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ilovestarbucks -> What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/16/2016 6:14:50 PM)

This is my second post on here.

My friend, who I go to college with, introduced me to the world of BDSM. He is several years older than me, he is 24.
He is from southern Italy and a very nice looking man.
Plus, he has charisma. I call it bullshit but women love him. They listen to him talk about himself.
He was living with a beautiful woman. 2:00am he would crawl out the window and go to another girl's apt and have sex with her. He would then come back to his place. He eventually got caught but his live in girlfriend forgave him. He eventually broke up with her.

I am so jealous of him! Wherever he goes women turn their heads and look. They will drop everything just to talk with him. When he talks to women it bores the hell out of me but women like it.

What do you think life is like being handsome like that? Getting the attention of women? Having a beautiful girlfriend?
Life must be wonderful?



stef -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/16/2016 6:33:09 PM)

What does this have to do with BDSM?



MuscleBoundDom -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/16/2016 8:32:58 PM)

I can definitely relate to your friend. From experience, it's not that easy being a handsome man. I get a lot of looks from women and a lot of them are jealous. If I don't respond "hi" back I'm called stuck-up. It's like being a celebrity. You just can't say "hi" to everyone.
Being a handsome man, one needs to be careful who he talks to because a lot of women will stalk you.

Unlike your friend, I don't have that type of charisma and I'm not boring. I'm a very well educated person, in regards to fitness, so I'm an interesting person to listen to.

So, to answer your questions, it's not all cracked up as you would think it to be. Sure, it's an ego booster having women's attention, but that doesn't make you any money or further you in your career. If you are not careful they can sidetrack you.



blackgirls -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/16/2016 11:07:56 PM)

I know men who are neither handsome or ugly that have many girlfriends indeed concubines. There is a regular line waiting too enter the maternity ward. They are lucky one bull and a herd of cows.



SexyThoughts -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 3:23:43 AM)

It has its downsides. Sexy women want time with you, but so do all women and some men, whether you want them or not. In fact the sexier they find you the less they consider your feelings about whether you want them back.

Sex is easy, relationships become impossible
If you have a steady GF, every woman who wants you will try and break you and your GF up by telling you that the other is cheating on you, or kicks puppies, or whatever. And then if one of your GFs cheats on you for real, it becomes impossible to dismiss any claim about your next GF after that.
And if your GF gets insecure about better looking women offering to do things with you she wont, right in front of you or when her back is turned, then she gets insecure and it's marriage and babies to prove your love by the second week. Want a condom, you aren't serious about her. So vicious circles are a thing.
At least with kink and torture you have a better idea who is real on the inside, in the vanilla space you have to judge books by their covers.

If a women stalks a man, it's funnier for society than if a man stalks a woman.

And the same goes for sexual harassment. If a woman boss harasses a junior man it's considered a joke or it's payback for year of men harassing their female staff.
"Booking glitches" turning her booking of two hotel rooms, into one room with one double bed? She can't find the pyjamas she knew she packed she has to sleep naked? Rolling over in her sleep and accidentally grabbing your penis?
And you know if you lodge competing complaints about the other, the guy won't get believed

Even nightclubbing will get you groped on the dancefloor by random strangers, not gently, literally acrylic nails clamped onto your balls.

Being good looking makes more people want to have sex with your body while it's young, but less people caring about your feelings. While ugly guys know that anyone who is in a relationship with them, likes them inside and out, now and in old age.



Nthrall -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 3:40:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: stef

What does this have to do with BDSM?

Beautiful
Dashing
Sexy
Men

(like me)

Umm, I meant I'm like them, not that they like me. Not that they don't like me. They might, but everybody's different, and I'm more interested in beautiful, dashing sexy minxes anyway. Well, not any way, as I do have my preferences, e.g. rich ones.

Hope this helps!



Kana -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 4:18:47 AM)

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What do you think life is like being handsome like that? Getting the attention of women? Having a beautiful girlfriend?
Life must be wonderful?


"I am skin and bones, I am pointy nose;
But it motherfuckin' makes me try."

