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some questions??? (chastity devices and getting married ) - 7/20/2006 11:13:01 AM

coca

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Hi to all who have desires to go deeper level ,

First of all , i am sorry about my english. It is not my first language and i am a litle bit affraid that i can not explain what i am trying to ask etc. (but i want to try)

I would like to tell whole story but i do not have too much time for writing right now. I am in Russia and working here.. Besides i am far away from my Mistress right now. Briefly , we are seperated physically but mentally She is always with me.

The questions which i will ask might be silly for You, but they are important for me , after i am finishing my job here in russia i will go back to my Mistress and i hope we will discover D/s more and more. me as a sub and She of course as a Domme.

1) my Mistress bought me a CB3000 , (this was my dream for a long time)
I am asking to the subs who are using it :) , have You ever thought after You begin to wear CB , why you have that desire etc?? or you really like to have it? to feel to be controled that way is incredible , however i am not sure what will i think after having it real time..??

2) probably there are some D/s couples here ( married ) how is the real life situation between them? How can they balance?? What about the desires you had before the marriage and after marriage ??

I am sure here in forum it can be found many forums about these topics. but as i said i dont have time and i want to know the opinion of the subs who have these experinces ( having CB and having D/s familiy etc)

i hope you will answer me..

ps: (this post has been posted previously, but has been edited )

thanks in advance to all
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RE: some questions??? (chastity devices and getting mar... - 7/20/2006 11:16:47 AM

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i have nothing to add about the questions you posed, i simply wanted to say if english is not your first language you are doing far better than i would if i tried to speak/type in any other language. Your questions are clear and concise. I look forward to reading the responses.

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RE: some questions??? (chastity devices and getting mar... - 7/20/2006 11:34:00 AM

coca

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Firstly Thank You
Ihave an Canadian Mistress. She is helping me for my english as well..

:)
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RE: some questions??? (chastity devices and getting mar... - 7/21/2006 11:01:43 AM

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This poor guy is looking for answers and nobody is writing him back. I wrote a little yesterday, but that post got bumped besue I mentioned unmentionables specifically. I would write more, but have little experience persoanlly (although I've got plenty of opinions) in this area.Personal experiences might be better to offer this guy at this point.

*Surely someone else here has experience they can write about on this topic (or opinions), and still keep it within collarme bounds of propriety in terms of TOS?

Good luck, coca.

- Susan

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RE: some questions??? (chastity devices and getting mar... - 7/21/2006 11:27:36 AM

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i would like to see your opinions about this subjects

thank You Susan for Your interest.

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RE: some questions??? (chastity devices and getting mar... - 7/21/2006 12:14:25 PM

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Well, coca, I think that in a D/s and M/s relationship, if you are loving to your family, it will show through, no matter what - as long as your love speaks through your actions, and is not just kept all in your head (which it seems like you would do, of course).

Plenty of people around here have been raised in bdsm and consider themselves better off, or that it did not affect them in a bad way.

However, I do think it is good you are asking yourself these questions about how to raise a family while still being in a D/s and M/s relationship, because your family also must cope with the larger world - not just you and your Mistress. There will be people who they meet who do not live with this in their lives, and it could confuse them, maybe. But not if you handle it well, which I am sure you can manage to do.

My personal feeling is that blatant, heavy bdsm activity (spanking, whipping, anmything sexual) should not be viewed by all members of the family (if you know what I mean). There are ways to make sure they don't see it, and still be able to do it.

*There are maybe relatives they can visit, or a caretaking facility where they could be taken for an evening, etc. so you and Mistress can be alone. Or maybe you just get a lock for your bedroom door, and live in a place with extra sound proof walls.

As far as little things, like who does the housework, or makes decisions, I think that isn't going to affect them as much, because what will be most obvious to them is whether or not you and your Mistress are loving to eachother. Because every family has their own way of doing things - as long as there is lots o flove, that I think makes the most difference.

I think it is outstanding that you want to know, coca - and you sound like you will make a wonderful parent.

** I know nothing about chastity devices, but am hoping some Dommes answer this thread.

- Susan

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RE: some questions??? (chastity devices and getting mar... - 7/22/2006 8:55:06 AM

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first of all i want to thank You for sharing Your opinion, however when i am going to try writing my opinions it would be probably again a problem according the forum rules ( the reason would be my language ) i can not find proper words for explaining my ideas...but i will try

firstly, i am thinking all people which having desires about being humilated or being slave (including me) have some REASON for these desires.Why they have it? we can not give only one reason .. there are plenty of probably/////
But I am not a person who is trying to find out these (REASONS?) but i do believe there are some mistakes in their minds.. ( including mine) i think i found mine.. anyway it is not important right now...

Yet thats why i am very concerned about my future plans..
yes , i am a submissive male and i found myself with the help of information ( via internet ) and i had experiences about D/s and i am not TOTALY sure but % 90 sure what i am right now...
I want to be controlled and i want to give myself to my Mistress.. ( i am lucky and find my great Mistress) I hope it will go better and better and better :)
But , for me , the question i asked was very important....

in my opinion , it is very very important for a person to know him or Herself! and i know myself and am afraid about my DESIRES
that is the problem!!!!

As a sub i want to do whatever my Mistress want and i do want to give myself more and more ( in deeper levels ) BUT what if the owner can not see the importance about these SUBJECT??? what if one day one of Your owners might want something that you can not stop yourself and although you know it might be a problem and you did it???( i hope i can explain right now what i am trying to say)

Thats why i am looking for a right answers ...
as a sub , giving all the rights and thoughts and decisions to my owner ( because i do want this) and after then to have something (although it might be a problem ) and you can not hide it omit it or escape from it.. ?

what is the most important in this case? to have it although you know, that it can be effected by you
( i am thinking that way , because i am sure it is so effected ) but you think it can me hidden in secret rooms or soundproof rooms? yes , the physical part can be hidden but what about the psylogical part???

I think i have submissive desires because of this phsylogical part... but i dont know the others?
and what i do know is that i found my PERFECT MISTRESS and She is understanding me.. and i hope everyone can share their thoughts that we are doing...

anyways

thats were my thoughts ,
sorry for taking your valuable time

regards
coca

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