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Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/29/2016 11:07:28 PM

canadamike222

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I'm kind of new to bdsm but tried it a dozen or so times over the last few years

It was great an all, the only problem is I feel it's left a mark on me in some way, I hope this makes sense but trying bdsm get me like the ultimate high, the only problem is the high wont go away, its kind of there all the time in the background

I used to be able to get excitment going to the gym, or work or whatever, now I feel numb when I do those things because the high i get isnt quite as high as the bdsm one, i am the sort of person who gets adrenaline rushes a few times a day but they make me crave bdsm now as opposed to making me psh myself int he gym or whatevrr

Its kind of affecting me, i just wondered if anyone else has been throuh this and can advise in anyway

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RE: Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/29/2016 11:09:55 PM

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It comes. It goes. It comes back.

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RE: Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/29/2016 11:12:10 PM

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That is what is considered a fixation. I would start with some self introspection to try and identify why you can't seem to connect with the other parts of your vanilla life. I fthat doesn't gain some traction, I would suggest talking to a kink friendly counselor.

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RE: Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/30/2016 1:14:10 AM

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BDSM is new for you... like your first sports car, it will be the most thrilling thing for a while. Enjoy it while you can. Eventually it become the new norm and thrill won't be all consuming! It will still be great, but it won't be all consuming and shiny new in comparison all the other joys in your life.

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RE: Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/30/2016 4:04:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

BDSM is new for you... like your first sports car, it will be the most thrilling thing for a while. Enjoy it while you can. Eventually it become the new norm and thrill won't be all consuming! It will still be great, but it won't be all consuming and shiny new in comparison all the other joys in your life.

That's kind of what I'm hoping for

For personal reasons I need to stop bdsm for the time being, I'm not saying I won't do it again, I most likely will but I'd like to able able to enjoy other stuff too

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RE: Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/30/2016 6:30:34 AM

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its because its new to you... give it time and it to shall not give you the same high as when you first started out...

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RE: Is it possible to get excited over other things again? - 5/31/2016 7:58:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: canadamike222

I'm kind of new to bdsm but tried it a dozen or so times over the last few years

It was great an all, the only problem is I feel it's left a mark on me in some way, I hope this makes sense but trying bdsm get me like the ultimate high, the only problem is the high wont go away, its kind of there all the time in the background

I used to be able to get excitment going to the gym, or work or whatever, now I feel numb when I do those things because the high i get isnt quite as high as the bdsm one, i am the sort of person who gets adrenaline rushes a few times a day but they make me crave bdsm now as opposed to making me psh myself int he gym or whatevrr

Its kind of affecting me, i just wondered if anyone else has been throuh this and can advise in anyway

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