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Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 2:24:00 PM

bellasubmissive

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ADVICE SUBS LOOKING FOR DOMS
After searching for some time, for a Daddy, I have realised that along the journey it is a road paved with good intentions, but the diversions along the way are many.
I have met 5 Doms in person, and one over the phone. They say the road to Hell is paved with good intentions actually.

What I have realised is, CS attracts some interesting people,
1. Fantasisers
2. Psycopaths/Sociopaths
3. Misogynists
4. Drifters
5. Save me types who are more needy than Subs
6. Subbies who think that saying they are a Dom makes them one
7. Doormat men pretending they are powerful
8. Bored married men
9. Narcissists
10. Control freaks
11. Game players

On the positive side of things I have spoken to some really genuine lovely men on here.
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I am a professional sex worker in my vanilla life.

Some suggestions for men from a professional sex worker for meeting ladies

Have clean stain free teeth
I you have missing teeth get them replaced
Have a shower before you meet
Have clean hair
Wear Deodorant and not too much aftershave
Tell a lady beforehand if you are married or Poly
Wear clean clothes
Present yourself in nice clothes
You expect subs to be immaculate, well you should be too
Talk on the phone first so she knows you are genuine
Do not expect her to be completely submissive before you meet
Have a protocol so that she feels safe when you first meet ( and after)
You can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear, so the sub and Dom must have standards

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 2:41:00 PM

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You are in Ask a Submissive/Slave.

Is there a question in all that waffle somewhere??

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 2:51:39 PM

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G'day Bella. Good advice for meeting anybody in any situation where a good impression is needed *smile*. Up here, the sartorial standards seem to stretch to a semi-clean footy-jersey, ditto the shorts and maybe a fairly new pair of thongs *smile*........................I kid you not, that is how one guy turned up for a first meeting with saraah before she met me and she had dressed to kill to meet him; because by his (self) description, he was a cross between Sir Galahad and James Bond. He wasn't. She described him as more of a cross between Sir Les Patterson and Chesty Bond and about as intelligent as the page in the bible between the old and the new testaments.
We also have stories from female friends in the sex-industry about clients that turn up like that and who obviously haven't showered, cleaned their teeth or even completely sobered up before knocking on the door !!!!
Good luck to you bella and we hope all goes well for you.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 3:04:50 PM

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Nice first post.

You also made me remember the time when my mom went out on a blind date with someone (to a steak house!)...and the guy decided not to bring his dentures. Since she wore a hearing aid, his muffled speech sounded like mumf-mumf-mumf.

I'm not a submissive, but I've met up with guys from Collarspace...who had grungy thick layers of plaque on their teeth and/or thick black ick under their finger nails.

If your advice reaches even one of these guys, yay!

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 5:19:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

You are in Ask a Submissive/Slave.

Is there a question in all that waffle somewhere??

Its a board for getting advice from a sub/slave point of view. D-types come here to see what people have to say, not just read their own threads. And frankly, there is a man or two that could stand to stumble over this.

Good advice, bellasubmissive.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 8:24:03 PM

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If all the people you meet are of that poor quality, it says a hell of a lot about your poor people picking skills. Instead of focusing on what's wrong with everyone ele I strongly suggest fixing yourself.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 8:30:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

If all the people you meet are of that poor quality, it says a hell of a lot about your poor people picking skills. Instead of focusing on what's wrong with everyone ele I strongly suggest fixing yourself.

Agreed, I've met a fair amount of men offline whom I met on here... never have I met one who would have the need to read that post. Never.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/10/2016 8:33:41 PM

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Some suggestions for men from a professional sex worker for meeting ladies

I thought that professional sex workers were pretty much in the business of catering to the men who couldn't meet "ladies"

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/11/2016 1:07:51 AM

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There is no one size fits all, in any walk of life. That may matter to some women (or male subs too of course, I presume you weren't trying to be too gender specific), but others couldn't care less about some, or even any of that.
And no offence meant, but I personally couldn't take serious relationship advice from a sex worker. Relationships are more than sex. No judgement of your line of work, just making that one point. If I wanted to know about certain subjects pertaining only to sex, that would change my answer.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/12/2016 1:43:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Some suggestions for men from a professional sex worker for meeting ladies

I thought that professional sex workers were pretty much in the business of catering to the men who couldn't meet "ladies"

There are all kinds of sex workers. All kinds of services that people classify as sex workers, not just prostitutes. And all kinds of people who employ the services of sex workers, not just men who couldn't meet 'ladies'.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/12/2016 2:21:34 PM

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I never said that, please go back and reread what I wrote.

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/12/2016 2:50:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick
I thought that professional sex workers were pretty much in the business of catering to the men who couldn't meet "ladies"

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There are all kinds of sex workers. All kinds of services that people classify as sex workers, not just prostitutes. And all kinds of people who employ the services of sex workers, not just men who couldn't meet 'ladies'.

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick
I never said that, please go back and reread what I wrote.

So you didn't say that professional sex workers were pretty much in the business of catering to the men who couldn't meet "ladies"?

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RE: Sex Worker Advice Subs Looking for Doms - 3/12/2016 3:00:42 PM

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Talk on the phone first so she knows you are genuine
Have a protocol so that she feels safe when you first meet ( and after)

You mean for you....

Master and I never spoke on the phone before we met. We just agreed to meet for coffee and that was it. If something came of it, great. If not, then I at least, got to have to a cup of coffee in a nice coffee shop and got me out of the house for awhile. No big deal. Why would we need to talk on the phone at first? I don't take first meetings all that seriously.

Protocol? We just met for coffee! No protocol needed except meet and see what happens.

I think people put waaaaay too much thought into just having a cup of coffee/tea/dinner/walk in a park/whatever.

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