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Verbal humiliation - 3/17/2016 11:34:50 AM

Dominatrixsariel

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Some advice for verbal humiliation.

I am a pro dominatrix and cannot relate to humiliation as a source of pleasure. Of course, I need to learn as part of my development.
What are "good" things to say?
So far shaming them for having a small dick seems to be a favorite, but what else?
What about calling them a fat piece of shit?( Thats really the only thing that comes to mind when I'm in session, but that might be too extreme?)

Let me know

p.s I know everyone is an individual and certain things turn certain people on, but I'm asking for generalities

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/17/2016 11:43:42 AM

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Don't engage in kinks you're not comfortable with for money.

If verbal humiliation doesn't suit you, then don't offer it.

They're paying you for an experience, if you cannot deliver that experience, don't charge for it.

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/17/2016 12:06:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Don't engage in kinks you're not comfortable with for money.

If verbal humiliation doesn't suit you, then don't offer it.

They're paying you for an experience, if you cannot deliver that experience, don't charge for it.

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/17/2016 3:50:12 PM

Kana

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dominatrixsariel

Some advice for verbal humiliation.

I am a pro dominatrix and cannot relate to humiliation as a source of pleasure. Of course, I need to learn as part of my development.
What are "good" things to say?
So far shaming them for having a small dick seems to be a favorite, but what else?
What about calling them a fat piece of shit?( Thats really the only thing that comes to mind when I'm in session, but that might be too extreme?)

Let me know

p.s I know everyone is an individual and certain things turn certain people on, but I'm asking for generalities

If you are a "dom" and you are doing something you don't like, especially for cash, the only one being humiliated is you.

Personally, I love verbal abuse.
Once I tied a chick up. Started at her toes, criticized every square inch of her (You have fat ankles. Was your mother a cow?)
She was broken and bawling when I was done.
Came the second I touched her cunt.
Told me later it was the hottest moment of its life.
Yeah-good times there

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/17/2016 4:00:25 PM

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im with the others...
I have always stated I dont do humilation with submissives, purely because I dont like it.
It doesnt turn me on.
it doesnt make me squishy, it doesnt make me anything but pissy.
Usually if I use sarcasm or derision, its not time to play.
I dont need to make excuses why I dont.

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/17/2016 4:00:47 PM

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got it! Thank you

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/18/2016 7:41:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dominatrixsariel

Some advice for verbal humiliation.

I am a pro dominatrix and cannot relate to humiliation as a source of pleasure. Of course, I need to learn as part of my development.
What are "good" things to say?
So far shaming them for having a small dick seems to be a favorite, but what else?
What about calling them a fat piece of shit?( Thats really the only thing that comes to mind when I'm in session, but that might be too extreme?)

Let me know

p.s I know everyone is an individual and certain things turn certain people on, but I'm asking for generalities

I absolutely agree with everyone here. As a professional domme myself, I use verbal humiliation in pretty much all of my videos and sessions... but I have a sincere passion for it. I love doing it, find it hilarious and it's just great.

The worst thing you can do is to do it and not be fully into it and especially if you're not confident about it.

A good way to research if it's really for you is to actually buy clips of other professional dommes in that category.

Best of luck!

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RE: Verbal humiliation - 3/19/2016 12:27:26 AM

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Shit for brains, works for the arrogant ones. Dudes who get into being humiliated seem to favor sexual humiliation in one form or another, so that's fairly common.

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic
im with the others...
I have always stated I dont do humilation with submissives, purely because I dont like it.
It doesnt turn me on.
it doesnt make me squishy, it doesnt make me anything but pissy.
Usually if I use sarcasm or derision, its not time to play.
I dont need to make excuses why I dont.

I can relate to that personally. Don't like to go there and doesn't make me feel good about myself.

OP, as a pro, it's going to be really tough to avoid this area. If you don't like doing it and can't get into it, then don't or else you will start feeling like a bully.
They will vocalize what types of things they fantasize about, and I'm sure many of them have it scripted out mentally or even have notes prepared on paper for you to follow their kink and fetish script.

I don't know whether this will help, but I would separate these facets in my mind as much as possible. Be selective. If you sense your client is feeling troubled or has a fragile ego, then you should keep it as mild as possible.
There is also a difference between (verbal) humiliation and degradation.
Some will be content with your kidding around with them and cutting them down to size, because in their minds, coming to you and paying a price to get ordered to strip naked while groveling is humiliating and/or degrading enough.
Given your ambivalence, I would not let the verbal humiliation escalate into degradation, which it will when they start craving a bigger fix.

You're young, and will get pressured into doing things that you don't enjoy doing, especially when you get accused of not being a "real" Domme. Keep in mind that most of these guys are fantasists, and that you are the captain of the ship. As soon as any of your crew senses you are not the one who is in control, they will become manipulative little bastards. They think they know what they want, but they don't know what they need, and sometimes they need to hear that what they have in mind is a no-go zone for you.

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