RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs

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Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/21/2006 10:53:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha I actually agree with both these statements, but it's not just women that play this game. That i learned from personal experience.[sm=banghead.gif] Sadly, the War Of The Sexes leaves everyone a little wounded. :-( <~ Been there, still Burning the damn T-shirt

BeeQueen -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 2:11:47 AM)
i would bee interessted in the reason y u post this treat did a sub/slave complain?? or do u feel urself that the motivation y u humilitate someone else is not out of BDSM reason? id ask myself y i feel the urge to cuss a sub.....especially if the person addressed has nothing in mind with humiliation and verbal abuse. ask the person if they feel ok with that beehavior..and if not ..STOP it.

Sasy -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 2:34:21 AM)
Just my two cents .... I think his profile tells the ones that MIGHT be interested in him what they are in for..... LOL Me now however I would put his profile on hide and likely block if he fell into my search list.....

Wolfie648 -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 2:42:51 AM)
"I am a Master and I like to use verbal abuse including put-downs at times. For example, if a slave does something stupid I like being direct and telling him he's a idiot. I'm finding that this is not generally accepted practice, yet I like it because it allows me to communicate openly and directly. " If you are a master who cares what other people find acceptable. Do it, own it, be it. If they don't like it they aren't the one(s) for you. Don't abuse them in the process, assist them through themselves. D (owner of j).

ClassAct2006 -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 3:17:15 AM)
You just need to find someone who fits with how you are then. I like dominant men who make me feel good about myself, who say, well done and good girl and improve me. I like tact and consideration of feelings, praise not punishment and a belief that if I really want to please and I don't then may be he's more likely to have got things wrong than I have

Avrilkiller -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 3:57:08 AM)
That would be a hard limit for me as well. There's just something about verbal abuse that is so totally different and worse than physical discipline. I think, for me, it's that having a somewhat structured "You did this, so I'll spank you/no dinner etc." punishment represents that I was naughty, and must be punished. But being yelled at that I'm an idiot is not. A spanking disciplines for one wrongdoing, and afterwards, you are forgiven. Being called a comeplete idiot...that's permanent. You're not saying they're only worthless for a few minutes, you're permanently cutting them down. Also, just somehow, somehow indescribable, verbally being shut down is just different and much, much more painful than physical punishment. It just makes you feel completely unloved, not at all like I'm being taught a lesson, more like I'm being rejected. Well, that's my input.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 4:09:18 AM)
I had verbal abuse and put downs from my ex for 30 yrs...never again!!!

agirl -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 7:43:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50 I had verbal abuse and put downs from my ex for 30 yrs...never again!!! Hello cuddleheart, I can understand that. The context and the emotional manipulation behind that type of thing is what creates the hurt and can be intolerable and damaging. In my post earlier, I mentioned that my Master calls me a fuckwit at times and , in fact, I can imagine that someone outside of our relationship might look askance at him, now and then, with the way he speaks to me, teases me or refers to me. They may not see or understand the interplay between us, they may not understand the humour that we both share OR the type of pragmatic approach we both have to our relationship. I like my Master pulling my pig-tails....I like the fact that I can be a complete fuckwit and have a slightly exasperated but smiling Master mentioning it. There's a world of difference. In negative circumstances I might feel or view it VERY differently. Regards, agirl

feastie -> RE: Verbal Abuse & Put-downs (7/22/2006 9:03:25 AM)
fast reply I'd typed a long and thoughtful reply earlier, but the server ate it. So, for Take Two, I believe I'll just post the gist without all the nice stuff. You know, open and direct communication. So, yeah, you probably can find some guy who is mentally unhealthy enough to allow you to call him stupid and an idiot because you don't feel like exercising any self control. So, do you want an idiot for a slave? Someone stupid? I don't think you do. You don't want to exercise self-control? That only makes you look bad. But hey, it's your life, good luck with that.

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