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A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 8:15:23 AM   
ilovestarbucks


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hey... im not sure where to post this. i belong to fetlife and i don't want to post this question there because i'm afraid they will delete my account.

there are people there that are sooooooo rude. every post they make makes me shiver.

y do they do that? r they miserable people?
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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 8:20:20 AM   
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Maybe

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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 8:27:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

hey... im not sure where to post this. i belong to fetlife and i don't want to post this question there because i'm afraid they will delete my account.

there are people there that are sooooooo rude. every post they make makes me shiver.

y do they do that? r they miserable people?

I would be more concerned about being deleted here than over there. Besides, have you seen these boards?

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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 9:39:40 AM   
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They constantly delete my profile for protesting regarding:
1. Misbegotten stereotypes.
2. Grotesque caricatures.
I believe you are talking primarily about those two types. Most of the single men are not single and are at it (same everywhere but in greater proportions on these types of sites, or have a fondness for disturbed porn and therefore misrepresentation-BDSM as being the norm. Most of the women are in wonderful relationships yet have all the time in the world to put the boot into people like you; some are in made up relationships, some genuine relationships, some aren’t even women.
3. Fake profiles.
4. Predatory profiles and speeches on forums.
5. A billion stolen images – okay a few million.
6. Lack of verification system.
7. You get the gist etc
8. Bitching about all of the above and eg members, fake members liars, mods caretakers who fulfill any of the above criteria, or defend it.

Ask them to debate any of the above openly on a public forum as fet TOC allow this. None have with me ever. You are banned because you broke blah rule…and we do not give a fuckity about points 1-8 etc, and no you do not have our permission to post our conversation and non reasons for us banning you for being genuine and concerned, nor will we debate anything openly with you as we will look like complete utter assholes who encourage and tolerate; fakes, cheats, liars, predators, deranged advice, stolen images, those preying on the vulnerable.

So points 1-8 tend to flourish as that is the environment. Sad is it not. These are exactly the type of embers that should not be blown on.

Here you will be fine…step out of line is allowed now and then – as is healthy debate and the occasionally tar and feathering.

This is not an anti fetlife rant – all sites have these basic fundamental problems it’s called the internet. However there is room for improvement, roomy room imo.

But I have amassed a lifetime ban because of my pertinent points above, not even fakes, liars, rapists, murderers etc get that. Sick is it not.

I just rejoin (whence I can be bothered) and blog this kinda stuff till I get removed yet again.

I always send eg the above to john baku – no reply ever regarding the above hmmm.

Tars and feathers ilovestarbucks there do you feel better. You are merely confused as to why there are 5 million members and none particularly single and genuine methinks save bitter twisted beings which seems a mathematical improbability

Mail me yer name I will rejoin this eve and add you and count the day/s before they remove me, and read my writings ffs – always the same profile text and my own pictures ;)

And feel free to thread like mad on here it can do with an injection of new genuine blood

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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 10:19:27 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks
hey... im not sure where to post this. i belong to fetlife and i don't want to post this question there because i'm afraid they will delete my account.

there are people there that are sooooooo rude. every post they make makes me shiver.

y do they do that? r they miserable people?

I'll do my best.

While the possibility exists that *some* are miserable people, you also have to remember that they are just plain people. Some are nicer than others, some are harsher than others, and they have their own influences on what is happening on their own side of the screen. For all you know, they had a bad day, are dealing with a terminal illness of a loved one, just got their car repo'd, or a million other things that might give them a different demeanor.

On Fet, they have the TOU that is the site rules, but they also have group rules and anybody can run their group the way they want. Some groups are harsher than others. Some groups will nail you if they say no personal ads and you put one up. Some groups have a lot of OTW (one true way) going on. You get the idea.

Here's what worked for me. I look at the groups my friends join and do some reading. If the group isn't a good fit for me, I'll choose not to join. If I look and I find the conversations interesting, I'll give it a shot. If I find the group isn't quite what I had in mind, I leave the group and look elsewhere.



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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 11:34:39 AM   
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Here's what worked for me. I look at the groups my friends join and do some reading. If the group isn't a good fit for me, I'll choose not to join. If I look and I find the conversations interesting, I'll give it a shot. If I find the group isn't quite what I had in mind, I leave the group and look elsewhere.



This. The leadership of the groups makes all the difference, IMNSHO.

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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 11:44:16 AM   
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There is me and my answer, or the twain above me - no disrespect intended (not that either have a modicum of mine)

harsh times indeed if they are the bestest of their kind is it not,prepare for famine and starvation


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RE: A Question About BDSM Forum - 1/16/2016 1:26:10 PM   
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Ummmmm.... exactly how many of these type people are you talking about out of over 3,000,000 members?

It's the internet -

Not Sunday School ....

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