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LadyConstanze -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 6:08:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DungeonDaddy67 This woman that Goes to my church, has decided that she wants to be around me, be my friend, etc. Everyone else sees that she is obviously interested in me. but as my old granny used to say "I wouldn't have you off the Christmas Tree" (Not interested, don't want to have you) This woman is UGLY, she has more wrinkles on her than a road map has lines, her Hair is stringy, flat and lifeless. she is flat chested. She wears no make up and she has 2 teen age children. She supports Causes that I am totally opposed too. I try to keep my vanilla and my bdsm separated. I would never be happy with this woman, I find her physically repugnant and will not date a vanilla woman. How can I tell her GO AWAY with out getting nasty, this woman does attend my church. I don't want to offend her and make her leave, since its a small struggling church that needs all the members it can get! Apart from the obvious Christian values you show (it's the season of love, isn't it...) what is offensive about somebody offering you friendship? Maybe she just feels sorry for you? Unless she makes a move, she's being friendly, it might surprise you, but not everybody is a horrible, miserable person and only picks people as friends they deem attractive. Since it's a small community, as you stated, and you don't mix BDSM and vanilla or would ever date vanilla, wouldn't the best way to claim you are having some long distance relationship with a woman you met online, it's a polite way of giving her a hint, and it will also help you to not get totally embarrassed if you tell her that you don't want to date her and she starts laughing loudly and goes "What the hell ever gave you this idea? Are you drunk?"

Wayward5oul -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 11:27:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DungeonDaddy67 This woman that Goes to my church, has decided that she wants to be around me, be my friend, etc. This woman is UGLY, she has more wrinkles on her than a road map has lines, her Hair is stringy, flat and lifeless. she is flat chested. She wears no make up and she has 2 teen age children. I try to keep my vanilla and my bdsm separated. I would never be happy with this woman, I find her physically repugnant and will not date a vanilla woman. Go back and read your profile. You see what you have written ridiculing bbw's treatment of men who are not slender? Think about it. quote: How can I tell her GO AWAY with out getting nasty, this woman does attend my church. I don't want to offend her and make her leave, since its a small struggling church that needs all the members it can get! You are 48 years old and you don't know how to tactfully let a woman know that you are not interested? Major eye-roll at the idea that your rejection of this woman could actually upset the dynamics of the entire church and actually lead to its demise.

DesFIP -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 11:27:56 AM)
Sit on the other side of the church. When services end, go talk to someone else, then say loud enough to be overheard "Look at the time! I have to run" and immediately leave. Park your car on the other side of the lot from hers. However, judging by the op's looks and his lack of social skills. I bet she's decided it's her Christian duty to be nice to the op because it's obvious no one else would do it willingly.

Greta75 -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 11:32:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DungeonDaddy67 She wears no make up This is a bad point? Seriously? Why don't you wear make up too? So if a woman likes you that you are not interested in, just don't show interest in return, you gotta be like totally cold towards her. Also, do not assume she's interested in you, UNTIL she directly tells you so. And if she does, then just tell her you're currently not interested in a relationship with anybody. If you do hook up with someone else at a later date, then, just say, because you fell inlove. Whatever. Just be kind.

MsBane -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 11:56:12 AM)
person above me is right about going cold. not rude, just not friendly. answer questions with one word answers, look away or at your phone when they're talking, walk off mid sentence to get a drink or a tissue to blow your nose if they start talking to you. if all else fails, pick your nose and eat it right in front of her, just casually, like its a childhood habit you have yet to outgrow. just do whatever other women do when you try to talk to them.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 5:05:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsBane person above me is right about going cold. not rude, just not friendly. answer questions with one word answers, look away or at your phone when they're talking, walk off mid sentence to get a drink or a tissue to blow your nose if they start talking to you. if all else fails, pick your nose and eat it right in front of her, just casually, like its a childhood habit you have yet to outgrow. just do whatever other women do when you try to talk to them. [sm=rofl.gif] Priceless :)

dcnovice -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 7:47:14 PM)
quote: Maybe she just feels sorry for you? I wondered that too.

DarkSteven -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 10:32:50 PM)
What's the problem? She likes you. She wants a relationship, and a friendship. None of your objections stand in the way of a friendship. If she has different views from you, good. Both of you can discuss them respectfully, and you might learn something. I find that I learn most from those whose backgrounds and ideas differ from mine. Nothing obligates you to let it get sexual. So accept the friendship and keep looking for a woman you'd be compatible with.

Greta75 -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 10:37:09 PM)
Some guys here are like really nice guys, but I do believe that it is in that woman's best interest to be colder towards her IF there is solid evidence she wants a relationship with you. Just because, continually to treat her as a friend and being super nice to her, will kinda lead her on and give her hope to keep trying for nothing. It's in her best interest to feel swift temporarily hurt of rejection so that she can move on faster. I don't know, just my personal opinion. I have the same thing with men, if I am not interested at all, I turn stone cold. Ignore text messages, do not respond, do not talk to him anymore. Just believe I want to send a clear message that I am not interested, stop trying. And I always believe that, if they move on, they will find someone else who will welcome their attention and able to return those feelings.

PandoraFoxxx -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/27/2015 11:18:19 PM)
Dude, Steven, I love you but...tossing her the friend-zone bone is not going to fix things. I'm gonna agree with most of the women on this thread. There is this thing called "coldly cordial." Do not speak unless spoken to Answer questions with very short closed-ended answers Avoid conversations Do not make eye contact, master the "art of the glance" If it really bothers you that much, go to a different church. Seriously, there's like 20 bajillion of them. Alternative #1: Tell her to her face everything you wrote here, verbatim. She, nor any female she ever comes into contact with, will ever be interested in you. No Vanillas: SOLVED! Alternative #2: Your attitude is repugnant and I bet if you did take her out, she'd run the other way.

Bunnicula -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/28/2015 12:04:30 AM)
Tell her you don't want to date her. Tell her you don't even want to be her friend. Then tell her it's because she seems like a good woman and she can do a hell of a lot better. Honesty is usually the best way to deal with a situation like this.

AlaskanLabrador -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (12/31/2015 3:40:55 PM)
That suits me just fine dude because I do not want you either you motherfucker!

royalarchmason -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (1/1/2016 8:03:30 AM)
Oh dear you mean to tell us the O.P.is actually a Motherfucker? How perverse and disgusting and he goes to church and like the clergyman he is a Goddamn Hypocrite! He may also be Kevin Sock Puppet wearing a clever disguise? Such is the devious nature of our resident socks.

thompsonx -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (3/6/2016 11:45:40 AM)
ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance When all else fails, you can always ask yourself, ,WWJD? It being church and all. We know that jesus was boinking mary magdilyn so he would probably go for it...

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: GO AWAY, I don't want you (3/6/2016 5:14:31 PM)
Just tell her you are not interested.

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