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betataster -> Getting around to this (2/26/2016 5:39:31 AM)

Greetings everyone.

First thing, let me mention that my profile is hidden for reasons I will get into shortly.

I'm a 63 year old hetero male with submissive inclinations. I live in South Florida. I came to the site after some soul searching about how I wanted to live my life going forward. I decided that I wanted to be true to myself sexually. I've never had a D/s or fetish relationship. I was married to a wonderful but very vanilla woman for years. And I have a very close family member that has been Into the scene for decades, a vendor at many of the large fetish cons though not in the last few years.

Not going to get into too much right now, except to explain my profile. My profile included a lot of opening up of my soul. It included normal Facebook-type pictures of me. It was intended to communicate to a real person that wanted a real relationship. And it worked fine. I have less than a week on here and within a few days of starting, I had real connections with a number of people and a couple of them that were moving forward. One of them has blossomed and I informed the others of the case and they wished me luck. Adults all the way around. I hid my profile because it serves no further purpose in its present form. I'm not here to strut like a peacock, bare my soul for a crumb of attention, or anything else other than find a long term female led relationship and have engaging discussion with others of similar interests.

I enjoy communication, especially open communication on this lifestyle as I repressed my interest in it for a very very long time and it is wonderful to be able to communicate openly.

That is all for now. Look forward to some good interchange. I love to communicate with insightful Dommes on any subject but please be aware that I will not be following any capitalization protocols nor adopting a subservient attitude with folks whom I am not having a more personal relationship than forum posting. I am very Alpha in my lifestyle and in my heart though I seek to submit to a strong female, a Goddess if you will. I will respect everyone here and address them in the manner by which they let me know they prefer to be addressed.

And as a final note, for those of you who haven't tried it, using the voice dictation app or button on your device keyboard makes posting long and rambling posts such as this this one pretty easy. You will have to go back in and make corrections, especially until you learn how the device responds to your voice. I'm doing this on a phone and that is a bit of a PITA but much easier than typing out all this wordiness and always, of course, hit Select All and copy before hitting submit post.



dreamlady -> RE: Getting around to this (2/28/2016 7:15:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: betataster
First thing, let me mention that my profile is hidden for reasons I will get into shortly.
[sm=welcome.gif]to the forums. It's good to see that you've been getting the hang of things in such a short amount of time.

Fwiw, I'd like to make a suggestion about your hidden profile on a couple of fronts. It really does help fellow forum posters to be able to click onto your profile to see where your point of view may be coming from. I know it does for me, and we can't be expected to remember that you're a 63-year-old straight male sub from Miami, FL. A forum member who may want to shoot you off a quick note of encouragement, or reach you by private message, might interpret a hidden profile as signifying that you don't want to be contacted by site members no matter for what purpose.

You've explained your reasons for putting your profile on hide after only a week, and that's totally up to you. Sometimes, folks need to take a break, go on hiatus, whatever.
What I would like to point out is that you might want to reconsider your move.
If you've been in communications with a Domme, and ostensibly have no intention of wanting to communicate with others, you could be sending the wrong message with that maneuver as well.
Instead of being flattered that you are devoting the focus of your attention to one lady (before you had even met her), it could be off-putting or seen as presumptuous.
I'm telling you this because of what I recently posted about a presumptuous male sub. I was not flattered. It struck me as a sign of impulsive behavior, an interpersonal faux pas, as lack of self-control & self-discipline even in terms of mismatched expectation levels, as putting the cart before the horse.

DreamLady



WickedsDesire -> RE: Getting around to this (3/1/2016 9:39:15 AM)

this is clone man..some of you refer to this git as a sock he has 63 profiles at my last count...he has claimed to me he has over 1000s and have no reason to dispute its arse spraying mayhem



betataster -> RE: Getting around to this (3/3/2016 2:32:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

this is clone man..some of you refer to this git as a sock he has 63 profiles at my last count...he has claimed to me he has over 1000s and have no reason to dispute its arse spraying mayhem


Oh hai, wicked s. Good to see you over here saying hello! I like you wicked s, you have a type and degree of random that I find quite interesting. I can only hope that it is not chemically induced. That would be a shame. In any event, wicked s, please, carry on.



betataster -> RE: Getting around to this (3/3/2016 2:42:29 PM)


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ORIGINAL: dreamlady


quote:

ORIGINAL: betataster
First thing, let me mention that my profile is hidden for reasons I will get into shortly.
[sm=welcome.gif]to the forums. It's good to see that you've been getting the hang of things in such a short amount of time.

Fwiw, I'd like to make a suggestion about your hidden profile on a couple of fronts.
...


Hi DreamLady, and thanks for the welcome. Your points regarding my profile are well made and are duly noted. I hid my profile when the phone conversations with one perspective Domme took a decidedly kinky turn. I did not tell her and when she found out I had, she was happy and said she would have told me to do that anyway. When that relationship fizzled due to some irreconcilable differences, I reopened negotiations (laugh) with another Domme that I had put on hold in my best gentlemanly manner, which can be pretty gentlemanly indeed. She was gracious enough to allow me to reenter the introductory phase and we are finding that we are hitting it off pretty well, a much better match for me than the previous. My profile never came up in our discussions. I will probably put my profile back up, minus the personal pictures and with perhaps some editing, in the near future.

PS, apologize for not responding to you sooner but, since this was my first post, I apparently did not have the auto subscribe turned on.



betataster -> RE: Getting around to this (3/3/2016 4:10:30 PM)

My profile is no longer hidden.



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