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punishment box - 3/1/2016 2:44:58 AM   
feralkitten


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Status: offline 		My husband and I are exploring negative reinforcement for the sake of behavior modification. We have mostly explored positive reinforcement in the past, with my having my masochistic needs explored as a sort of reward for pleasing behavior.

My punishment experience lies somewhere between fantasy/roleplay to in scene, impromptu slaps and the like. One idea we like is writing different punishments down on cards to put in a box. I have several ideas ranging from mundane (corner time/ chores) to kinda fun (orgasm restriction/ rope harness under clothes in public)to extreme and unmentionable.

Dominant types: Do you utilize punishment? How? What kind? Why? To what end?

Submissive types: What sort of punishments would you expect to find in a box such as that? What sorts of punishments have you experienced? Were they effective?

Has anyone tried the box idea or similar variant?
What are some other ways one might encourage behavior modifications?
Links to threads where this topic has been discussed are welcome, as are website links, if allowed.

I'll try to keep quiet unless questioned or addressed. Thanks in advance for any potential replies.
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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 4:40:02 AM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		We have very different idea's about wot a "punishment box" is.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yl4-b91QgnQ

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 4:53:44 AM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		ug clicked on link, bad music, been a long time since I seen that movie

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 7:34:22 AM   
satanscharmer


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Status: offline 		I was thinking along the same lines as ET.
This reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend. She mentioned a couple she knew that owned a carpeted box. I already knew the answer, but asked her that they used it for and she replied for punishments. I asked her why, she replied "because some people are into that". I laughed and said "no, why is it made with carpet? If it's for a punishment, why line it with carpet?".

If you search "punishment" you'll probably get quite a few threads. Here's one:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4783420/mpage_1/tm.htm

I haven't seen the idea box mentioned before. It seems like it could be a fun game for some couples to play for funishments, much like the naughty dice, but I'm not sure how effective it would be for punishments. Especially if the box contained things you actually enjoy, knowing there is a chance you may not hate the punishment would, I would think, be positive reinforcement for negative behavior.

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 7:37:08 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Different terminology. It's not a punishment box. It's a wish jar. Stuff one side or the other wants to experience for whatever reason.

If I'm punishing a person, this is not my method.


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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 7:42:06 AM   
littleclip


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Status: offline 		each person has diffrent things that work best for them one that is very good for me is being ignored or not included. just the look of disapointment from my owner is enough to chasten me

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 7:55:40 AM   
littleladybug


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Status: offline 		So, you, as the s-type in the relationship, are essentially going to be picking your own punishment?

We do not have a punishment dynamic- but, if we did, I would expect that I would not have a say in what it was, through cards or otherwise.

The cards might be useful for "funishment", but I don't imagine that any real behavior modification would come from them.


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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 7:58:09 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		I have CFS (it has many names) I am punished daily for a seemingly eternal amount of my time and call it my bedroom/bed. Now that's what I call punishment.

Being ravaged by a wilde pack of stampeding nymphomaniacs recently escaped from the local nymphorium - not so much.

Note the non subtle difference between the two. I have many ideas..but there is not enough of you here for me to impart my notions.

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 1:43:28 PM   
feralkitten


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

We have very different idea's about wot a "punishment box" is.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yl4-b91QgnQ



Not necessarily. I thought the double entendre was cute.

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 1:53:48 PM   
feralkitten


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Status: offline 		Kind of, littleladybug. I will submit ideas, to be approved by him, and he can add his own.

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RE: punishment box - 3/1/2016 1:57:30 PM   
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quote:

What sort of punishments would you expect to find in a box such as that?

None, it seems a silly waste of time to me, but hey whatever floats your boat.
quote:

What sorts of punishments have you experienced?

None, I am all grown up and do what I agree to do so don't get "punished"


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RE: punishment box - 3/3/2016 11:51:41 PM   
HisForLife71


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Status: offline 		No. I am not a masochist so he only ever needs one type of punishment, which is bare hand spanking. In almost a year, I am only now due my second punishment.
Letting him down in any way is the biggest punishment me, but of course he gives me a proper one to remind me who's in charge and how disobedience or negative behaviour will not be tolerated.
He does not need any equipment or collection of tools for that.

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RE: punishment box - 3/8/2016 10:15:43 PM   
Tweetybird86


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Status: offline 		I have always had some form of a punishment jar or box. A lot of what went in there depended on what I did not like. I am a painslut but there are a few things I don't like, So in the past who I was owned by would use the things I didn't like, they also would put ones in to take away things I like to eat for a time or things I hated to eat but I would have to, writing lines, corner time, running laps, kneeling on rice spilt peas or legos, cold showers or baths, stuff like that. I hope this helps you out.

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RE: punishment box - 3/8/2016 11:21:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I could never be in a punishment dynamic. That's me, just the way I roll. I figure that by the age of 53 I've got my shit down. I'm not a brat, if I make a mistake, that's exactly what it is. I expect to be corrected, shown how to do whatever it is properly. I'm a pretty quick study.

For me, there's no worse punishment than knowing I disappointed my Dom.

As for the popcorn bit, if it's in my best interest to change my dietary habits, I'm going to see a doctor first. Dom dude is coming with. Then we go from there.

Disclaimer: I'm live in Ontario Canada, so free health care.

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RE: punishment box - 3/9/2016 7:15:15 AM   
HisForLife71


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

I'm not a brat, if I make a mistake, that's exactly what it is. I expect to be corrected, shown how to do whatever it is properly. I'm a pretty quick study.

For me, there's no worse punishment than knowing I disappointed my Dom.




Abso-frickin-lutely agree.

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