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arayofsunshine55 -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 8:36:39 AM)
Well Daddy is a geek. He's often multi-tasking with work, fixing computers, helping his teenager with homework, flirting with another gal, and the rest. Now we spend quite a bit of time face to face so this isn't the majority of our relationship. If it were, we would not be together cause it can be too irritating for me. As it is, he is really the only one with whom I IM. I find that people have a different set of socially acceptable behaviors with IM. They'll feel free to answer the phone, leave the room and all kinds of other things they might not do if you were talking on the phone or sitting face to face. So how do I deal with it? Waiting makes me irritable so I don't wait for him. I don't perceive it as waiting and if I find myself feeling that way I will move on to something else. He knows I feel this way about his multi-tasking and is really OK with me moving on until a time when he can devote more attention to me. And I don't take it personally. But being expected to sit around and wait, in some kinda holding pattern, while he does something else? regularly? That would have a chilling effect on our relationship. And neither of us wants that. Compatibility.

twistedkytten -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 9:32:03 AM)
Usuallly, i ask Master if He is busy at the start of any online conversation. depending on the answer i get, i will either choose to wait for His responses or ask to be excused until such a time He is not busy. He is very good at letting me know. Sometimes though there are long waits.. and at those times.. i am to wait for 5 minutes before logging off.

came4U -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:01:53 AM)
did people have to continue this? I'm already in troubleeeee [sm=rage.gif] (it he/she viewed me again lol) with you know whoooo. lol SHHHHH daaangit :(( so much for layin low.

umisprite -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:18:38 AM)
WOW, a post resurrected but worth some discussion at present, for me at least. As with many situations, being Ds does not rule out common courtesy. If it's a well established relationship I do what he wants...if he tells me to wait I wait. But we would have already discussed our concerns and expectations relating to our internet chat and such. If the chat is with someone new, still in the getting to know you stages, I do not wait around too long. If we are truly interested in getting to know each other we will not make each other wait. If the chat seems to be going extremely slow I will ask if perhaps another time would be better. If the chat is quick and free flowing and not at all like pulling teeth then I think it shows a genuine interest (but you never really know, do you?). I do not usually IM a Domly type first, unless it's to confirm a meeting or such. If we are both online and he wants to chat he will message me. As I am currently single I have been chatting with quite a few men ove the past few months. If the conversation seriously lags, he continually gets disconnected or disappears, keeps giving one word answers but asks a zillion questions of me, or the old standard "what do you like to do in the bedroom" questions within the first three minutes...I have no interest. My favorite of course is that first totally intense chat when you seem to have so much in common and he is sooo anxious to get to know you better then he disappears for a few weeks, resurfaces with one of those "hello, remember me?" IM's. Next! I'm old, I don't have a lot of time to waste on wankers.

sexyred1 -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:21:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: umisprite My favorite of course is that first totally intense chat when you seem to have so much in common and he is sooo anxious to get to know you better then he disappears for a few weeks, resurfaces with one of those "hello, remember me?" IM's. Next! I'm old, I don't have a lot of time to waste on wankers. I SO agree with you, it is beyond annoying when people just pop up and expect you to remember their sorry asses.

umisprite -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:32:09 AM)
Just another comment (then I have to get my butt to work). If I'm chatting with someone new and local, within a reasonable amount of time if he makes no indication of meeting somewhere for coffee or lunch or something...anything really...to move it into real time I won't be waiting around for that guy either. I like to follow a logical progression: a few chats then a few phone calls then, when we are both comfortable, a face to face meet in a very public place. There's only one way to find out if the chemistry is there.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:33:51 AM)
it always seems that that last part is often missing when getting to know someone online.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:41:37 AM)
Angel is bad about just disappearing from a conversation. Its been this long, and he stil does it. I dont get angry, though, since he does live on campus. When he disappears, it is usually not something he can help. He will expain when he comes back later. While the majority of his friends know of me, they dont understand why he would have to go back to his computer and let me know he was disappearing, jst bcasue we were chatting online. He doesnt have to do it for anyone else, and they dont do it... so I deal. Campus life doesnt always allow for undivided attention. My other boys are often just as bad, but they have less leeway for forgetting, since I know its ust them multitasking in too many places. I will tell them to find me when they are less involved elsewhere, and if it gets to that point they know they are in trouble. I have a few simple rules about contact online... if we are in a conversation, you tell me that you are distracted. If you start a conversation, you had better be able to talk, not tell me you have to rush off a few minutes later. And most important if I ask a question in IMs or email, you had better answer it. If I know up front someone is in the middle of something, I am more likely to be OK waiting for a resoonse than if they tell me I am their only conversation at the moment and then they go silent. DV

angelic -> RE: waiting on-line (8/11/2007 10:43:11 AM)
~deleted~ cuz i think i responded to the wrong thread! (i am such blonde sometimes).[8D]

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: waiting on-line (8/12/2007 7:18:56 AM)
I have a deep dislike of IM's...I prefer e-mail and phone...ach! maybe its just because I am an old fuddy duddy..but to me IM's are tiresome,due to many reasons..sometimes they can lead to easily misunderstood communication due to the quickness of its nature,you do not get into much depth because of all the typing it can entail, your butt gets sore sitting for any length of time,you need to be an excellent typist or you are screwed..lol..lack of any kind of inflection,ad infinitum...blechhh[:'(]...Tempting

slave4UMsMstress -> RE: waiting on-line (8/12/2007 11:21:03 AM)
Totally frustrating - to have to wait - but time and wisdom and patience are all on the side of people who are committed... it takes that to get to know someone real time as well - but it is a real bummer to have to wait so long.

atendersoul -> RE: waiting on-line (8/13/2007 2:50:37 PM)
over the many months in the beginning of my old profile before being accepted into the House two months ago, talked to a couple of Ones that W/we seemed to have some common interest, some just stating that they were my Mentor (for what ever that meant)...but the shocker was when it was decided this One to be Owner of this soul, these mentors told me that each one had an interest in ownership. Too much time had between without this knowledge and it was just assumed They were just friends.... in meeting Sir on line here and deciding to be with Him, it was a matter of three weeks before girl here was flown from GA to Washington to join Him. He decided what times after work was O/our time to chat either by phone or computer.

LaTigresse -> RE: waiting on-line (8/13/2007 3:19:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 This is why I hate trying to get to know someone online. IM and emails are a great invention, but nothing beats the phone and in person. Ditto.

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