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Tantalust -> RE: Male, Female, Trans.....what about Intersex ? (3/4/2016 3:10:15 PM)
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ORIGINAL: YBunny
Tantalust, I also have issues with sites lacking the ability to accurately identify members. I'm intersexed, but in early childhood was surgically altered to have male looking genitals, in puberty, I developed breasts and never developed an adams apple, yet what ever wacky hormones I grew up with, I ended up at 5'11" and rather large framed fro a gal. To complicate things further, since I was already given a genital altering surgery, I do not qualify for SRS that so many MtF transsexuals have available to them.
I find that it's not just how web developers set up their sites, but many in the community can not handle how my anatomy is different. The worst are lesbians. I found many who recognized me as being just a feminine as they were, to the point where that were ready to pack their UHaul and move in. Often these gals would express distress for their partner wearing a strap-on not being able to feel anything through the shaft of plastic. When I then explain how I'm different, the sh*t hits the fan, I unanimously hear the very same words every time "But, I'm Lesbian" and I never hear from them again. So much for any relationship with a gal describing herself as a lesbian, all they care about is one and only one body part.
I'm sure there will be many lesbians who would take issue with what I wrote above, but just try to prove me wrong - I can't count the number of gals who freaked.
My search now is for bisexual gals who are open to and comfortable with both genders
Ybunny you have my deepest and honest sympathies for what the medical profession did to you for I am aware of what they do, where I believe it is the WHO has now labelled such as akin to torture and is seriously discouraging the practice, the practice of medics playing god where no doubt there is experimentation in the act, curious though many that have been messed about by these medical creatures can't find their med records to find out exactly what was done to them, they always seem to be missing as if the medical profession has something to hide.
But what you represent is the other side of the intersex equation to what I am, where were there are campaigns to halt such practices, with our side of the equation, the chromasomally intersexed, well there are some of us, in fact most of whom are male identifying they seek surgery for the removal of breasts and testosterne therapy to make them more manly looking and acting. Those of us of whom aren't male identifying, roughly twenty percent most often we are just cut off from any life improving treatment as if we don't exist, where is it a surprise most transition to female where what we are we are said to be eighty times more likely to seek transition than the standard male.
Though I am not entirely sure I originated with just dodgy sex chromosomes as there is some history of genital surgery when I was way young, surgery my parents are still keeping tight lipped about and of course no med records, imagine their horror when I said I remember some of it, they said given my age at the time I can't possibly until I described the memory. They were not impressed for me to find out about the chromosomes either and are still not understanding of my elation at finding out.
And yeah I know about the trials and tribulations of finding partners, I call myself Tantalust on here for a reason after the mythical Tantalus, where if anyone knows the myth they will know what Tantalus had to endure for eternity.
But good Ybunny for coming out and contributing to this thread for it serves to make readers aware of us, both sides of us, where we can only hope there is a better future for intersex people by our speaking out.
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