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LadyConstanze -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (6/2/2016 4:54:54 PM)
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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
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ORIGINAL: ProDommeNY
- muscledumdum
Please do not compare us to doctors and therapists.
Pro-Dommes are extremely talented individuals and we are putting our lives at risk everyday (at least in NY we are). It takes many many years to achieve certain skills and we continue to grow our skills in our profession. We deserve more pay than doctors and therapists because of this. Do you want an authentic experience of going to a dungeon and being treated a certain way? Where else can you get this? So you pay. $350+ per hour is reasonable.
You are putting your live at risk everyday? A police officer and a fireman do so much more than you. Instead of just satisfying the erotic needs of a client, they save human lives, but without getting $SUS 350 an hour for it.
How many years did you study at a university, working on average 60 hours a week while having to pay for it instead of earning money?
Do you think a doctor or a civil engineer don't need many years to acquire certain skills and to grow in their profession? The difference is that they have a much greater responsibility than you. To you, it's no problem when customers pay you $US 350 without being satisfied, you will not care about it. If a civil engineer builds a bridge which collapses, he goes in jail for many years.
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- QualityFirst
Men aren't "stupid" to pay $350+ for our services. They are intelligent people who realize our talent and skills. You're "stupid" for saying that....
Yes, insulting me, just because you don't agree with me, is really one of the best ways to show that you are of an extremely low level.
Yes, most professional dommes are not so low level like you and have talents and know-how. As I am submissive, I would never be able to dominate someone. And if I tried, I would certainly not be able to do so in a satisfying way for the client. Real professional dommes are not so low-level like you and have the ability to sense what a client wants and doesn't want, and to satisy him, even if they don't like him at all. That's certainly not easy, and i is worth a decent fee, but certainly not $US 350 an hour. The only reason why you can afford to have a client pay $US 350 an hour, is not at all your competence, but the strong sex drive of your clients (and to me, it's OK that you exploit this, but I would never let me dominate by such a mean low level woman like you, even if you paid me for it).
Steady on... Supply and demand certainly has something to do with it, like in any other business, if the market is saturated, the prices drop, however there is always quality. Also you minimize the risk, even in countries where it is legal, there is a risk, something going wrong, an ambulance, the police will be there.
For my job, I went to university for quite a while, it can be exhausting and demanding, however, I was a pro domme, simply because that was the best way to learn, and if you do apprentice and learn, you also go through years of training, learning all about sterilizing equipment, learning about safety, etc. You also have considerable expenses, equipment, outfits, etc.
I'm running a vanilla company, quite lucrative, extremely demanding, I'm doing quite alright. Comparing both, it's mentally and physically less demanding than being a pro domme and more lucrative and less risky. It really depends what you are doing, if you're willing to cross boundaries, I guess it's easy to make a quick buck with "fluff domination" and substitute real BDSM with sexual services, if you're doing edge play and you have boundaries, it's not so easy, you also screen your clients more (obviously, if you do edge play you don't want somebody who is not quite "all there" or lies to you about risks and physical problems - you would be surprised how many guys seem to have a death wish).
I like BDSM, it's kinda hardwired with me, but it is very demanding, you have to get into the head of the guys and girls you play with, especially if it is on a professional basis, not everybody is honest, most want you to be a mind reader. Not to mention the flakes, the potential stalkers, the guys not too keen on personal hygiene, the costs, the risks...
In all honesty, being a skilled domme is not something you learn overnight, you are also always flirting with several risks, it's not about the odd guy not meshing with you and being unhappy (and you can't do much if the chemistry just doesn't work in a session and whoever says that never happened lies), it is exhausting and demanding if you take it seriously. I don't know what you are into, but just ask yourself, would you be happy to be the 10th session of the day? In general the 350 you pay isn't for the hour, it's for the preparation time, the session and the work after that, as in clean up and sterilizing, which will happen again before the next session, not to mention the rent and the investments.
Of course you might get it much cheaper, but how happy would you be to risk your health with somebody who's treating you like you're one on a production line, who gives you a cookie cutter session and doesn't have the breaks in between to be able to atune to you and your needs?
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