Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Selection criteria: findom(me)s


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Selection criteria: findom(me)s Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/7/2016 7:25:22 PM   
QualityFirst


Posts: 240
Joined: 5/2/2016
Status: offline 		Collarspace offers a number of selection criteria to look up people. Besides "Username", which has priority above all other selection criteria, we have "Gender", "Orientation", "State" (only for the USA), "Country", "Sexuality", "Ethnicity", "Age Range", "Max. weight", "Min. height", "Max. distance", "They are seeking", "Relocatable", and "Photos only".

To me, people who require money are a no go. If I have the choice between a nearby dominant who requires $US 50 and a dominant that requires no money but costs me $US 100 to travel to her or to him, I prefer the latter. I will offer a dominant at the start and from time to time a present, but a dominant who requires money or a gift is a definitive turn off for me, and I suppose it is true for many other people here.

Therefore, I consider the fact that a person requires or doesn't require money to be an important selection criterium, which Collarspace should allow for.

There are people who require money and who are easily recognized, as they have some indication of it in their name or in the beginning of their profile. Others mention it only at the end of a relatively long profile text. Still others don't mention it at all in their profile, and tell it you only after you have sent them one or more messages.

Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/7/2016 9:09:07 PM   
thedeityspeaks


Posts: 21
Joined: 7/18/2015
Status: offline 		I've been here through both incarnations of the site, on and off for about 7 years. I've encountered exactly 5 paying subs here but, I've received about 5,000 messages. Despite my profile being ultra explicit about my expectations, the fingers of men who have zero interest in financial servitude continue to fly.

So, no. A separate category for findommes would be pointless.

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/7/2016 11:27:27 PM   
stef


Posts: 10215
Joined: 1/26/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?

Agree or not, it's a pointless discussion because it'll never happen.

_____________________________

Welcome to PoliticSpace! If you came here expecting meaningful BDSM discussions, boy are you in the wrong place.

"Hypocrisy has consequences"

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/7/2016 11:40:24 PM   
ThatDizzyChick


Posts: 5490
Status: offline
quote:

Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?

Nope

_____________________________

Not your average bimbo.

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/8/2016 12:39:55 AM   
DaddySatyr


Posts: 9381
Joined: 8/29/2011
From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?



Actually, I do ... for two reasons:

Let me say, first that I am not a submissive so, I really don't have any skin in this game.

That said, reason number one is simple: I believe any filter that helps to separate the wheat from the chaff on a site such as this is a plus.

Reason number two is: it would hamper the activities of the money-grubbing whores that aren't here to add to the lifestyle and are just looking to make a buck (or ten thousand of them).



Michael

< Message edited by DaddySatyr -- 5/8/2016 12:40:36 AM >

_____________________________

A Stone in My Shoe

Screen captures (and pissing on shadows) still RULE! Ya feel me?

"For that which I love, I will do horrible things"

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/8/2016 1:46:22 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		I'm afraid I don't. At least, not until such time that the site allows (and provides for) people to skip out on things that are a no go for them. Things like men who are only interested in NSA sex or poly people that can't manage to leave monogamous folks alone.

What you are asking for with your suggestion is for the site to treat people differently based on a very specific kink. That means, you want people treated as 'less than' based on one of your personal hard limits. Now, I'm not saying that you have to engage in kinks that you personally find distasteful. However, unless such filtering is used across the board regarding kinks, I wouldn't say one kink should be treated any differently than any other one.


_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/8/2016 6:28:01 AM   
crumpets


Posts: 1614
Joined: 11/5/2014
From: South Bay (SF & Silicon Valley)
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?


They already do.

You just have to know how to do it.

I have my profile search already set perfectly, for example, where it shows zero women looking for money/tribute/findommes.

Easy peasy.

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/8/2016 7:47:31 AM   
QualityFirst


Posts: 240
Joined: 5/2/2016
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

What you are asking for with your suggestion is for the site to treat people differently based on a very specific kink. That means, you want people treated as 'less than' based on one of your personal hard limits.



Not at all. On the contrary, some subs want a dom(me) who requires money.

Collarspace already offers selection criteria like height and weight, which seem to be very less important to me than whether it's about the huge difference between financial and non-financial interactions.

If one doesn't for example want to interact with a man, it is very simply to skip those profiles. But it often requires a lot more time to find out whether someone wants money.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/8/2016 7:48:45 AM   
QualityFirst


Posts: 240
Joined: 5/2/2016
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: crumpets
quote:

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?


They already do.

You just have to know how to do it.

I have my profile search already set perfectly, for example, where it shows zero women looking for money/tribute/findommes.

Easy peasy.


Could you please explain me how you do? Thank you in advance.

(in reply to crumpets)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 2:46:18 PM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?


I will say for the umpteenth time.

This is a FREE website. The software is old. The website does not have the money to make these changes to the software. So, unless you're willing to pay for it....you're going to have to suck it up.


_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to QualityFirst)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 4:37:38 PM   
crumpets


Posts: 1614
Joined: 11/5/2014
From: South Bay (SF & Silicon Valley)
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
Could you please explain me how you do? Thank you in advance.


Easy peasy.

But you have to be reasonable:
  • You can't search from 18 to 99 realistically (search bracketing your own age)
  • You can't search 1,000,000 miles realistically (search within 100 miles at most)
  • You can't search for anything looking for anything (search using realistic criteria)

    Then you have to set up your search:
    1. Set up your zip code correctly (press on My Account to be sure).
    2. Set up your search criteria as you see fit.
    3. Read each profile and put on hide any profile that is not desireable

    Undesirable profiles might be:
    a) Those asking for money or tribute or gifts or amazon wish lists, etc.
    b) Those with obviously fake photos (easy to doublecheck with google or tineye)
    c) Those who haven't logged in within a year or so (some last logged in around 2008, for example!)

