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Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 3:37:12 PM

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This is my current issue i need pushed in.. I blush just asking for directions... What has everyone had to do for public humiliation and any tips or tricks to deal with it?

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 4:01:46 PM

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Whats the worse public humilation?

Getting a RTC in the Barkley Marathons.

DNFs are bad enough, but unavoidable for most people, really.

A RTC is nothing but pure shame and humiliation.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 4:10:51 PM

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When I worked in a cocktail bar and I suffered a major wardrobe malfunction and my tits fell out for all to see. How did I deal with it, the only way I could, I covered up, took a little bow and went into the back to see if the situation was repairable. It wasn't, so I went home.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 4:11:57 PM

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The worst humiliation would be that suffered by the people you forced to see you do these things.

Besides, if you're really that shy, then doing anything wrong wouldn't help. It would make you less willing to ever talk to anyone new.

For the next month, talk to at least one stranger a day. Discussing the weather with elderly you hold doors for counts.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 6:06:03 PM

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Getting a RTC in the Barkley Marathons.

DNFs are bad enough, but unavoidable for most people, really.

A RTC is nothing but pure shame and humiliation.

Fair warning, I am admitting to stupidity. What is RTC?

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 6:24:35 PM

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Refused to continue

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/27/2016 6:33:28 PM

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for some the anxiety is the basis so try to breath with your diaghpram this stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system to think it is safe where using the chest stimulates the sympathetic system saying fight or flight
now me i dont have a humiliation thing as i rarly get embarrased

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/30/2016 5:58:50 PM

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I am working on it... Even having to wear something sexy when going out with my partner makes me blush... not slutty just like sexy ughhhh i need to get over it i guess lol

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/30/2016 7:53:24 PM

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Make sure you communicate that clearly to your partner so he (or she) understands the the depth of your difficulty with it. If he/she is not made aware, then he/she cannot take it into account when deciding what to do/require. And make sure that the discussion of your difficulty is an ongoing one, not just a one time thing. If you both want to get you past this, then you will both have to work on it together, and work closely at that.
While in the end it is indeed up to you to get over it, it is up to him/her to help you get over it with as little difficulty as possible.

Also, you should do some self reflecting on whether you even want to do any sort of humiliation stuff. It is not required, for example, I don't do any of that, it doesn't turn me on, it pisses me off, so to pursue it would be detrimental to the relationship as a whole. You are allowed to set what limits you need, and you are also entitled to add to them as you go along.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 5:55:41 AM

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This isn't exactly what you asked, but I have a friend who was ordered to buy a Fleet enema. Beforehand, her Dom took away her money so she was forced to ask him for the money in the store, and that added to her feelings of not being in control.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 6:46:00 AM

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That time I bought a bag of six freshly made doughnuts at Falkirk market. Six for one Scottish quid(£1).
The freshly fried, oily off crispy coat, shimmering in sugary delight, made short work of the paper bag and threw themselves into a puddle or was that gravity. I was fair ashamed, let me tell you that. I let those poor six doughnuts drown in front of an audience.
To be fair they did not boo or hiss, the crowd, nor laugh. I think they felt my shame and sadness and woe and suffering, and complete humiliation, was ended when I was presented with a fresh bag of sugary delights numbering six – free of charge to boot….well us Scottish people are a scrooge like race.
And that is a true story and it must have happened 20 plus years ago and I still remember it if it was this very day.

Or was it that time my women, of that time, called me honey in a shop….and I do so fuking hate the word babe honey and variants. So I set about a plot to marry this one and divorce her, which came to past a very long time ago.

Or was it that stone bridge story I tell from time to time…as I spent so much time on the doughnut story I will keep it for another day, the retelling. (where a farmer called the police because me and some women had a wee fire going in the country…oh alright as some of you have not heard it goes a little bit like this).

Women: My you are quite the man of staggering girth and have surely ruined me for all of mankind and to that end I plan to live out my days in quiet solitude as a mad hermit ( a noble cause) when I hit the self destruct button – the interesting ones always do :( it is inevitable with them
Man with too many cats: cease your banal utterings creature of wretch and fill us a flask of coffee, some sandwiches and may treats (look I made them I am not sexist).

Women: You have showed me all of infinity what more is there to be had.
Man with too many cats: Put on a dress and nothing else. And we will get a bit of a picnic fire going and I will ask mother nature to lightly caress your body with 70mph winds, and horizontal rain lashing at your naked body over an olde stone bridge. Ah the furore of mother nature on wanton wenches hungry body. And I will pit I against mother nature using your body as a conduit
. And i did exactly that, her bent over that olde stone bridge naked save for the elements and the greatest of all known elements muffinium engaged in an epic battle

Farmer: Drives by.... what are you doing on this country lane, by the roadside are you witches.

