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UllrsIshtar -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/26/2016 11:10:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar I drove 550 miles (one way, 1100 round trip) every single week for 3 months (in college, classes setup to have 3.5 day weekends) to date Ullr. If he could afford the fuel (which depending on the plane he owns wouldn't really be that costly... we would certainly easily afford it in the Beechcraft Bonanza Ullr's sister owns and we sometimes fly) there really shouldn't be a reason to doubt that he would have made it every week if he was really interested in you. I don't know how young you were then, but college kids find road trips to be an adventure. I did some things in my 20s that will never bear repeating, not in a thousand years. That's the thing. Just because he owned a little Cessna, doesn't mean he could afford to fly it around every week or take a trip more than once a month. I'm sure the local airport wouldn't let him park it in a hangar for free. I had a child in school then, living at home, whom I wasn't about to displace every weekend or even every other weekend, to spend all my time with some questionable man I had met on the Internet, who for all I knew could have been carrying on a double life. The other thing is, when somebody comes out quite a long way to visit you, you're going to end up having to host them. He would have gone broke, and if his priorities were so skewed, then I would not want a partner who is fiscally irresponsible. Between you and me, this would have turned out to be a one-off deal. Then the excuses and bullshit lies. That's why I refuse to conduct a long-distance relationship. I need a sub who will help simplify and streamline my life, make it run more smoothly, not make my life more complicated than it has to be. I was 26. And I agree, just because he owns a Cessna doesn't mean he can afford to fly it like that every weekend. Just saying: Ullr could afford that. So can his sister who actually owns one. (Including the rental car, hotel, hanger, etc.) Doing something like that wouldn't impact the budget that significantly even (though it defiantly would have cut down spending in other areas, it wouldn't touch savings). Hell, we've been talking about buying a plane to make it easier to go to Denver to visit the local club for play on the weekends. Now we're regularly driving 6 hours one way to make that trip, and a plane might be well worth the extra expense for us at some point to cut that time down. I'm not saying you owed him a shot... if you weren't interested you weren't interested. With a kid I can totally see you not willing to make the emotional investment to find out. It's just that I wouldn't necessarily discount it being possible that he would have followed through on what he told you.

FieryOpal -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/26/2016 11:29:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire You do not understand my words fieryopal Now I understand most of your words just not why you used them versus mine. So I will just state those words of yours, you used against me for reasons that escape me, I have a problem with. BTW, it isn't a matter of looking harder. It is a matter of looking women tend not to look, they look less than men and that is a great shame I see many of the same faces across multiple dating sites, myself included! This is not the norm, yes it is the norm I don't understand what you are saying here whatsoever. Ah I see you have sampled the long distance thingy only to find out when you were not about he was collecting the titties. They don’t all do that you know. I thought it self-explanatory but och well. It means when people get involved in along distance relationship. Some men are not hunting in the background for tits/looker/next best thing - we are faithful to those at the other side of the world. What do I know about this. Everything...and i used the words some men(women) Uh, more like no farther than 15 miles. Other cities and countries and continents that's how far I have went, and will go for that other. and them me. and you ramble on about poly men and those in an open relationship - their partners are unaware 99% I know this, I have talked about this often everywhere (i have even been banned of fetlife forums and swingers forums for asking does your partner know you are here. or should a creature of utter wretch like that email I say give me a call and put your partner on. But what has that to do with anything I said. Op has my answer and I am happy with it fieryopal :) I did understand most of what you said other than the sub-quoted line there. Speaking of which, I don't see where I used your words "against" you or where you would have a problem with whatever I posted. My words were not limited to reply-only mode. [:)] Women do not cast as wide a net as men are prone to do, I agree. It is not a shame at all. Unless a woman is looking for some cyber fun, trying to boost her sagging ego by cyber flirting, and is not seriously seeking out an IRT relationship, then why would she reach out across the country, much less across continents to contact an Internet stranger? Now, there are some women who are not yet ready for a relationship commitment. There are submissive women (and men) who will consent to being "groomed" until they are found worthy. Let us get real here. You and I are not cut from the same cloth (I gather, if you don't mind the inclusion) as those Dominants who for reasons of their own prefer to conduct cyber domination. It would seem to me that their cyber sub is not their primary partner in such an event, which isn't to say that said sub couldn't become their primary partner further on down the road. I would not bank on it, though. If I met my soul mate (had one once, but if another one exists, of that I am uncertain), then would we move heaven and earth to be together? I would trust that we would, if we knew we were truly meant for one another, and had interacted in the flesh--not by living in a conjured-up fantasy world from behind a computer screen. ETA: The not-norm reference prefaced what I wrote right after that, about having 3-5 profiles on the same site. Also ETA: UllrsIshtar, you are right. I was just not that into him to give it a go. Nuttin' I couldn't find closer to home. [;)]

