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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

What this shows you is that when you aren't presenting yourself as looking for sex, you get viewed as a decent human being.
We're all able to make that distinction and to respond only to people who don't give us those creepy vibes and to delete those who do without comment.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

So, this was interesting. I was looking at the "Newest Local Users" the other day. One of the users was a woman who is less than half my age and a FinDomme. Neither of these appeal to me, but she posed a question in her profile that I felt I had some insight into. And so I sent her a note with my thoughts. I also explained my tastes (didn't want to lead her on). And you know what happened?

SHE WROTE BACK!

And the conversation continued for several more emails. Someone who is specifically here to make money, and knowing that she wasn't going to get a cent out of me, still took the time to communicate with me. I wasn't "wasting [her] time" (as I've heard indirectly from many).

Contrast that with the numerous times when I have expressed interest in a woman, or even just paid her a compliment, and never heard back a single word. And this rudeness gets justified for 101 "reasons", which I always felt were lame, but become flat-out ridiculous in light of this lady's actions.

So hang in there, folks. There actually are some people who were taught manners.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez
Contrast that with the numerous times when I have expressed interest in a woman, or even just paid her a compliment, and never heard back a single word. And this rudeness gets justified for 101 "reasons", which I always felt were lame, but become flat-out ridiculous in light of this lady's actions.

So hang in there, folks. There actually are some people who were taught manners.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

Contrast that with the numerous times when I have expressed interest in a woman, or even just paid her a compliment, and never heard back a single word. And this rudeness gets justified for 101 "reasons", which I always felt were lame, but become flat-out ridiculous in light of this lady's actions.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
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In other words, there might be an advantage to answering your email because the contact could pay off at a later date.
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It's just that in her evaluation of emails, she, like everybody else, answered the ones that could have an advantage to her now or at a later date.
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ORIGINAL: littleladybug
Please explain to me why I have any sort of obligation to respond to unsolicited messages.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez

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ORIGINAL: littleladybug
Please explain to me why I have any sort of obligation to respond to unsolicited messages.

Please explain to me why you bothered to ask a question for which you want no answer.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez
If that reasoning doesn't set off alarms bells in your head, I'll never be able to explain it.

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Please explain to me why you bothered to ask a question for which you want no answer.

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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit

The belief that women are polite and respond to men that are polite is patently false.

Women are human beings, not another species. They are almost EXACTLY like men. This means that most of them pick who they respond to for exactly the same shallow, bad reasons that men pick women.

Yes, there are a few good women out there that will reply to men that write great emails. But most women don't care how brilliant you are in an email. They make their decisions based on factors that are just as shallow as men do.

Height is the most common constraint, but there are others.

The simplest way for a woman to get a man to write to her is to post a fake picture. The simplest way to get a woman to reply is to lie about your height. Neither work out in the long term.

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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
Yes, there are a few good women out there that will reply to men that write great emails (depending on what she considers to be a "great" or well-written message, because meaningful is more important than whatever a man considers to be impressive from his standpoint). But most women don't care how brilliant you are in an email if you are writing a message which impresses only your own self [unless you're like moi, who sometimes can't resist imparting some much-needed advice for a man's own good on how to improve his approach].

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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
They make their decisions based on factors that are just as shallow as men do.

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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
Height is the most common constraint, but there are others.

Also guilty as charged. I just can't make myself feel sexually attracted to a man who is either too short or too tall for me. But, I will allow for an inch shorter than what I would prefer, if that inch gets compensated elsewhere.

Most guys fudge 3 things, which is ironic considering how literal-minded these same guys usually are. Literal, as in hung up on FACTS, on the provable, the observable.
For some strange reason, they can measure objects with precision but get brain freeze when it comes to their own anatomical measurements, being an average of an inch off in two places.
This is never on the short end of the stick either.

(Btw, the third thing is income and/or job title [level of professional responsibility], but that's the least of my concerns in the overall picture.)

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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
The simplest way for a woman to get a man to write to her is to post a fake picture. The simplest way to get a woman to reply is to lie about your height. Neither work out in the long term.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Since you very specifically said in one of the options that the guy has an office, so he is obviously a co-worker, I'll go with A. Here's your explanation.

If that person actually works with me, he is a part of said company, which means he is potentially someone that I have to work with. Whatever he does within the office and whatever I do have the potential to be necessary to interact at sometime on something business related. Meaning the stuff that comes into play with earning my paycheck.

Yep. Looking at it like that completely explains why she may have written back where I wouldn't.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez
So am I just a dumbass redneck who returns greetings with no expectation of future benefit?

Or are you doubling down rather than conceding that maybe, just maybe, I might have half a point?