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ORIGINAL: minionno1

Also picked up a scented candle for the table. We have talked about trying something with fire and wax so I thought it would be romantic and a small nod to that. It's also a chance to discuss what scents she likes for future reference.

Unless there is a special brand out there, scented candles are not suitable for doing wax play, and colored candles may not be either.
Some may burn much hotter with additives than what is safe for skin contact.

You cannot go wrong with plain, natural white paraffin.

Keep the scented candle talk vanilla, let her take the lead with that before chiming in.
The same with BDSM-friendly household items you might have (wooden spoons, spatula, wooden hairbrush, clothespins, brand new feather duster, etc.)

This must be a fairly new relationship. Treat it like any other newly developing romantic relationship, other than the protocols she establishes that you agree to follow.

Best of Luck,

Lisa & Cub

ETA: Just saw Code's post. Use the flowers as a decorative centerpiece on the table. No note needed, and problem solved.

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So? How did it go?

Between you and I, actually TRAVELING to another person's residence is a big deal. I consider it one of my love languages. I only do it when I'm smitten with a submissive male.

The first night I spent at tk's place, he was very much like you. He worked his tail off cleaning his entire place. He wanted everything to be perfect.

Even today, I sit here and smile about it. The guy who asked me on a real date. Held my hand and looked at me 'that' way.

If you have that, you've won her heart.

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Flowers are if ever given by the host as a farewell gift, never as a welcome gift. It is absolutely nonsensical and breaks with all established etiquette.

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Hello everyone!

I'm having a creative meltdown trying to come up with something to write on a card going with some flowers to my domme. Could some of you lovely ladies help jump start my brain with examples of what messages your subs have sent you? Or if you have any good ideas.

Edit: I thought it prudent to explain this isn't an attempt to cop out. This is the first time she will be coming to my place. I've completely rearranged the furniture, spent most of the day cleaning, looked up recipes for something she will enjoy, picked up some new sheets and towels if she decides to stay over as she has hinted at, even replaced my curtains, and picked up the flowers. So, yeah, I'm putting in quite a bit of work. The creative juices just aren't flowing at the moment. :(

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ORIGINAL: CodeOfSilence
Flowers are if ever given by the host as a farewell gift, never as a welcome gift. It is absolutely nonsensical and breaks with all established etiquette.

Do you know, like, anything about the lifestyle? This isn't a neighborhood dinner.

1) "established etiquette" would say that a Domme/sub relationship is weird, taboo, etc. So why would he ever want to consider "established etiquette"?
2) Often, gifts are given by subs to Dommes for no damn reason whatsoever.

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ORIGINAL: CodeOfSilence

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

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ORIGINAL: CodeOfSilence
Flowers are if ever given by the host as a farewell gift, never as a welcome gift. It is absolutely nonsensical and breaks with all established etiquette.

Do you know, like, anything about the lifestyle? This isn't a neighborhood dinner.

1) "established etiquette" would say that a Domme/sub relationship is weird, taboo, etc. So why would he ever want to consider "established etiquette"?
2) Often, gifts are given by subs to Dommes for no damn reason whatsoever.

That's stupid and ignorant. And I don't associate with stupid people but especially not with those that willfully remain ignorant whether or not they are in BDSM or not doesn't matter.

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ORIGINAL: minionno1

Hello everyone!

I'm having a creative meltdown trying to come up with something to write on a card going with some flowers to my domme. Could some of you lovely ladies help jump start my brain with examples of what messages your subs have sent you? Or if you have any good ideas.

Edit: I thought it prudent to explain this isn't an attempt to cop out. This is the first time she will be coming to my place. I've completely rearranged the furniture, spent most of the day cleaning, looked up recipes for something she will enjoy, picked up some new sheets and towels if she decides to stay over as she has hinted at, even replaced my curtains, and picked up the flowers. So, yeah, I'm putting in quite a bit of work. The creative juices just aren't flowing at the moment. :(

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So? How did it go?

Between you and I, actually TRAVELING to another person's residence is a big deal. I consider it one of my love languages. I only do it when I'm smitten with a submissive male.

The first night I spent at tk's place, he was very much like you. He worked his tail off cleaning his entire place. He wanted everything to be perfect.

Even today, I sit here and smile about it. The guy who asked me on a real date. Held my hand and looked at me 'that' way.

If you have that, you've won her heart.

It went amazing. :)

I don't want to tell everything and I know there are things she didn't notice, but it was all worth it. The shrimp pasta came out a touch spicier than intended, but she likes spicy food. I recently put a led bulb with a speaker in a pendant light that looks like a cloud and streamed rainymood to it for some light ambient noise. She decided to play some of my games while I prepared dinner for her. After eating I gave her a massage while we watched one of her favorite movies - she enjoyed that enough that I'm keeping the massage oil in my car for when she wants me to come by after work. Eventually we got around to some ice cream for dessert. She did end up spending the night too and decided to leave her spare toothbrush in my bathroom. I suspect I will be playing host quite often.

As for play... Well that's not something a gentleman shares. :)

Oh, and I realized the card said "thinking of you" in the top left corner so I ended up adding "makes me smile".