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/26/2016 12:04:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal Also ETA: UllrsIshtar, you are right. I was just not that into him to give it a go. Nuttin' I couldn't find closer to home. [;)] I hear ya. For male subs, now that I've got my primary mate covered, I'm much much less willing to make heroics work to find the right guy. If a -for me- secondary partner ain't local, I ain't interested. Once you got a kid in the mix, the 'primary partner' thing is pretty much already guaranteed to be covered automatically.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/26/2016 12:32:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal quote: quote: How far will you travel: 1 mile, 2 miles….10miles……..101miles…….6000miles…to the other side of the world. Where do you draw the line if at 500 miles, is 501 too far. Uh, more like no farther than 15 miles. My travel time, to meet up with a date. I have done the 45-minute to one hour highway driving stint for an intro meeting date to a halfway point or to a fetish party the first year or so of re-entering the dating market, but it wasn't worth going out of my way and rationing myself to just one strong drink, considering that I am only a social drinker as it is. If he lives an hour away, then he needs to haul ass over to my neck of the woods. His logistical choice in seeking me out. [:)] [:)] [:)] This is exactly why Fiery Opal and i have never met! If it was logistically possible, on a very regular basis ... She would be out to dinner on Friday and Saturday nights .. a lot! [;)] And as i am an instinctively monogamous man; Likely W/we would relate, in person, beautifully! That is the problem with trying to win at Power Ball ... seems it never hits close to home!

FieryOpal -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/26/2016 12:48:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo [:)] [:)] [:)] This is exactly why Fiery Opal and i have never met! [:)] If it was logistically possible, on a very regular basis ... She would be out to dinner on Friday and Saturday nights .. a lot! [;)] And as i am an instinctively monogamous man; Likely W/we would relate, in person, beautifully! How sweet of you to say, patrick. If it makes any difference, you are right up there near the top of my No-Can-Do list. [:D] quote: That is the problem with trying to win at Power Ball ... seems it never hits close to home! [:)] [:) ][:)] Tell me, what are the odds of going from zilch matching numbers for week upon week, to 20 people all hitting the Big One at once? Not that I'm complaining, mind you. I'm willing to split a few hundred mill.[sm=birthday_gift4.gif]

MuscleBoundDom -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/26/2016 3:50:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MikeRaven quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Yeah, this site, like every other is mainly male. But damn few of those guys are worth bein with. Most are married, and just looking for a bit on the side. The rest are lost in some fantasy that includes her wearing stripper heels round the clock. She's supposed to look like a stripper despite them being balding and overweight. In fact, if you can find a guy worth being with here, that's the equivalent of winning the powerball. Do you think this is true of the vanilla dating sites as well? I know that where I live, there are homeless people, whose relatives create a profile on a vanilla site for them. They have hopes that someone will meet him/her and take care of him/her. A lot of people complain that the people they meet on dating sites are "scary" looking. That's one of the reasons why.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 6:05:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal quote: ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo [:)] [:)] [:)] This is exactly why Fiery Opal and i have never met! [:)] If it was logistically possible, on a very regular basis ... She would be out to dinner on Friday and Saturday nights .. a lot! [;)] And as i am an instinctively monogamous man; Likely W/we would relate, in person, beautifully! How sweet of you to say, patrick. If it makes any difference, you are right up there near the top of my No-Can-Do list. [:D] quote: That is the problem with trying to win at Power Ball ... seems it never hits close to home! [:)] [:) ][:)] Tell me, what are the odds of going from zilch matching numbers for week upon week, to 20 people all hitting the Big One at once? Not that I'm complaining, mind you. I'm willing to split a few hundred mill.[sm=birthday_gift4.gif] Well, my Dearest Veronique, The idea of hitting Powerball Numbers does make the mind wander! [:)] Hmm, i could buy a house next to You in Maryland; We could buy a beautiful home, with Lake Huron beach frontage and dockage ... go fishing for Trout then have barbeques ... Uhg, just woke up from my dream. Veronique, You are number one on my No-Can-Do list. too! And it is nothing but distance that puts us both there! Powerball? one would have to buy 175.2 million tickets in order to ensure that one wins; this allows for profit with a jackpot of twice this amount, as each ticket costs $2. Not really great odds, But if You and i split it ... [:D] ... impossible odds! [:)] Have a great day!

