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ArkhosErebos -> Hello (5/8/2016 10:06:24 PM)
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I find these things… curiously necessary and all too often useless.
The only form of anything for pay I’ll consider, under the right circumstances, involves you paying me.
I am a Heterosexual Male, interested in women. Unless you’re a 100% believable (not just passable) totally gorgeous trans with absolutely no limits, all we can be is friends.
So please do not waste your time or mine.
Tell me what you see:
I am…
… a simple man, with complex views. A paradox, perhaps.
… straightforward and sincere. Honest to a fault. Which doesn’t mean I share everything. Which doesn’t mean I don’t expect you to (I do).
… obviously able to hold opposing views at the same time, not so obviously: without dissonance.
… an intensely independent, self determining individual.
… cerebral. Passionate. Eclectic.
… ideological, idealistic.
… in love with juxtaposition, at war with dualism.
… exploring myself.
I do not label myself a Dom/Daddy/Master, though my proclivities encompass those labels: I prefer to be the agent, not the subject. I am very open minded and flexible, within that parameter.
I mean that while I am most definitely the dominant, aggressive, alpha type in these situations, my eclectic nature extends to my interests within BDSM. I don’t have a specific relationship, fetish, or scene. I enjoy everything from mild bondage to… well, my limits are one of the things I’d like to explore. Especially in the extreme. But everything is of interest to me… I am curious to find what situation might best fulfill my needs.
There are a few very specific things I have absolutely no interest in, such as (but not limited to) scat play, infantilism, sharing (with another male), or being the subject (except for practical experimentation and personal growth, i.e.: I do not like to be bound, but I allow myself to be for experience and practice. I don’t enjoy pain, but I tolerate it for, again, experience and to increase my threshold). I don’t like bratty or purposefully difficult people. I hate drama, people who try to play head games and or manipulate me. I don’t think it’s ever worked. I don’t like rites and rituals for their own sake. I prefer purpose and meaning.
I would really like to discuss philosophies, experiences, motivations, drives and perspectives on the D/s and S&M dynamics.
I have a wide range of experiences in the lifestyle, from mild play to a few long term, real life D/s relationships, but am currently living a very vanilla life.
I am hoping to integrate my different interests, or to compartmentalize them, in an effective and productive manner that positively supports my needs and minimizes any negative causes or effects.
I am also interested in a relationship to, at least, temporarily relieve some of the stress of not being able to have this right now IRL or 24/7.
I believe chemistry and communication are the most important aspects of any relationship (even friendship). Looks are a part of that (when it’s more than a friendship). While I do have an ideal preference (petite/slim/fit) it is not an absolute requirement (I enjoy curvy girls as well… there’s just limits).
Shared interests are also useful, but in the most general sense: I love music, books, movies and TV, a little bit from every genre, with my biggest faves being Folk, Rock, Sci-Fi, Fantasy, Crime, Action, Comedy and Cartoons. I hate anything too serious or melodramatic, as well as anything too stupid.
In terms of kinks…
I obviously like being in charge ( I like the responsibility, discipline, and planning… I enjoy being meticulous, as well as the feeling of being in charge… I think, it’s not the power, but the sense of self, and the extension of self, inherent in the trust of the other. Knowing that a situation is completely a reflection of me, and how that brings out the best in me).
I like bondage. Impact play. I am a sexual sadist (I enjoy inflicting physical, psychological and/or emotional pain, in that order, in a sexual context. I find it sexually stimulating, yet abhor violence and abuse… though “abuse” is something I’d like to experiment with, in terms of non-normative behavior in non/pseudo sexual situations… such as with a house servant, bimbo, living doll/furniture/pet).
There are certain things I like because (again) of the trust involved, as opposed to any fixation, this includes breath, knife, and fire play.
I like cleanliness (enough to mention, and to have an almost fetish for grooming (women, not myself)).
I have a kink for women’s kinks… I find ‘perversion’ arousing. I especially like the Madonna/Whore sort of dynamic. I love a beautiful/innocent woman being (secretly) ‘depraved.’
My expected communications protocols:
Introduction (more than a paragraph, no more than a page, including details about sex/gender/orientation/age/location/interests)
Response (similar)
Then naturally from there, longer/more in depth messages, chat, phone, cam, maybe rl… in time.
If you want to develop something intimate with me, I will expect some verification at some point, but I also respect privacy, safety and discretionary concerns.
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