    The result will be absolutely zero findommes, which I prove by showing you my actual results below!


    _____________________________

    I am a born follower - I faithfully take your lead - whether you are truly worthy - or - whether you are far less so - I key off your words - instinctively reflecting your tone in my every response. It's how I'm wired.

    (in reply to QualityFirst)
    • Profile   Post #: 11
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 4:42:24 PM   
    UllrsIshtar


    Posts: 3693
    Joined: 7/28/2012
    Status: offline
    quote:

    ORIGINAL: crumpets

  • You can't search for anything looking for anything (search using realistic criteria)



    • If you put in any weight criteria at all (no matter how large), all women who refuse to post their weight on an online website will not show up in your search.

    _____________________________

    I can be your whore
    I am the dirt you created
    I am your sinner
    And your whore
    But let me tell you something baby
    You love me for everything you hate me for

    (in reply to crumpets)
    Profile   Post #: 12
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 5:28:34 PM   
    crumpets


    Posts: 1614
    Joined: 11/5/2014
    From: South Bay (SF & Silicon Valley)
    Status: offline
    quote:

    ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
    If you put in any weight criteria at all (no matter how large), all women who refuse to post their weight on an online website will not show up in your search.


    Leave it up to you to find the potential loophole in my joke, but, nonetheless, I just tested it out.

    My joke still works, even if I set the weight criteria to "any".

    Whew!



    _____________________________

    I am a born follower - I faithfully take your lead - whether you are truly worthy - or - whether you are far less so - I key off your words - instinctively reflecting your tone in my every response. It's how I'm wired.

    (in reply to UllrsIshtar)
    Profile   Post #: 13
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 5:33:49 PM   
    QualityFirst


    Posts: 240
    Joined: 5/2/2016
    Status: offline
    quote:

    ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


    The website does not have the money to make these changes to the software. So, unless you're willing to pay for it....you're going to have to suck it up.

    Oh my dear lady...

    I'm a former IT professional. If adding one search criterium with, according to the traditional methodology,

    - the functional analysis
    - the technical analysis
    - the programming and updating of the database
    - the testing
    - the implementation in the production environment

    takes an IT professional more than one hour, than it's really a very slow guy.

    (in reply to OsideGirl)
    Profile   Post #: 14
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 7:34:22 PM   
    BitaTruble


    Posts: 9779
    Joined: 1/12/2006
    From: Texas
    Status: offline
    quote:

    ORIGINAL: QualityFirst



    Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?


    I'd rather see new software than a jury-rig to add something which is basically useless to 75% of the population here. The only group I can see this really helping are male submissives.

    Married/single would be of much more benefit.



    _____________________________

    "Oh, so it's just like
    Rock, paper, scissors."

    He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."


    (in reply to QualityFirst)
    Profile   Post #: 15
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/9/2016 10:00:10 PM   
    OsideGirl


    Posts: 14441
    Joined: 7/1/2005
    From: United States
    Status: offline
    quote:

    ORIGINAL: QualityFirst


    quote:

    ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


    The website does not have the money to make these changes to the software. So, unless you're willing to pay for it....you're going to have to suck it up.

    Oh my dear lady...

    I'm a former IT professional. If adding one search criterium with, according to the traditional methodology,

    - the functional analysis
    - the technical analysis
    - the programming and updating of the database
    - the testing
    - the implementation in the production environment

    takes an IT professional more than one hour, than it's really a very slow guy.


    OH, my dear cupcake....I know Eric better than you do.......

    _____________________________

    Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

    The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

    (in reply to QualityFirst)
    Profile   Post #: 16
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/10/2016 4:18:52 AM   
    QualityFirst


    Posts: 240
    Joined: 5/2/2016
    Status: offline
    quote:

    ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


    quote:

    ORIGINAL: QualityFirst



    Do you agree that Collarspace should provide a selection criterion with respect to the fact that the person requires money or not?


    I'd rather see new software than a jury-rig to add something which is basically useless to 75% of the population here. The only group I can see this really helping are male submissives.

    Do you think that the male submissives represent only 25% of the population here? Then, why is it that dominant ladies receive tons of messages from male submissives, whereas a submissive male almost only receives now and then a message from a dominant man?

    quote:

    Married/single would be of much more benefit.

    Or perhaps even better: attached/not attached

    However, both criteria could be implemented as well.




    (in reply to BitaTruble)
    Profile   Post #: 17
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/15/2016 11:50:51 AM   
    CalmedSubmission


    Posts: 1
    Joined: 6/22/2004
    Status: offline     		Perhaps criteria for the acceptance of gift cards, food stamps, and grocery coupons....may be beneficial when browsing a profile

    (in reply to QualityFirst)
    Profile   Post #: 18
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/15/2016 12:37:49 PM   
    verbatimguy


    Posts: 203
    Joined: 5/11/2016
    Status: offline     		Needs a button to allow us to pay off the debt in services rendered!

    (in reply to CalmedSubmission)
    Profile   Post #: 19
    RE: Selection criteria: findom(me)s - 5/15/2016 2:09:42 PM   
    Snitch


    Posts: 105
    Joined: 1/27/2013
    Status: offline     		All you need is a filter for "fin".

    (in reply to verbatimguy)
    Profile   Post #: 20
    Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
    All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Selection criteria: findom(me)s Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
    Jump to:





    New Messages No New Messages
    Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
    Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
     Post New Thread
     Reply to Message
     Post New Poll
     Submit Vote
     Delete My Own Post
     Delete My Own Thread
     Rate Posts




    Collarchat.com © 2025
    Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

    0.109