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ORIGINAL: ofercumen
New to this, don't know what i am, just always fascinated with this lifestile

looking for a kinky secretary, someone i can spank?

to the forum side of the site. It might be better to post what you're seeking in the Looking for Naughty Love section rather than here or under Artisans (unless you're planning to pay wages for a "secretary.")

If you don't mind my saying (and I'm not going there with your choice of main profile pic), describing yourself as "very bland" is not really advisable. Perhaps you are. I don't know any female submissives or BDSM bottoms who are seeking a bland spanking Top.
There are techniques to learn with administering spankings, starting with warm-ups, and making sure that you stay on the fleshy parts. If you haven't already done so, you might want to watch how experienced spanking Tops conduct their scenes at a BDSM venue.

Whether you're Topping or Domming, it's your responsibility as a Dominant to take responsibility for yourself and for your actions before you try to take responsibility for another.