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 7:16:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal quote: ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo This is exactly why Fiery Opal and i have never met! [:)] How sweet of you to say, patrick. If it makes any difference, you are right up there near the top of my No-Can-Do list. [:D] Veronique, You are number one on my No-Can-Do list. too! Jesus, people... you guys need at least MEET. I know, logistics blah blah blah, but if you won Powerball in a different state, you'd go there to pick it up, right? Right? If you meet, two things can happen: 1) you're not as compatible as you thought, in which case, you won't be as frustrated anymore from it not being logistically possible 2) you're each other's Powerball, in which case the logistics will magically start working out. It might take a while, but it'll work out. GO MEET!!!! [sm=dancer.gif]

needlesandpins -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 10:43:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheUltimate4Him I'm funny, sane, very attractive, educated looking for an educated man who also wants a D/s monogamous relationship. But I'm getting so frustrated with all these men who connect who are either 20 to 30 years younger than me or on the other side of the spectrum look worse than my father. Either that or they are married, separated or poly. And even worse, men from hundreds and thousands of miles away trying to convince me to give them my time. Really? How do you have a relationship if you have to get on a plane once or twice a month to spend time together. Did this; doesn't work. He gets horny, screws someone else or makes tons of friends online for cyber sex and multiple sexting partners. Ugh. Can anyone tell me other sites like this I might try? Thank you. My last playmate only had to get on a train, but instead decided that fucking a lesbian twenty years his junior and who already has a partner is preferable to seeing me. Then lied to me about it all, engineered arguments to split us up, and made it all my fault. sometimes no matter what you give them it's never enough. however, she is also very welcome to the worst of him too. I do not miss his moods, strops, lies, and having to wait for everything on his terms. I haven't found any other sites that work any differently to this one, and certainly non where the people are any more genuine. needles

AtUrCervix -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 4:46:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal I had one guy a state over who offered to fly his plane every weekend to come see me. (That's how I knew he was not a man of his word. A sincere man would not have sworn up and down adamantly that he could manage to do this more than once a month I drove 550 miles (one way, 1100 round trip) every single week for 3 months (in college, classes setup to have 3.5 day weekends) to date Ullr. If he could afford the fuel (which depending on the plane he owns wouldn't really be that costly... we would certainly easily afford it in the Beechcraft Bonanza Ullr's sister owns and we sometimes fly) there really shouldn't be a reason to doubt that he would have made it every week if he was really interested in you. Are you certain you did that math correctly?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 5:07:40 PM)
quote: fucking a lesbian twenty years his junior Doesn't sound like much of a lesbian if she's fucking a guy

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 5:41:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal I had one guy a state over who offered to fly his plane every weekend to come see me. (That's how I knew he was not a man of his word. A sincere man would not have sworn up and down adamantly that he could manage to do this more than once a month I drove 550 miles (one way, 1100 round trip) every single week for 3 months (in college, classes setup to have 3.5 day weekends) to date Ullr. If he could afford the fuel (which depending on the plane he owns wouldn't really be that costly... we would certainly easily afford it in the Beechcraft Bonanza Ullr's sister owns and we sometimes fly) there really shouldn't be a reason to doubt that he would have made it every week if he was really interested in you. Are you certain you did that math correctly? What?

