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in need - 7/21/2006 7:04:35 AM

bisub53

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sub bi male in need of a good mistress to train me but where does one find one .been on this site for a time and nothing . could any mistress out there tell me where do i find a good mistress to train me to her liking . very open minded and obedient but can't seem to find a mistress to serve . if any one could help out here i would be thankful . maybe i am doing something wrong . can you help ?

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RE: in need - 7/21/2006 7:50:13 AM

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sub bi male in need of a good mistress to train me but where does one find one .been on this site for a time and nothing . could any mistress out there tell me where do i find a good mistress to train me to her liking . very open minded and obedient but can't seem to find a mistress to serve . if any one could help out here i would be thankful . maybe i am doing something wrong . can you help ?

I think the greatest problem is to limit yourself to looking only online.

Frankly my greatest success at finding potential partners has never come from online; it has always come when I'm involved in a local meatlife community be it munches, organizations, going to clubs, doing education events, going to conventions, etc.

Also keep in mind that purely vanilla folks have difficulties finding partners. Every added on thing any of us like or need or fantasize about can decrease the pool of potentials.

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RE: in need - 7/21/2006 7:51:09 AM

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Well bi, sometimes it takes longer than six months to find the Dom/me of your dreams. Unfortunately for you its a Dom/me's market with so many subs to choose from that you really have to make yourself stand out above the competition to get noticed. Try filling out your profile more. Talk about yourself, not just your sub side, but your whole self. Any Dom/me is going to want to get to know you as a person before deciding anything so having a detail profile will give them a good place to start. Also, mostlikely Dom/mes arent going to contact you so you will have to contact them. There is nothing worse than a one liner or generic message from a sub. Make it personal. And again let them get to know you before turning on the "I want to serve your every wish". Think about vanilla dating. You wouldnt proposition someone on the first date (or at least I hope not).

Also, if you havent already, get involved in your local scene. Go to a munch, contact a local, just get out there. This is not so that you can hit on every local you come in contact with though, that would be considered very bad form. This is so that you new local kinky friends can set you up with their other kinky friends.

And dont limit yourself to finding a Dom/me only. There are alot of kinky people out there who just dont know it yet. Its alot easily to find a nice man or woman who is into kink than to find a Dom/me who is a nice man or woman. So go on a few dates, test the waters, drop a few hints and see how things go.

This will all take a while so dont be surprised if your still on here in another six months. But Im sure you will learn alot in that time, and its the journey that counts right?

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