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Lovestocum4u2 -> tired of games here. (2/21/2016 9:01:19 AM)

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection. she is not a door mat, she is a wonderful human being with a sense of humor, and the need to submit. she does not know how she will get through today but she will and tomorrow will be just that another tomorrow.Another chance to find what she needs.


To the one today you know who you are..the feelings that are going through me today are betrayal, violated, used, manipulated, emotionally raped and just plain hurt.



mechski -> RE: tired of games here. (2/21/2016 9:14:08 AM)

Hey,
I hope you feel better soon.
quote:

ORIGINAL: Lovestocum4u2

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection. she is not a door mat, she is a wonderful human being with a sense of humor, and the need to submit. she does not know how she will get through today but she will and tomorrow will be just that another tomorrow.Another chance to find what she needs.


To the one today you know who you are..the feelings that are going through me today are betrayal, violated, used, manipulated, emotionally raped and just plain hurt.




WickedsDesire -> RE: tired of games here. (2/21/2016 11:11:22 AM)

The same clone you be and you operate many other usernames




DesFIP -> RE: tired of games here. (2/21/2016 3:50:11 PM)

Then learn to pick better partners.
You are the only common denominator in all your relationships.



Cinnamongirl67 -> RE: tired of games here. (2/21/2016 4:26:54 PM)

Sounds like a first class d*ckhead.
Kick him to the curb.
Lots of fish in the deep blue sea.
Hope you feel better soon.



SuaveGentleman -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 4:55:20 AM)

Sorry to hear your plight, hope it gets better and you meet someone who deserves you.

Just a note though - this is a common fate of many who search in this lifestyle, particularly online. Been through it myself.



OsideGirl -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 11:09:46 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Then learn to pick better partners.
You are the only common denominator in all your relationships.

Agreed, and why would "she" submit to someone she hasn't met and doesn't know?

So, pick better partners, have better boundaries and enforce them.



BitaTruble -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 11:56:20 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Then learn to pick better partners.
You are the only common denominator in all your relationships.




There may not have been a better option for her. She may have, in fact, chosen the best which was available to her.

OP - call your girlfriends over, put on a chick flick, man bash for the night with a bottle of moonshine or whatever then go out tomorrow and conquer the world.

You didn't even meet him.

Oh, and change your screen name for crying out loud. Better bait.. better fish. ::wink::




OsideGirl -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 12:52:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


Oh, and change your screen name for crying out loud. Better bait.. better fish. ::wink::



I was thinking the same thing.

Part of the problem is that she contradicts herself - Her profile makes it clear that she thinks D/s is about sexual service and play, but then says this
quote:


D/s is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally.
So, I'm willing to bet that part of the problem is that she doesn't have a realistic vision of what she wants in a relationship. Combine that with a lack of boundaries and you get a revolving door of "Doms".



FelineRanger -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 12:57:52 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Then learn to pick better partners.
You are the only common denominator in all your relationships.


Isn't this always the case when someone starts complaining about how "Every partner I meet is some kind of fucked up"?



Cinnamongirl67 -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 1:25:22 PM)

I haven't looked at your profile.
I agree with the ladies who said a better name will serve what you are Looking for a lot better. You will weed out a lot of jackasses.



smartsub10 -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 1:46:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

The same clone you be and you operate many other usernames




This reply deserves my world famous lemon muffins.



DesFIP -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 3:55:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

There may not have been a better option for her. She may have, in fact, chosen the best which was available to her.



Mr Wrong is not the right choice just because there's no Mr Right around

Playing publicly and not getting into a bad relationship is always a better option



DesFIP -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 3:56:37 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Then learn to pick better partners.
You are the only common denominator in all your relationships.




There may not have been a better option for her. She may have, in fact, chosen the best which was available to her.

OP - call your girlfriends over, put on a chick flick, man bash for the night with a bottle of moonshine or whatever then go out tomorrow and conquer the world.

You didn't even meet him.

Oh, and change your screen name for crying out loud. Better bait.. better fish. ::wink::






Greta75 -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 8:40:50 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lovestocum4u2

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection. she is not a door mat, she is a wonderful human being with a sense of humor, and the need to submit. she does not know how she will get through today but she will and tomorrow will be just that another tomorrow.Another chance to find what she needs.


To the one today you know who you are..the feelings that are going through me today are betrayal, violated, used, manipulated, emotionally raped and just plain hurt.

I have a suggestion. How about telling him to meet first, BEFORE submitting.

Don't play this silly online submission thing! Get to know him as a human being first, meet with him first, then decide whether you want to submit to him!

I think the problem here is your strategy of finding a dom! First of all, anybody who is happily playing your online Dominant, is probably not serious.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: tired of games here. (2/22/2016 8:48:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lovestocum4u2

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection. she is not a door mat, she is a wonderful human being with a sense of humor, and the need to submit. she does not know how she will get through today but she will and tomorrow will be just that another tomorrow.Another chance to find what she needs.


To the one today you know who you are..the feelings that are going through me today are betrayal, violated, used, manipulated, emotionally raped and just plain hurt.

Dafuq?



crazyml -> RE: tired of games here. (2/23/2016 5:47:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lovestocum4u2

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet.


So... the first sentence was moving. The second really tugged at those heart strings. But then the third sentence came- where it turns out that you di all this "giving" of "everything" you have emotionally to a dude you'd not met. Oh blimey.

quote:



she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection.



Bingo. This is a really valuable lesson.

quote:



she is not a door mat, she is a wonderful human being with a sense of humor, and the need to submit. she does not know how she will get through today but she will and tomorrow will be just that another tomorrow.Another chance to find what she needs.


Good - focus on this,

quote:



To the one today you know who you are..the feelings that are going through me today are betrayal, violated, used, manipulated, emotionally raped and just plain hurt.


Oh my. Pull your flipping socks up. You hadn't even met the dude.



ResidentSadist -> RE: tired of games here. (2/23/2016 11:48:58 PM)

What's wrong with a doormat?

-=Ode to My Doormat=-
You know, I am freaking tired of the prejudice against doormats. I love my doormat and it performs a vital function in my house. It is decorative and pretty to look at. It says “welcome” to my guests and makes them feel I care about them by having one. It shows respect for my house by letting you wipe your feet on it if they are dirty. It even dries your feet when they are wet. My house and my porch just wouldn’t be the same without a good doormat!

Metaphorically ... same can be true for a good slave.

ETA: my bad for sidetracking. I now return you to the original scheduled topic.



LadyPact -> RE: tired of games here. (2/24/2016 4:48:53 AM)

I'm going to get hate mail.

If you don't want to be involved in the game, don't sign up to play. Unless this guy was an actual criminal, meeting the criteria of something you could go to the cops about (*disclaimer, I am not a member of the 'go to the cops or it doesn't count brigade) at what point did you not enter whatever this was, willingly? This is one of the potential outcomes of the game or did you expect a guaranteed win?

Don't sign up for the same game again. Kick this particular player to the curb the way you would a pathological liar. Meet somebody worth your time and affections.



Curmudgeonly1 -> RE: tired of games here. (2/24/2016 5:31:04 AM)

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