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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 3:27:14 AM

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I don't know I may be old fashion but I don't believe in telling Dominants hey this is what I want to get myself hot and horny.

we talk, they tell me what they want as Dominants and if I agree I serve, if I don't agree I move on simple as that.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 4:40:10 AM

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Not only that, but what self-respecting Dominant would want anybody who has to be "forced" into worship? Total buzzkill.

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Somewhat relatedly, a femdom I know once said, 'How low would a woman feel to think she had to *force* a man to lick her against his wishes?'

A small epiphany for me. I had what I think is a standard submale's absolute assumption: that any woman you find attractive will *know* that you want to lick her.

One argument I've heard a few time is that any lady who'd rather have her bits licked than penetrated is probably going to more interested in her peers (who have a better idea what they're doing) than blokes in any case.
Not 100% convinced that one isn't another stupid fantasy, but it's more convincing than some I've heard.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 8:00:55 AM

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SOme Dommes I have visited have used pussy worship as a "reward". I don't enjoy that as much because I don't feel I'm being dominated any more. Some others however made me feel as if I was being used and objectified. I found it demeaning and exciting and would like to experience it again. I apologise if I posted in the wrong place (I didn't think I was posting an ad) but I don't apologise for being interested in the subject and for hoping to enjoy more experiences like I have described.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 8:40:13 AM

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It sounds like something you enjoy doing, so why not treat it as a reward rather than a punishment? I know that the formalisation and ritualism is a big part of kink for a lot of people, and it sounds like you're more into role playing situations than "real" S&M, but honestly, if you enjoy cunnilingus why on earth is a Domme who treats it as perk rather than pretending it's something else an issue?

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 9:07:53 AM

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Forced bi, Forced consumption are often part of consensual sessions - why not forced worship?

No they are not, the fantasy of being forced may be, but if it is forced, then it is rape.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 9:10:05 AM

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It sounds like something you enjoy doing, so why not treat it as a reward rather than a punishment?

Because he likes to pretend he doesn't like it, he wants to pretend he is being made to do it against his will, just like the women who want to be "made" to be a slut.
It's just their way to indulge their kink without taking responsibility for it. Hell I used to be the same way regarding being a masochist, I used to tell myself I didn't actually like the pain, but that I liked going through it to please the guy. Once I admitted the truth to myself things got better. Really really way fucking better.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 5:09:55 PM

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Not only that, but what self-respecting Dominant would want anybody who has to be "forced" into worship? Total buzzkill.

Somewhat relatedly, a femdom I know once said, 'How low would a woman feel to think she had to *force* a man to lick her against his wishes?'

A small epiphany for me. I had what I think is a standard submale's absolute assumption: that any woman you find attractive will *know* that you want to lick her.

I know this OP is about "forced" worship, and not "forced" fem/sissification or "forced" bi; however, the common denominator with "forced" FemDom acts can be summed up in two words: Cognitive Dissonance.

I see this typically with males who are grappling to come to terms with their submissive tendencies.
They cannot yet "own" their submissive desires and crave a Dominant party to carry that burden of responsibility for them.
Rather than having submission to offer, they have only fetish fulfillment in mind by wanting to play the role of a Dominant woman's kinky bitch.

If this is what both parties want, then fine. But, more often than not, a Domme seeks to own a submissive partner as his Mistress-Owner (in a synergistic D/s relationship dynamic), rather than humor a male fetishist and/or "do-me" sub as her play partner bitch.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 5:51:30 PM

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Not only that, but what self-respecting Dominant would want anybody who has to be "forced" into worship? Total buzzkill.

Somewhat relatedly, a femdom I know once said, 'How low would a woman feel to think she had to *force* a man to lick her against his wishes?'

A small epiphany for me. I had what I think is a standard submale's absolute assumption: that any woman you find attractive will *know* that you want to lick her.

I know this OP is about "forced" worship, and not "forced" fem/sissification or "forced" bi; however, the common denominator with "forced" FemDom acts can be summed up in two words: Cognitive Dissonance.

I think that's too black and white to cover the gamut of the way subs feel about this, FO. For myself, the word 'forced' is over-the-top - but there's *something* that adds to it all if there's a pinch of something one might call 'force'. I suppose it's the difference between putting your head between someone's legs (because you really want to, of course) and that person grabbing you by the hair and pulling you towards ... the bodily part under discussion. (It's late, and I feel a strange urge to use euphemisms.