AtUrCervix -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/27/2016 6:42:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: FieryOpal I had one guy a state over who offered to fly his plane every weekend to come see me. (That's how I knew he was not a man of his word. A sincere man would not have sworn up and down adamantly that he could manage to do this more than once a month I drove 550 miles (one way, 1100 round trip) every single week for 3 months (in college, classes setup to have 3.5 day weekends) to date Ullr. If he could afford the fuel (which depending on the plane he owns wouldn't really be that costly... we would certainly easily afford it in the Beechcraft Bonanza Ullr's sister owns and we sometimes fly) there really shouldn't be a reason to doubt that he would have made it every week if he was really interested in you. Are you certain you did that math correctly? What? What?

needlesandpins -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/28/2016 12:53:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick quote: fucking a lesbian twenty years his junior Doesn't sound like much of a lesbian if she's fucking a guy Well, as there are straight men that dabble with other guys, I guess there are lesbians that dabble with guys too. She's a lowlife piece of scum. I have no time for people that have relationships and interfere in what other other people have to someone else's detriment behind their backs. needles

LadyPact -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/28/2016 2:08:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar Jesus, people... you guys need at least MEET. I know, logistics blah blah blah, but if you won Powerball in a different state, you'd go there to pick it up, right? Right? If you meet, two things can happen: 1) you're not as compatible as you thought, in which case, you won't be as frustrated anymore from it not being logistically possible 2) you're each other's Powerball, in which case the logistics will magically start working out. It might take a while, but it'll work out. GO MEET!!!! [sm=dancer.gif] Agreed. Shouldn't y'all at least say hello? Not to mention, cherry blossoms soon. [;)]

DarkSteven -> RE: Other sites like this? (3/28/2016 8:34:29 AM)
Op, it's not just the site. Some of it is you. Your profile says that you want a man who will Dom you in private only. This may seem clear to you, but it doesn't tell me what you will submit for - sex clearly, likely bondage and spanking. How about housework? Does he control the finances? The less you say, the more work i will have to do to find out, and the less chance we'll be compatible after I put that work in. What activities do you like when we leave the house? Eating out? Camping and fishing? Paintball? A man can't Dom you at home 24/7. You say you're educated and sophisticated. Does that mean you want a Dom like that? For that matter, what DO you want in a Dom? College? Professional job? Would retired be okay? Age range? (Speaking of which, why do you complain that you're meeting with men who are age-incompatible when you do not specify an age range on your profile?) If you're willing to meet with men in their fifties and up, will ED be an issue for you? Your post says that you do not want poly, but your profile does not, except in your journal entry and not everyone reads that far. Your post states that looks are important to you, and your profile does not. Your post says you do not want LDRs, and your profile only hints at that with all the references to the house. Your profile says that you're attractive, but does not show any pics, or even give your weight. Look at LadyPact's and Ishtarr's profiles. There is no question what they're looking for - I could determine in less than a minute.

CelticPrince -> RE: Other sites like this? (4/6/2016 3:07:56 PM)
and you base that on what experience? CP

DDDomain -> RE: Other sites like this? (5/18/2016 5:26:03 PM)
You can give Fetlife a try but be warned...it isn't any better or worse than any other site than you may want to try.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Other sites like this? (5/18/2016 11:39:51 PM)
quote: Well, as there are straight men that dabble with other guys I think the term you are looking for is "men in denial"

Lookin4Lace -> RE: Other sites like this? (5/19/2016 5:16:11 AM)
I agree with DarkSteven, Cheers m8, there is an age old saying that goes something along the lines of "you get out of life , love and friendship what you put into it" if you are sending mixed signals you are in even more serious trouble then you let on, in this lifestyle you need to have a clear direction and follow it, mixed signals give no course or direction, hell for that matter finding out what a woman wants in a relationship is hard enough as it is I'm 45 and I'll be damned if I am gonna stand up and say i can read a woman's thoughts, lol i would be crucified from one end of the spectrum to the other by both genders, so with that said I put out my wants, my needs pics of me and if any are takers then that opens up the field for communication, DS speaks of some very crucial points, even reading your post, DS's observations and all that has been spoken of here makes me want to look at the profile even less, there is no rhyme or rhythm to keep people guessing. as for everyone else, god you make it difficult to meet people I mean really its not that hard, put yourself out there most of you ladies have already taken the step by socializing in here, i read through a lot of these responses and vast majority of you are so down on us men does it really bear any serious question as to why your not meeting the good guys you so want in your profiles, I don't know maybe i am taking what you ladies are saying to stringently, maybe i have a valid response or maybe its just my opinion, in either case Peace...

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