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Dollydots -> Kink list (5/30/2016 11:30:37 AM)

Hi everyone..

I often get asked the question, what kinks am I into..
I really struggle with answering this at times, sure there are things I like/and or am curious about
But I honestly find for me ...it comes down to the core basics...

Of needing to be challenged and pushed

Does anyone else find they are like me?



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 11:35:55 AM)

There are many like you.

But... you need to elaborate on your limits and where you want to be pushed.
Just saying you want to be "challenged and pushed" really doesn't mean anything to anyone except you.
It's akin to saying "my car doesn't work"; you need to be more precise.

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Dollydots -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 11:38:28 AM)

Lol that is a conversation I would and have had previously before any form of play :)

I meant be pushed in a safe/sane way :)

Not pushed in front of a car lol



OsideGirl -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 11:44:00 AM)

Honestly, it was something that I didn't discuss with people until I had met them and had decided that I liked them enough to see again. It removed the possibility of tingly genitals confusing the issue.



Dollydots -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 11:48:00 AM)

Oh I love being open and chatting to people about kink, I think it's how you can develop and learn

Doesn't mean I'm going to submit to them...or meet them



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 1:37:31 PM)

quote:

Of needing to be challenged and pushed

quote:

I meant be pushed in a safe/sane way :)

Yeah, but in what areas? Bondage, anal, impact play, suspension, bimbofication, humiliation, breeding, modifiaction?



Dollydots -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 2:02:28 PM)

As I said already Dizzy...I struggle with lists ;)

and this post wasn't about what or what I'm not into...

But feel free to share what floats your boat :)




Lucylastic -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 2:29:30 PM)

I personally find it easier to keep a list of my limits up front of my mind, anything else that pops up is debatable.
But discussing kinks with another person doesnt mean that im gonna dominate them, or submit to them in anyway.
I had a lot of loves over on fl...then I split with my ex. Ive talked to a few people, about kinks and loves, and it doesnt mean that Im open to do them with just "anybody".
Reminds me I have to go and trim that list.



Dollydots -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 2:34:36 PM)

@lucylastic
Oh yeah totally....my limits list is VERY clear in my mind, and those are non negotiable
I like the comment 'anything else that pops up is debatable' I guess that's what I was meaning...I might steal that line ;)



verbatimguy -> RE: Kink list (5/30/2016 2:47:13 PM)

My advise is to start soft.
Do normel fetish things.
Bondage.
Discipline.
Sadism.
Masichism.

Do it without marks and without blood and without weapons and sharpe instruments.
Don't penetrate anything at first.
Certainly no body fluids.

Then see what you like of that and do more of that and expand slowly on thyat.
You will have a great time.



DocStrange -> RE: Kink list (5/31/2016 8:58:31 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dollydots

Hi everyone..

I often get asked the question, what kinks am I into..
I really struggle with answering this at times, sure there are things I like/and or am curious about
But I honestly find for me ...it comes down to the core basics...

Of needing to be challenged and pushed

Does anyone else find they are like me?

I think it really depends where you are at in your life. For me, I am older and I do not want to waste time getting to know someone if their BDSM interests are not compatible with mine.

I am not going to call it kink lists but I do want to know a person’s kink interests. This is a BDSM site and I am looking for a person who is into BDSM. I am going to want to know if the person has same or similar interests as mine. Those interests are both vanilla and BDSM.

A good example is that I am heavily into rubber. Why would I bother meeting a Domme who has no interest in rubber? I would want to know that up front so neither one of us waste are time.

So I am one of those people who is going to require to know what your BDSM interest are before I make the effort to court you.

The BDSM scene in my city is poor at best. This means I am more than likely going to have to travel to meet someone. I really do not want to waste traveling 2 to 4 hours or even longer to meet a person, court them and then 4 months into it find out the person hates rubber.

So there is a practical and reasonable side to asking about another person’s kinks



Greta75 -> RE: Kink list (5/31/2016 9:25:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dollydots
Of needing to be challenged and pushed

Then this is your answer. This is the basis of the kink you are into.

Yes, there will be many who is into the exact same thing as you.

As that itself is a kink as well.




AtUrCervix -> RE: Kink list (6/1/2016 3:35:48 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dollydots

Hi everyone..

I often get asked the question, what kinks am I into..
I really struggle with answering this at times, sure there are things I like/and or am curious about
But I honestly find for me ...it comes down to the core basics...

Of needing to be challenged and pushed

Does anyone else find they are like me?


No.

(Sorry)



DarkSteven -> RE: Kink list (6/1/2016 5:49:58 PM)

Let me ask the question another way.

What is it that you seek in a kink relationship that a vanilla relationship could not give you?

The answer to that will go a long way. I suspect that the kinks are not a fundamental thing you're looking for, and you want some kind of relationship thing.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Kink list (6/1/2016 11:05:01 PM)

quote:

As I said already Dizzy...I struggle with lists ;)

I was explaining freedomdwarf's question
quote:

and this post wasn't about what or what I'm not into...

Actually it is, at least according to your OP



JanahX -> RE: Kink list (6/1/2016 11:16:12 PM)

Well it's pretty damn important to be clear, to whoever the fuck you're interested in - what you dig, what you don't dig and if you & they share enough common ground that you are on the same page.

What your "core basics" are, doesn't mean shit to anyone else.
Example: your core basic could be a spanking, where Johnny's is: eating shit.
Get my drift?



Dollydots -> RE: Kink list (6/2/2016 8:26:47 AM)

Lol this forum is funny....



Inghammar -> RE: Kink list (6/6/2016 11:40:35 AM)

If you're having a hard time putting your desires into words - suggest a video, story, or other media that excites and interests you. If none exists, write your own. Erotic fiction places your writing a step away from yourself and helps with clarifying your needs versus your wants. If you are happy with the story, post it on your profile. It worked for me.



lthrpup -> RE: Kink list (6/8/2016 5:58:30 PM)

I've both shared bit by bit over multiple conversations and used a bdsm checklist as a conversation piece. I think a pared down check list with explanatory comments can be good, shared after getting to know someone.



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