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cindyluvNY -> Men And Money (2/4/2016 5:15:49 PM)

I saw a post that was deleted and I thought it was interesting. It was about why do men pay women to have lunch with them? I'm not talking about sex or meeting a dominant woman. I've received several emails where men offer me money just to have lunch with them.

What's wrong with these men? All they have to do is put a profile on a dating site and they can take out women for lunch and they won't charge you anything!



MsLadySue -> RE: Men And Money (2/4/2016 5:32:20 PM)

No one has ever offered me money. Guess I don't live right. lol



Greta75 -> RE: Men And Money (2/4/2016 5:34:38 PM)

I think money is just an easy form of control. Also testing waters if this woman can be controlled by money.

I hate receiving oral sex, and men would offer money for me to just lie there and suffer the oral sex from him. And they would promise, nothing else have to happen. I don't have to reciprocate, there doesn't even have to be penetrative sex if I don't want to.

Assumingly, there are supposed to be many women out there who loves receiving oral sex, I always wondered why they even bother. I always told them, if oral sex feels so great for most other women, then they should have no problem offering their oral sex services without having to pay for it with other women!



DocStrange -> RE: Men And Money (2/4/2016 5:58:46 PM)

Maybe they have a fetish for watching women eat?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/29/eating-in-front-of-webcam-south-korea_n_4686596.html




Andalusite -> RE: Men And Money (2/4/2016 7:40:21 PM)

I've never heard of anyone offering to pay someone to go to lunch/dinner with them, are you sure they weren't just offering to pay for your meal?



ilovestarbucks -> RE: Men And Money (2/5/2016 9:01:11 AM)

I've actually deposited money into her paypal account in order to meet her for lunch. But she didn't show up. That happened three times with three different women. I should make a post telling people not to do this.

The reason I pay to meet them is because they are young and sexy and beautiful.



Lucylastic -> RE: Men And Money (2/5/2016 9:11:03 AM)

You already made a post about those three women.
If you do it again, then you will just get ridiculed like you did last time.



WickedsDesire -> RE: Men And Money (2/5/2016 9:48:27 AM)

How many mails do you receive from these men?
I shall call it 10 and not one would ever show up.
So, in actuality, your question is what is wrong about made up words that you seemingly believe?

notes if i went up to 50-100 men then the odd one might show up



DocStrange -> RE: Men And Money (2/5/2016 11:05:50 AM)

I would pay to have lunch with Lucy :)



Lucylastic -> RE: Men And Money (2/5/2016 11:18:47 AM)

You wouldnt have to sweetie:)



MercTech -> RE: Men And Money (2/7/2016 5:57:27 AM)

Ok, you are talking about a hired escort that isn't a euphemism for sexual prostitution.

I can see hiring some congenial company for dinner and conversation that isn't work related. Company for dinner that turns things into an in depth job interview for the position as soul mate in a long term relationship really isn't conductive to fun times.

Somewhere over the last couple of decades, while I was out of the dating pool, going on a date became a forgotten thing. Now a date is too often an agenda filled meeting with half the agenda redacted and classified.

Yeah, I guess I would hire the time of an attractive decent conversationalist.



Cinnamongirl67 -> RE: Men And Money (2/7/2016 6:55:57 AM)

Unless I as advertising for such a lunch I would find it very bizarre and creepy.
To me it screams "I'm desperate!"
It reminds me of a weird man pulling up to children in a car and offering them candy to get in.
[:'(]



WickedsDesire -> RE: Men And Money (2/7/2016 8:13:08 AM)

My apologies my answer is incomplete or it could have been better…albeit it is actually true..but was part an answer.

Sometimes they wish company on their terms – no knob gobbling need be involved.
Sometimes they feel; alone, isolated, mundane by their partner/environment
Other times they are just horny sleazebags

Think I have covered the spectrum



LadyPact -> RE: Men And Money (2/8/2016 4:32:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cindyluvNY
What's wrong with these men?

In my opinion, quite often, these men fall into three categories.

The version of "fin kink is really my gig" guy. These are the guys who really get off on giving money to certain types of women. They are handing control over in the form of cash/monetary exchange.

The "sweetening the deal/beating the competition" guy. These are the guys hoping that they will get the lunch (or whatever) date because they are sweetening the deal over and above the ten other guys who have also tried to get a lunch date this week. They know that competition is fierce and just offering to pay for lunch is the same thing that everyone else offers, so they make it lunch plus X to get the woman to be more likely to accept his lunch date rather than some other male.

The "emotionally stunted/feel he has to give gifts/money/etc to be liked" guy. AKA the tries to buy affection guy. These are people who have the psychological issue, either real or contrived, that no one wants to be around them unless they "buy" the other person's companionship. These tend to be hollow people who have issues that relate to experiences in not being liked/loved for who they are, so they try to even the playing field with money or gifts to make up for their shortcomings. In their adult life, they have learned that money and/or gifts gets people to like them.




littleclip -> RE: Men And Money (2/8/2016 7:03:25 PM)

i would make a NY style cheese cake supreme and invite any one to sare it. i like to bake and make new friends



ilovestarbucks -> RE: Men And Money (2/8/2016 7:03:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
The "emotionally stunted/feel he has to give gifts/money/etc to be liked" guy. AKA the tries to buy affection guy. These are people who have the psychological issue, either real or contrived, that no one wants to be around them unless they "buy" the other person's companionship. These tend to be hollow people who have issues that relate to experiences in not being liked/loved for who they are, so they try to even the playing field with money or gifts to make up for their shortcomings. In their adult life, they have learned that money and/or gifts gets people to like them.
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I've been reading a lot of posts on this site and fetlife. I also read relationship forums on other sites. a lot of guys think that they have to provide a service or product in order to get the woman interested in him. a lot of women feel that the only way they can get a guy interested in her is to provide too. a lot of women say, "is the only thing I'm good for is sex?"

so a lot of men and women believe "no one wants to be around them unless they do whatever.." its just the way things are now.



LadyPact -> RE: Men And Money (2/8/2016 7:46:52 PM)

Thank you for validating point #2.



AnglFlw -> RE: Men And Money (2/8/2016 8:11:15 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

so a lot of men and women believe "no one wants to be around them unless they do whatever.." its just the way things are now.


Does "be an interesting human being" count as "doing whatever?"

Because duh...

Although, there seem to be quite a few people incapable of that. Before the internet, nobody knew they existed.



TNDommeK -> RE: Men And Money (2/9/2016 8:04:29 AM)

I have asked men this question before and some responded with they would like to have company while they eat. And instead of going through the motions of getting to know a person, they would rather just pay someone one. A few have told me they don't like eating alone and they have no one. I don't see anything wrong with it. I also don't feel it's being controlled by money, as a person can always say no. So technically they have the control.



AtUrCervix -> RE: Men And Money (2/10/2016 3:45:39 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: cindyluvNY

I saw a post that was deleted and I thought it was interesting. It was about why do men pay women to have lunch with them? I'm not talking about sex or meeting a dominant woman. I've received several emails where men offer me money just to have lunch with them.

What's wrong with these men? All they have to do is put a profile on a dating site and they can take out women for lunch and they won't charge you anything!


What's "wrong" with these men is....women control the game.

(It's really....entirely....that simple).



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