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44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 12:37:44 AM

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Its funny how people think that wisdom comes with age. Im finding that to be not so true. I guess its because I stared out in the lifestyle so late. I was busy raising kids for the most part of my adult life. I have discovered I am not into pain at all. I am more about the control. I like to be dominated. I love the feeling of being told what to do. I dont really know when this started. I just know ive always sought out controlling men. I dont even know why im writing this down. I guess I just had to get it out.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 2:11:19 AM

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Hmmm, I'd say the experience of raising kids is much more valuable than any experience in BDSM.
Having said that, I get the regret... keep on truckin lol. If I only had the space, I'd drive around picking up all you stray subs and give you a home ^_^

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 2:12:45 AM

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I know plenty of foolish older people. And wise younger ones.

You get to choose who you want to be, and you can start at any time.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 2:20:33 AM

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FR: I wouldn't worry about that, life experience is a lot better than just BDSM experience...

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 2:23:44 AM

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I agree. I wouldnt change it for the world.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 3:19:17 AM

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It certainly sounds as though you're developing that wisdom!

I've no doubt there are many good men who'd get real fulfilment from controlling you, and telling you what to do — and who'd be on the same page as you as regards pain. I know that my own feeling is that I don't need to give a woman pain for its own sake, but that I do feel a need to cause her pain, and enjoy causing her pain, in order to discipline her. I'm sure there are many others like me. And of course it can be positively useful if you were controlled in a relationship for you to dislike and fear pain, because that means there can be very meaningful consequences for you if you breach your boundaries, or fail to do as you're told.

You sound great, and I hope there's soon a queue of good dominant men interested in you.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 4:04:03 AM

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there is a sense of "freedom" or doom probably a bit of a mix of it, per se when the kids are grown, you get to evaluate whats next, its a step in the process, confusing...a lil worrying, you will always be a mum , but now you get to do a few things differently. Embrace it, be realistic, learn from the lessons, enjoy it.

I hope you find a good Dom, who is understanding of pain is on the same level as yours.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 4:06:02 AM

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Funny, you're about the same age that I was when I separated and began exploring kink.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 6:01:33 AM

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I think you have been mixing with the wrong set of elders. Wisdom is born of experience of living life not out of intellect.

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RE: 44 and still finding what doesn't work - 1/12/2016 1:52:23 PM

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