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What makes you keep on giving? - 7/20/2006 6:30:25 PM   
sharainks


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Status: offline 		I thought about something that I recently posted to someone here and decided to ask others. 

What quality/ies does a dominant have that make you want to give, then give some more, then give even when it might seem the well of submission is close to empty?  What quality/ies does someone have that makes your heart swell with joy when giving to them?

Odd question probably but to me its the joy one gets in giving to another that is the key to submission to me.  To feel fulfilled and happy when one sets aside themselves for another with only the thought that the other will be pleased.
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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/20/2006 6:55:11 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		Today is our 15-month anniversary since we met and began this wonderful journey with each other. From the beginning I have kept journals and for the last few hours I have been working on organizing them all so that I can save the record of "Us". Over and over again I have been reading about how incredible my Sir was/is to me.

From that first journal entry to the one I just wrote today, my love for this man knows no bounds. It is endless and all consuming. He is my everything and he deserves to be. His love and patience in dealing with me as I went through a divorce and getting me to face the demons of my past takes my breath away. He not only takes care of me, but has willingly embraced my unmentionable. He is a man of deep honor and integrity. He knows me in a way no one has ever bothered. He delights in me. He desires not only my body, but my well being.

There is nothing I wouldn't do for him. He deserves anything he wants and I pray I'm always able to give it to him.


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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/20/2006 7:28:18 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		This is the first time that i have sat down and tried to really come up with a list of reasons to continue to serve my Daddy.  My immediate thought was he gives me what i need and was searching for...not very descriptive, I know. 

Besides being dead sexy, he is:

P assionate
L oving
A ggressive (in all the right ways...)
Y oung at heart
F inds humor in most every situation
U nderstanding
L oyal
O bservant
N ecessary...he has become very necessary....and makes me feel the same way 
E ncouraging

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/20/2006 9:37:38 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sharainks
What quality/ies does a dominant have that make you want to give, then give some more, then give even when it might seem the well of submission is close to empty?  What quality/ies does someone have that makes your heart swell with joy when giving to them?

Odd question probably but to me its the joy one gets in giving to another that is the key to submission to me.  To feel fulfilled and happy when one sets aside themselves for another with only the thought that the other will be pleased.

It's a mistake to believe that submissive = constant altruistic giver while dominant = muse of submission/taker.

There are plenty of doms who love to give, who love to provide, who love to share, who love to give of themselves to others to create a great relationship.

In fact, I think that's what makes a relationship work in the long term- everyone wants to give of themselves to form a fulfilling experience for everyone, including themselves.

We all should inspire eachother- because eventually, you do run out, you do have a bad day, sometimes you need to inspire someone else as you have been inspired.

It's not my job to inspire submission in anyone, and no amount of my giving will make someone into a good partner- it's a relationship between people who work and give together.

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/20/2006 11:23:14 PM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		Besides the fact that I believe I have an innate need to please and a desire to make other people happy, I think that for me, with a particular person, it would be thier personal qualities and for me. For me, the big turn-ons would be: 
(and maybe nobody as all of these qualities all the time, but some folks have more of them than others, I am sure). But -

***The relationship makes me feel protected and safe. This is the biggest one, by far.

- How that happens for me is probably going to end up being a matter of:

**Are they responsible? Do they pay bills, have a real job, do what they say they will do? 

**If they are able to really care and show it once in awhile (or often, in whatever way works for them, but affection is always wonderful).

*Generosity of spirit.

*Maturity.

*Diplomatic re: The way they treat others.

*Creativity re: They truly march to their own beat and drummer. Artistic creativity or an interest in art, reading (or even doing a bit of writing) re:Poetry, novels, and-or music is always good.

*Social Courage (not to be confused w/arrogance). Can they speak their piece, even if nobody agrees with them, and still think it's okay to do things "their way" (unless they are receiving practical advice of course, like how to do an activity safely, etc). Social courage is a much tougher nut for many than some people think it is.

*Dominant or submissive, can they focus on someone else besides themselves, be it a cause, or other people? (guess I covered thatw/generosity of spirit, though).

