out of the very public settings and killing them.

If you consider the risks in the general public you really should consider the risk in the kink world.

If you met someone at a bar in a nilla setting and they broke out rope, you'd run if you could. However, in the kink world, it is the rope that may excite you, but when the rope goes on, you're at the mercy... complete, utter, helpless mercy of the rigger.

NPD and Sociopaths are EXTREMELY charismatic and charming. If such a predator is lurking in your circle, they are going to be well learned in WIITWD, tell amazing tales, and impress you with their knowledge base. Building the knowledge and vocabulary to pass oneself off as a skilled Top/Dom is just a matter of research on the internet. You could read the accounts from many of our prestigious members, go to the other site and read about and watch video of other prestigious folk, and incorporate those tales into your personal "résumé". As long as your tale is accurate, detailed, knowledgable, and you participated/preformed in "Obscuria USA, Nowhere Novabrinsk, or Somewhere UK" people young or new to the lifestyle usually will take you at your word and don't know the importance of vetting anyway.

Even very experienced members of the community are, at some point, confronted by obsession, stalking, harassment, which usually turns into the "then the cops came and cuffed the crazy fucker" story, or, sometimes, the FBI intervenes before it becomes very dangerous or fatal. It happens to people that have been in the lifestyle for a very long time. Wizened, safe, savvy people that have calls in place, that only attend events that have a rigid vetting policy, sometimes danger slips under the fence, but the advantage the experienced folk have, is they do not often get lured into a "private" session.

Bearing that in mind, if the very experienced lifestyle folk fall in the path of danger, what becomes of the eager doe-eyed people that are so new to all this and so eager to dive in.

What this post can bring to the board is safe tips for the new and old. I recommend "vetting" "safe calls" and "no private sessions, and I am confident that our members (not socks) will share stories and safety tips with you here ;)