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Another one bites the dust - 3/25/2016 11:59:49 PM

DisabledMistress

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I was talking to a guy, making him do some tasks for Me, we were talking on kik every few days planning to meet up when My hand is better and then all of a sudden he vanishes, deletes his kik, found out he deleted his account here too. The only thing I can think of is his wife found out I was getting him to suck cock for Me.
9/10 sub guys in My experience are married, why is this so? They are around for a while then their wife finds out and they vanish. Is there any submissive guys who are married? Cause i'm sick of this happening.............

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/26/2016 5:43:01 AM

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(I don't even know where to begin).

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/26/2016 11:08:35 PM

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Don't take this the wrong way, OP, but who do you think your particular brand of domination would appeal to?

You don't offer being a girlfriend Mistress. You aren't looking to date your subs, but only to whore them out.

In your profile, you list Crossdressing as a Love.

I am being serious when I say that I am surprised your on-line subs are not 10:10 married wankers whose fetish is "forced" fem-sissification, along with a "forced" bi fantasy kink.
They are getting off playing into this cyber fantasy you provide of being turned into cocksuckers. It's a fantasy, with no intention of acting this out for you in real life.

You mention tribute, so I hope you are getting yours up front and not depending upon these flakey jerk-offs to pay your way through school.
They are using you as much as you are using them. That is how cyber D/s works, from what I hear.

Listen, you are a young lady. If you really want to graduate into a high-demand/short-supply niche market, it would be as a Cuckoldress.
However, you would have to offer an authentically intimate relationship dynamic in order to attract and retain unattached male sub devotés.

Until then, you are not a *real* Mistress to them inasmuch as they are not your collared subs either. What you are doing is playacting, so accept it for what it is for the time being, if this is all you have on your cyber menu.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/27/2016 1:11:09 AM

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I've tried actually dating My subs, the whoring out thing is relatively new, and I have played with people in real life, but it seems no one wants to admit that they are in a BDSM relationship publicly.

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Don't take this the wrong way, OP, but who do you think your particular brand of domination would appeal to?

You don't offer being a girlfriend Mistress. You aren't looking to date your subs, but only to whore them out.

In your profile, you list Crossdressing as a Love.

I am being serious when I say that I am surprised your on-line subs are not 10:10 married wankers whose fetish is "forced" fem-sissification, along with a "forced" bi fantasy kink.
They are getting off playing into this cyber fantasy you provide of being turned into cocksuckers. It's a fantasy, with no intention of acting this out for you in real life.

You mention tribute, so I hope you are getting yours up front and not depending upon these flakey jerk-offs to pay your way through school.
They are using you as much as you are using them. That is how cyber D/s works, from what I hear.

Listen, you are a young lady. If you really want to graduate into a high-demand/short-supply niche market, it would be as a Cuckoldress.
However, you would have to offer an authentically intimate relationship dynamic in order to attract and retain unattached male sub devotés.

Until then, you are not a *real* Mistress to them inasmuch as they are not your collared subs either. What you are doing is playacting, so accept it for what it is for the time being, if this is all you have on your cyber menu.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/27/2016 1:13:14 AM

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Also i'm not using them to "pay my way through school" I live in Australia, not the US, we don't have to pay anything until we make over $40 000 a year, then the government automatically takes the money out. The US isn't the only country on the planet, I wish americans would remember that sometimes....

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Don't take this the wrong way, OP, but who do you think your particular brand of domination would appeal to?

You don't offer being a girlfriend Mistress. You aren't looking to date your subs, but only to whore them out.

In your profile, you list Crossdressing as a Love.

I am being serious when I say that I am surprised your on-line subs are not 10:10 married wankers whose fetish is "forced" fem-sissification, along with a "forced" bi fantasy kink.
They are getting off playing into this cyber fantasy you provide of being turned into cocksuckers. It's a fantasy, with no intention of acting this out for you in real life.

You mention tribute, so I hope you are getting yours up front and not depending upon these flakey jerk-offs to pay your way through school.
They are using you as much as you are using them. That is how cyber D/s works, from what I hear.

Listen, you are a young lady. If you really want to graduate into a high-demand/short-supply niche market, it would be as a Cuckoldress.
However, you would have to offer an authentically intimate relationship dynamic in order to attract and retain unattached male sub devotés.

Until then, you are not a *real* Mistress to them inasmuch as they are not your collared subs either. What you are doing is playacting, so accept it for what it is for the time being, if this is all you have on your cyber menu.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/27/2016 6:29:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DisabledMistress

I've tried actually dating My subs, the whoring out thing is relatively new, and I have played with people in real life, but it seems no one wants to admit that they are in a BDSM relationship publicly.