As usual Perry is right, poppet
Sure, it would likely be nice to look like a young Pierce Brosnan, but that shit ain't needed.
Wanna know what gets the attention of women?
Confidence. Success. Leadership. Attention to detail. Self Assurance. Firmness. Mettle.
The certain je ne sai quoi that comes from being comfortable in ones own skin.

What doesn't attract them, or at least the non toxic, non co-dependent ones, is whining, jealousy, pettiness, creating 10 trillion socks.

I sentence you to watch The Tao of Steve one hundred times and to take detailed notes throughout

Meanwhile, I feel sorry for any creature so pathetic that they find and determine value and happiness by the looks of the slut on their arm.

As Carrie Fisher put it, being young and attractive are not accomplishments

All that said, I wouldn't complain had I a nice Irish accent



SlaveLucille -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 6:15:03 AM)

Being Handsome alone does not make the Man!



CodeOfSilence -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 10:39:27 AM)

I had a pretty damn good physique before I got into this IT-thing a bit too much and I didn't enjoy it too much as I don't like casual sex.
Plus women in those cases almost expected you too bullshit them, yeah it's bullshit. And while I can talk the talk I don't enjoy it as I do not intend to walk the walk.
That made me a bit awkward but what ever social group I was into at that time would get it after some time and it would smoothen itself out. Although that sometimes made me look like a social reject.
People would tell me "You know she's into you?"...Thank god nobody has directly asked me if I'm gay yet. I still remember this terrible trip where I ended up having one on my arm just because they were three and we were three but I had no interest later on so she ended up banging my two mates as well while I lay in the room next trying to sleep for 2 hours while the house was shaking :P that was awkward like hell. Why go so far? I'm paranoid about STDs, kids, drama, don't like sticking my dick into places where 100 other dicks have been.

On the other hand I've had these two m8s (one of them in said scenario) in the past that used to talk about who they banged and how they banged them all the time. They seemed to enjoy it.
I could never get over the fact that women would believe the bullshit these guys would tell them, perhaps they wanted to believe it just to get a good screw and then it didn't matter much anyway.

It depends on what type of person you are !
It kinda sucks now because I do like striking up a casual conversation with people but if I do so with a 9 or a 10 it just looks a bit weird to begin with and I'm not having as much luck anymore :P Gotta hit the gym...


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Confidence. Success. Leadership. Attention to detail. Self Assurance. Firmness. Mettle


I'd say that only works up to a point where you'd better be able to back that up with hard cash or have a really swell personality to add to the mix if you do not have the looks. I mean if you're after some really hot stuff every night you're out.
Learning a few tricks help too; Magic, bar tricks, interesting prop bets, conversation starters in general.



Wayward5oul -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 2:10:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

This is my second post on here.

Your post count says differently.



Wayward5oul -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 2:19:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom
I can definitely relate to your friend. From experience, it's not that easy being a handsome man. I get a lot of looks from women and a lot of them are jealous.

Based on your previous posts, I doubt that the negative looks you are getting are from jealously.

Besides, we've seen your pics.


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Being a handsome man, one needs to be careful who he talks to because a lot of women will stalk you.

Funny. All of your previous posts have been rants about how women just ignore you.


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Unlike your friend, I don't have that type of charisma and I'm not boring. I'm a very well educated person, in regards to fitness, so I'm an interesting person to listen to.

And yet in your previous posts you specifically rant about how women won't listen to you. Seems they lose interest and start playing on their phones when you start talking about fitness.





TieMeInKnottss -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 3:59:49 PM)

Who defines a person as "good looking"? Yes, there is a western standard which even has a mathematical equation to determine someone's attractiveness; however, I find it highly unlikely that you take one man or one woman to the various corners of the earth...everyone will consider them attractive (I once read a book written by a member of the Sudanese Dinka tribe who saw his first Caucasian and believed she was quite ugly....I think he described her as scary because she looked inside out...like her white skeleton was outside her skin)




MuscleBoundDom -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 7:06:36 PM)

@Wayward5oul

I can see that you're one of the few people who constantly abuse the TOS. The OP asked what it's like to be handsome and he is receiving replies. He is not asking, "Would women please criticize handsome men?" As usual, you ignore what the OP is asking, not just on this post, but on others, and giving unwanted replies.