*A sense of humor is wonderful (it doesn't have to be blatant. I appreciate dry humor, too). Adventure-someness and a bit of playfulness is a plus, too.  

*Intelligence.

*Knowldege of how bdsm and the technicalities of some of the activity works well re: My reactions to it (I have little experience, so will need to, when the time comes, experiment as far as this would go).

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 7/20/2006 11:43:59 PM >

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 3:28:07 AM   
peta


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sharainks

I thought about something that I recently posted to someone here and decided to ask others. 

What quality/ies does a dominant have that make you want to give, then give some more, then give even when it might seem the well of submission is close to empty?  What quality/ies does someone have that makes your heart swell with joy when giving to them?

Odd question probably but to me its the joy one gets in giving to another that is the key to submission to me.  To feel fulfilled and happy when one sets aside themselves for another with only the thought that the other will be pleased.


What keeps me giving?    All that He/She has given to me.

I have yet to be in a relationship where i gave and he just took.  i am also seen as strange because as a slave i do not believe i give just because i 'need' to do so.  To submit to a Man takes much, a slave to all i am not.  Even in M/s it is an equal relationship, both giving and both taking to make it awesome.

peta

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 3:29:35 AM   
darkinshadows


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I cannot reply, as I do not know, nor completely understand what makes me submissive - it's my body and mind that responds naturally - it's like breathing.  Completely natural.  Not that isn't a struggle sometimes.  But the urge is still there.
Giving isn't just submission however, plenty of dominant personalities give all the time.
 
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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 3:31:43 AM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Pure love for that man keeps me going.

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Sing like no one is listening.
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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 3:40:22 AM   
sharainks


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Status: offline 		LA thats kind of my thoughts with it.  I keep thinking of something I read early on.  It was called something like "The Gift, the Giver, and the Glue.  It seems like its easiest and most enjoyable to give to someone who gives back from the heart and who isn't afraid of showing you how much they are pleased by what you do for them.

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 3:41:51 AM   
SirCumsSlut


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sharainks

I thought about something that I recently posted to someone here and decided to ask others. 

What quality/ies does a dominant have that make you want to give, then give some more, then give even when it might seem the well of submission is close to empty?  What quality/ies does someone have that makes your heart swell with joy when giving to them?

Odd question probably but to me its the joy one gets in giving to another that is the key to submission to me.  To feel fulfilled and happy when one sets aside themselves for another with only the thought that the other will be pleased.


Sir and I just recently celebrated our 8 yr wedding/collar anniversary....Let me just say that we had our share of ups and downs during that time and will have plenty more in the years ahead. 
 
What makes me keep giving is the simple fact that he is my heart and soul, and I will do all I can to keep that alive.........

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"Your firm hand and compassionate heart are what guide me in my journey....I am Yours, Sir" His slut

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 6:59:54 AM   
deltadawn


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Status: offline 		This year marked year 12 for us. 

We both give, we both take.  But what really keeps me giving is his love.

We have our struggles, life seems to make sure we all get our share, but when we need each other, the other is always there.

dawn

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 7:36:06 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		With all that he gives me, the well of submission does not come close to emptiness.

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 7:37:19 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

With all that he gives me, the well of submission does not come close to emptiness.

OK sure, what she said.

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RE: What makes you keep on giving? - 7/21/2006 7:44:45 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: Littlepita

Today is our 15-month anniversary since we met and began this wonderful journey with each other. From the beginning I have kept journals and for the last few hours I have been working on organizing them all so that I can save the record of "Us". Over and over again I have been reading about how incredible my Sir was/is to me.

From that first journal entry to the one I just wrote today, my love for this man knows no bounds. It is endless and all consuming. He is my everything and he deserves to be. His love and patience in dealing with me as I went through a divorce and getting me to face the demons of my past takes my breath away. He not only takes care of me, but has willingly embraced my unmentionable. He is a man of deep honor and integrity. He knows me in a way no one has ever bothered. He delights in me. He desires not only my body, but my well being.

There is nothing I wouldn't do for him. He deserves anything he wants and I pray I'm always able to give it to him.

I crave a relationship and Dominant like this..I am so happy for you pita....does he have a twin?..lol......Tempting

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