Why would they need to admit it publicly?

Also, in terms of finding married people on the internet- that has nothing to do with BDSM dynamics specifically. A lot of people play around with no intention of getting out from behind their keyboard. It's just the nature of the beast.

Especially if there is the opportunity to have play without meeting, you're going to be encountering a lot of guys who will disappear once the prospect of meeting up comes.

Why not try getting involved in your local real time community?

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/27/2016 4:05:10 PM

DesFIP

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Demanding they risk their job or loss of contact with family by having to tell everyone is wrong.

Try acting with honor and caring about the people you get involved with.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/27/2016 9:32:46 PM

SweetlySadistic1

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I don't see why they'd have to admit it publicly. I have a sub of two years who's collared to me and we're D/s, Mommy/boy, girlfriend/boyfriend and so much more to each other but, to most people we know who aren't kinky, they only know we're girlfriend/boyfriend. Shoving kink in someone's face is not cool. Not in my book anyway. Do all your non-kinky friends, if you have them, shove their sex lives in your face?

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/28/2016 11:30:45 AM

maleficae

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...Not to mention that founding a dynamic based on cheating is wrong. If his wife agreed to him being your sub and was aware of it and it agree, fine, cool, go for it. Otherwise? Lies all around. Not something you want to build a relationship of any sort on.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/28/2016 12:15:14 PM

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<Fast reply.>

Ya know, OP. I play WoW online. It doesn't mean I really think I'm a paladin, mage, or a priest. Yep, people treat me like one when I'm on-line, believe I have spells, expect me to have abilities when we're in raids, and all of that gunk.

If these guys are really going out there and sucking cock for you, because you, as their "online mistress" told them to, flipping awesome! Have fun with it! They wanted an excuse to run out and suck a cock (probably not their first, either) and you're having fun telling them to do it. Everybody wins.

So, if you are just the online chick, and he's out there sucking cock, why do you think he really needs you?

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/28/2016 1:26:45 PM

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Good question

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 4:22:26 AM

LilJuly76

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good question LadyPact

how anyone can do online Domination or submission is beyond me

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 4:36:55 AM

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I actuallly try and arrange to meet people in real life and thats where it seems to go pear shaped. Anyway im regretting starting this topic...

quote:

ORIGINAL: LilJuly76

good question LadyPact

how anyone can do online Domination or submission is beyond me

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 4:44:51 AM

freedomdwarf1

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Ignore Bondageers - they often do that.
Same as someone called Teentie.

They are immature and aren't ejumacated enuf to know that CAPS is shouting and downright rude.

But I really don't agree with the way you are doing things.
Obviously things aren't going to plan otherwise you wouldn't have posted on here.
But it's your life, your call.
If you are constantly failing, perhaps you need to examine the common denominator: you!

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 4:46:28 AM

LilJuly76

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you shouldn't because of one person, nobody has the right to be rude to someone online. I tried online looking the first time about 9 years ago and I must admit that I came across in reality a lot of fakers or actually have no clue what BDSM is, they just want someone for sex, I think a great deal of people online are just role players or users to get what they want.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 4:47:40 AM

LilJuly76

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you don't have to be rude to a person, you sent me a rude pm as well.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 4:50:17 AM

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ha ha ha dwarf, I am having more fun on here than one could imagine.

small minded people like you, bother about the use of capitals.

undoubtedly you are a dwarf and old and ....

thanks for the advice about windows 10.

terri. xx shame you are not a girl. xx

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 7:00:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DisabledMistress
I actuallly try and arrange to meet people in real life and thats where it seems to go pear shaped. Anyway im regretting starting this topic...

It's not a case of where you should regret starting the topic. It's not the first thread you've posted about how things don't go as well for you online as you would like them to, so it is a recurring situation. To me, that says if you want a different result, you might want to change the way you're going about this thing. It might be something about your screening process or how much you're willing to indulge these folks (even if they are giving you tribute, you're still indulging them) before meeting in person. If you want the outcome to be different, you have to do something different.

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The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 9:21:55 AM

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Being registered disabled myself I have long declared this particular OP a fallacy lie..creature has many names.

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RE: Another one bites the dust - 3/29/2016 10:25:11 AM

DisabledMistress

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A fallecy lie?? Oh what's your disability then if you so know what it's like to have one? Ive noticed from your other forum posts all you seem to do is criticise others, especially women.

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