) There's clearly not much 'force' involved in just having your head pulled in ... but what there is, is fab. If one isn't conscious of the contradiction, I suppose 'cognitive dissonance' might well describe it. If one is conscious it, though - and one realises that the whole thing makes no sense, but love it despite that (or even because of it - which I think may be true in my case) ... then all's good. Or maybe even a lot better than good ....

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 6:05:22 PM

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I don't know I may be old fashion but I don't believe in telling Dominants hey this is what I want to get myself hot and horny.

Well there's a perfect recipe for an unsatisfying relationship.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 6:09:11 PM

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I don't know I may be old fashion but I don't believe in telling Dominants hey this is what I want to get myself hot and horny.

we talk, they tell me what they want as Dominants and if I agree I serve, if I don't agree I move on simple as that.

During this talking phase, you don't let them know what your desires are?

I wouldn't call that "old fashioned".

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 6:40:49 PM

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I think that's too black and white to cover the gamut of the way subs feel about this, FO. For myself, the word 'forced' is over-the-top - but there's *something* that adds to it all if there's a pinch of something one might call 'force'. I suppose it's the difference between putting your head between someone's legs (because you really want to, of course) and that person grabbing you by the hair and pulling you towards ... the bodily part under discussion. (It's late, and I feel a strange urge to use euphemisms. ) There's clearly not much 'force' involved in just having your head pulled in ... but what there is, is fab. If one isn't conscious of the contradiction, I suppose 'cognitive dissonance' might well describe it. If one is conscious it, though - and one realises that the whole thing makes no sense, but love it despite that (or even because of it - which I think may be true in my case) ... then all's good. Or maybe even a lot better than good ....

Well, there's "forced" and then there's forced, and OP didn't impress me as getting his dick hard with "forced": the *lite* version.

Speaking of Cognitive Dissonance - or would that be dissociative personality disorder? - OP also does not see getting access to lady parts as a reward, or as a FUCKING PRIVILEGE he obviously DOES NOT FUCKING DESERVE (the ungrateful bastard)... and no doubt SUCKS SHIT at doing....

His utter lack of regard as to whether the DOMME is deriving any pleasure from getting orally serviced by a second-rate passive sloth - which any red-blooded VANILLA man would find exciting when pleasing a lady with enthusiastic vigor - is pissing me off to no end, which is all I have to say for now.
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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 6:58:43 PM

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E cigs. Go for e cigs.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/14/2016 7:23:18 PM

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E cigs. Go for e cigs.

Thx, but those majorly harsh out my throat and I can barely puff on whateverTH they put into that vapor.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/15/2016 3:38:54 AM

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yup that's why I don't do it, I meet with Dominants or talk on the phone, we have a lot of conversations to see if a D/s compatibility is there and if it's not than I don't agree to submission. The trouble with me always looking online before is I stink at reading people so I have to get to know a person face to face before I can tell if it can work, I came across a lot of players that way, I may take my time but at least I can try to make sure if I make the right choice or not.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/15/2016 3:41:03 AM

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I don't really have any desires, my I guess desire if you want to use that word is to serve to Dominants that I can trust, respect and know that I won't have to worry about my life being in danger around them.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/15/2016 4:19:39 PM

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This girl's at the front of the line:

You know, for ages I prided myself on having the longest tongue of anybody I knew. Then I met some tiny, dainty looking girl at a pub who said, 'Oh yeah? Look at this!' ... And she produced a tongue that you could use as a heliport. Just astonishing.

Another thing: I honestly believe this is the first time ever on CS that I've bragged about the length of my tongue. I'm amazed at my own modesty.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Occasionally....verbal gold is placed at our feet.

This was one of those moments :) .

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/15/2016 4:32:00 PM

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Another thing: I honestly believe this is the first time ever on CS that I've bragged about the length of my tongue. I'm amazed at my own modesty.

Yeah, but how long can you hold your breath?

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/15/2016 4:36:13 PM

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The definition of a sadist.....................a man who has sex with a woman at night with his two inch penis and then kisses her goodbye in the morning with his 15 inch tongue.

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/17/2016 1:33:49 PM

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Op doesn't understand BDSM and must be tarred and feather immediately. You may seek solace in that 99% on here that think as you do

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RE: Forced Worship - 6/20/2016 1:25:13 PM

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If the woman you desire is hot for you -- everything should fall into place. Don't overthink BDSM, roles, and rules. First order of business is: does the desired woman even want to have dinner with you. There might be some other kind of threshold -- but no matter what it is -- that's what you have to identify and cross over first.

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