The "price to pay" to post in the forums is you, and your colleagues who abuse the TOS. The benefits are the honest replies and emails we receive.



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 7:25:36 PM)

I have noticed with some surprise that on this thread, and on the profile side, men have forgotten that attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. You don't determine how attractive you are. I believe judgment has been rendered.



Wayward5oul -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/17/2016 9:37:03 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom

@Wayward5oul

I can see that you're one of the few people who constantly abuse the TOS. The OP asked what it's like to be handsome and he is receiving replies. He is not asking, "Would women please criticize handsome men?" As usual, you ignore what the OP is asking, not just on this post, but on others, and giving unwanted replies.

The "price to pay" to post in the forums is you, and your colleagues who abuse the TOS. The benefits are the honest replies and emails we receive.

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Greta75 -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/18/2016 12:48:41 AM)

My two cents.

Good looking men are usually bad in bed.

1) They got women lining up to fuck them all the time or chase them because they want an eye candy male on their arm, and good looking people draws good looking people too, so they will get their choice pick of good looking women

2) Thus they are used to zero effort

3) Usually not interested in giving pleasure

But it is good to be good looking, men or women, there will be advantages especially at first sight. If someone likes how you look, the first ice is already broken and when somebody is bow over by your looks, it is true, you can be boring and it doesn't matter. There are enough people in this world who puts high value to physical appearance for it to be advantageous.

If someone is not good looking, their personality has to really shine and it might take a little more time and effort to make an impression. I think sometimes good looking people can get away with boring, uninteresting personality, at least for a limited period of time, until the people got used to their looks.



Greta75 -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/18/2016 12:59:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

I have noticed with some surprise that on this thread, and on the profile side, men have forgotten that attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. You don't determine how attractive you are. I believe judgment has been rendered.


It doesn't matter if good looking is in the eye of the beholder.

The point is, if someone thinks you are good looking, you will have advantages because that person think you are good looking.

Being good looking to people, have advantages. Facts of life.

Women these days can really control their appearances to appeal with make up and the right hair style.

I think sometimes, some men are so shallow when they are sooo pulled in by a made up face. Makes some crazy women so insecure that they sleep with make up, go jogging in our hot and humid weather in make up. One of my girlfriend was hiking in Malaysia with me which was super overgrowth, jungle, mud fest, and she keeps worrying about her make up! Said she needs to look her best all the time! Like seriously...... I can't believe she hiked in the rough jungle with full eye lash extensions and the whole damn thing.

But it happens.






DaddySatyr -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/18/2016 2:28:29 AM)


I don't know ... life's pretty damned good for me and I am so handsome, I often muse: "Why couldn't I have been born rich, instead of so damned good-looking?!?!"



Michael



NookieNotes -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/18/2016 3:04:41 AM)

I find it fascinating how a post like this brings out so much harm on the part of the men from objectification, and how it also brings out assumptions made about people JUST because they are good looking.

Incredibly sad.



WickedsDesire -> RE: What's Life Like For Really Good Looking Men? (1/18/2016 5:18:31 AM)

Tis a lonely life full of many a cat and yearning of muffin and a forever search in keenest Chardonnay prices. That’s what it’s truly like, before I get into I lie there night after night awake and ponder- sure one cat, from my three, strewn about my bed.

I would never devolve who I am to become like that errant specimen you spake off and I tend to think of them as dangerous huwmans. So its basically a lonely life and we do not fill in the vast voids for the sake of it. Tis what separates men from the boys.

I don't feel sorry for him I feel sorry for everyone he comes into contact with.

Plus, he has charisma. I call it bullshit but women love him.
I have many names and words for that...But you are correct and women are as guilty as they demand prince charming malarkey.

oh dear nookienotes not short in the looks department herself.
Women are more shallow regarding looks and unmitigated bullshit. I know that for a fact I have proven many times - but you never specified women or man :)
Someone once said, and no-one knows who originally said this - beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I always say that few people know how to behold.




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