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Greta75 -> RE: Just using me? (1/17/2016 2:31:51 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Rosemary120
One has also wanted to meet in a matter of 2 months. I feel wary now, like its too rushed. Advice?
I am experienced in meeting with alot of men from online for sexual purposes. My own sexual purposes anyway. My rules are, No compromises. Unless the man is gonna fulfill 100% of what I want. And hopefully what I want is what he wants too, then, I know it's gonna be a great time for us both. Otherwise, no point compromising at all. The world is your oyster. I've learnt that if you are patient, you will meet your compatibility.
I personally have this thing where, there are some people, I can meet within 24 hours of talking to them comfortably, and my senses was usually quite good on this and usually it works out pretty well. And there are people where it could take 2 years of online conversation before I am comfortable enough to meet them.
I have learnt from meeting online people a long long time ago that, there is no point rushing the meet if you don't feel 100% comfortable.
Also, personally for me, the more I am not 100% comfortable, dragging the meeting as long as possible, actually brings up more red flags that I didn't catch in the first few conversations, and most of the time, I am glad I waited and in the end never bothered even meeting the person. I like to provoke the person a little to test him a little. Because one of my biggest rule is, I do not meet anybody with a temperament that scares me. If he can't control himself online, I think I will be in danger with him in his physical presence. I have great fear of men with tempers and will stay far far away from any men who have no control over himself. There is something about the anonymity of online interaction that can easily bring out the worst in people, where people will be more well behaved in real life interaction, so...., I usually use this to my full advantage in assessing someone. In real life, they would be too well behaved and easily controlled to my liking. Through online, they are less, you can easily get to the real person.
As physical appearance to alot of extent does not matter to me, as long as he meets my age, weight and height criteria. I usually do not care how he looks like.
So you're a woman, trust your gut, and trust yourself and your own judgement. If he doesn't feel comfortable, chances are, your spider senses are correct in that assessment. Some men can be nice guys but just simply not right for you too, and could lead to you feeling discomfort with him. You aren't losing out in not meeting him.
So this is a little bit of a different perspective from those who believe meet ASAP.
The only thing, you will meet alot of men who will lose interest fast if you refuse to meet at his time line. You have to be okay with this and not feel pressured by it.
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