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special rituals please!? - 12/1/2004 10:50:25 AM

MastersGirl

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I am looking to other Dominants for advice and suggestions on daily rituals that they require their own subs to perform that really make them feel loved and special. My goal is to find a new way to show my submission and show my devotion to my own Master. I already have some "rituals" such as bathing him at certain times, morning coffee and wake up rituals, kneeling before bed at night. Any suggestions? We do have two children so they must be discrete. Thank you for your help!

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/1/2004 1:32:10 PM

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Just my opinion, but I'm not sure rituals are the way to go. If it is a ritual it is something he could expect, and so it wouldn't seem so special after the first time.

What really makes an impression on me is when my girl surprises me with something I like. I really appreciate the effort it takes to do something out of the ordinary, and I'd rather have 1 surprise per day instead of a day full of pre-programmed rituals.

But that is just me, and I don't care much for rituals anyway.

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/1/2004 1:49:51 PM

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I completely agree, there are day to day things that my sub performs, but when she does something for me I was not expecting, I can see the pride she has in doing it, and I get satisfaction from that as well.

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/1/2004 4:23:04 PM

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This thread might help:

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/1/2004 4:26:59 PM

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beth has a daily ritual which includes a 'devotional' reading of our contract. It's a specific and detailed document. If you would like a copy send us a message with an email address and we will send it to you.

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/1/2004 8:08:28 PM

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I had a sub before that would get dressed before bed, turn down the sheets and blankets and then remain on her knees in front of the bed till I entered, then she would join me. It was a little thing but it was nice. The other thing she did was once a month she would choose 3 passages from her journal that she felt strongly about not always good or bad jsut 3 that she thought really meant something to her and she would share them with me, i always looked at that as my own private window into her soul. That was also nice.

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/2/2004 9:01:43 AM

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All great ideas....some we do already and some I hadn't thought of! Master likes routines. He loves knowing I am committed to something such as washing him everyday, turning down the bed, etc.

I like surprising him....any unusual ideas?! And thanks to all of you for your responses!

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/2/2004 9:19:19 AM

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The fact that you have children to take into account kind of inhibits the suprise aspect which is a big turn on for me personally. There are still ways though, maybe take the kids to a sitter shortly before his arrival, then come up with some wildly creative thing geared to his personal taste. Enjoy!...Mike

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/7/2004 2:54:48 PM

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MastersGirl-
Some simple surprise ideas- if he has privacy @ work, surprise him there with a gift, and a bit of submission, such as kneeling to present the gift. A bit of massage would be good, or even just having you available to him at the office could be fun. Of course, I've found the image of my sub under the desk, going down on me as I worked at my desk an entertaining one.

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All great ideas....some we do already and some I hadn't thought of! Master likes routines. He loves knowing I am committed to something such as washing him everyday, turning down the bed, etc.

I like surprising him....any unusual ideas?! And thanks to all of you for your responses!

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/8/2004 9:21:33 AM

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Perhaps the difference between routine and ritual to some is the intent. Why can she not have a daily ritual if the intent is to show devotion? The trick is for her to not let the repeated ritual become routine.

My suggestions for rituals:
A daily or weekly note in a jacket pocket that is a statement of something important. Don't use these to criticize or what not, use them as affirmations and expressions of devotion.

A nightly ritual of turning down the bed. Add a rose on the pillow (with thorns!) every now and then to make it special.

An evening ritual of helping him change out of his clothes (although, this is most apt to be interrupted by children). Perhaps he can call you on his way home and have you lay out what he wants to wear if the kids are likely to interrupt.

A weekend or bi-weekend ritual of dinner for two with no children, at home. You cook (or order), he feeds you while you kneel beside him.

A ritual of greeting. These can be done in various forms, from a casual “It’s good to have you home” (for when the children are present) or more formal, such as kneeling to kiss boots/shoes.

Before each, to maintain the ritual space, take a deep, relaxing breath and gather your mind’s focus to the task.

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/8/2004 3:42:45 PM

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what age are the children might I ask? and their gender?

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/8/2004 3:49:02 PM

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do you beleve in a matriarch or a patriarch grounding?
And do you intend to pass on these beliefs to your children?

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/8/2004 3:53:12 PM

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see when thinking of rituals
one thinks not on just the
Lifestyle but also the family
unit. What rituals do you
desire to pass down and
what beliefs do you want
to pass in ritual form to
your kids? Keeping in mind
that rituals need not be Loving
or sexual in nature to be utilized
can mean the differance in if
they can be done in front of a
child or not. Thinking in terms
of Respect and Honor in doing
a ritual instead of looking at it
as a Love or sexual issue puts
a whole different way of looking
at it and it is not all of a sudden
taboo if kids see it because it is
a belief that can be passed down
and practiced not just by you by
your family as well. My samples
will follow when I have the info
on the kids to make a better
determination of where their
mindset is and what can be
presented to them in a safe
sane manner.

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RE: special rituals please!? - 12/10/2004 12:30:57 PM

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Rituals can become routine, but they can also be signs of a slave's continuing devotion to her master. Rituals are also a good way to get into and remain in a slave's head.

One ritual I like is to have my slave lift her tits and offer them as a symbol of the offeriing of her body to me -- her Master. I have her do this as near to noon each day as possible. This ritual is something she can do if at work or at home. Often it must be done in the privacy of the toilet, but it can be done anywhere.

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