Women: F*ck of farmer
Man with too many cats: be off with you and tend to your turnips before we hex then with our supernatural darkness malarkey
Police (30 minutes later for farmer had called 5’O) What are you two up too and they really did make us put out the picnic fire.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 10:39:14 AM

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These may seem minor but I thought I would respond to the post...my first public play occurred when my dom took me to a park on a Sunday afternoon. He parked the car in the shade neat a trail where people were walking, jogging,etc.. He made me wear a bikini where upon I had to wax his car for nearly one hour. As I was doing this, he sat in a lawn chair and read a book!! Several men stopped and watched for a few minutes and one actually took a video with his cell phone. My other public humilation took place when I had to accompany my dom to a TGIF for a Happy Hour when he knew a potential client was going to be there. He had me wear a skirt and blouse (very professional) however I had to have my top 3 buttons of the blouse undone so that when people or eventually his client came in to the bar, they could see my entire bra when I turned. I was supposed to act like I didnt know the 3rd button became undone. I know I gave a hell of a show to many people that evening!

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 3:20:52 PM

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Forcing innocent people to be a part of his kink is not cool. It's nasty.

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We play by SSC...Sane, Safe, and CONSENTUAL. You both took the consent away from the people in that bar. If bikinis are not normally worn at that park you also took consent away from the people in the park.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 4:16:12 PM

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You both took the consent away from the people in that bar.

Really? And what about the girls who do that sort of thing in bars all on their own without it being their kink, the ones who dress sexy/slutty just to pick up a guy? Are they taking away consent? What about a woman who has a kink for dressing in in old 50s style clothing, is she taking away consent if she dresses that way? How about a butch lesbian? Does she have to dress in stereotypical female attire in order to go out, is she only allowed to dress in her preferred style at home?
Or is it just because it turned her on that it is wrong of her to do it?

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If bikinis are not normally worn at that park you also took consent away from the people in the park.

Again, really? So if goth attire is not "normally" worn there then any goth who go there are imposing their lifestyle on the people in the park? How about a woman who wants to sunbath in a park where bikinis are not normally worn
Come off it, you are taking the whole "don't inflict your kink on others" thing way over the top.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 4:31:52 PM

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First, in a bar might be considered a different circumstance than in a public park. Hey, some women dress as sluts when they go to the bar. I have seldom seen it happen even though I go to a bar several times a week. I might see it happen once or twice a year. If they have no self respect and require dressing in such a way to get a man to notice them, then I feel sorry for them. However, this is not the circumstance that Gwen referred to. She referred to deliberately dressing so that her whole bra could be seen by anyone there, just to give her Dominant a thrill. The pretending that she didn't know doesn't make this okay.

As to those in a park dressed in Goth clothing, Goth clothing is not a bikini. It does not show nearly the entire body off. So again, two different circumstances with little in common. Again I will say, if this is a park where people do not normally wear bikinis, doing so and flaunting it in an area where the most people, including children will see, is forcing people to be part of their kink. Again, pretending that being in this park and polishing a car in a bikini is normal is refusing to allow others to consent to being used for their own personal kink.

The question deals with if it is right and okay to do kink in a vanilla setting where you force others to participate without their consent. They were doing kink. She admits it. What they did was no accident. Her Dom told her to do these things. She consented. They just didn't bother to ask if the others involved also consented.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 4:54:40 PM

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Oh God really? OK, I have worked in bars since I was 18. I see women whose bras are visible regularly, and even women who dress that way without remembering to wear a bra.

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She referred to deliberately dressing so that her whole bra could be seen by anyone there, just to give her Dominant a thrill.

BINGO!
So if I do it to pick up a guy it is OK, but if I do it to please my guy it isn't. Do you not see how stupid that is?

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 6:28:32 PM

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Where did I say it was okay? I said I felt sorry for them. In Gwen's case I feel sorry for her and the non consenting people who are involved with her Dom's kink.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 8:59:04 PM

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You both took the consent away from the people in that bar. If bikinis are not normally worn at that park you also took consent away from the people in the park.

Nope.

People in public places consent to witness whatever things can legally go on in public.

You cannot revoke consent for somebody to behave in a legal manner in public. To prohibit somebody from doings something they're legally entitled to do would be a violation of the law. They have a legal right to engage in legal behavior in public

If you consider their behavior to be in poor taste, it's your responsibility to remove yourself from the situation, or to deal with our own discomfort in a way that doesn't impede on their rights to engage in legal behavior in public.

Because you have no claim to refuse to consent for them to behave in a legal way, your consent is not violated when you witness legal behavior in public, because you already gave you consent by going into a public place where such behavior is legal.

Implying that this isn't the case is the same thing as saying "The pedestrian took away my consent by walking down the street when I didn't want him to do so".

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 3/31/2016 9:07:35 PM

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Okay, I'll agree with that. Technically it's legal to walk into a bar with just a bra on. The bar may ask you to leave, however, you have broken no laws.

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RE: Whats the worse public humilation? - 4/2/2016 6:50:27 PM

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I feel sorry for Gwen's Dom who shot himself in the foot by introducing her to a client. You really think the client is going to judge them as being professional while dressed like that.
Even if she was pretending to be too stupid or drunk to know that she was half dressed, what's her partner's excuse?

Nice way to put himself out of business.

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