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Training a Submissive to anticipate My needs - 7/21/2006 9:23:12 AM

MstrsOrlando

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What are some of the experiences that some Dommes have had in teaching their submissive or slave to be more attentive to their needs? I suppose I'm asking how do you train a submissive to anticipate your needs?

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RE: Training a Submissive to anticipate My needs - 7/21/2006 9:32:51 AM

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Let them get to know you. Be very specific in your tastes in the beginning and train them to know when you want something and when you want to be asked. As time goes on, your slave will be able to know wheen you need something and hat you need. Of course, nobody is a mind reader but the effort will be there.

If this is an issue of them not even trying, make sure they understand that this is an expectation you have. Some slaves are used to direct orders and will carry them out when requested but may feel they are stepping over a line to do something or act in a certain way when an express order was not given. Reassure them that you like having a slave who does not need to be micromanaged and is able to anticipate your needs.

It will take some time and communication but once you have established a pattern and he or she gets to know you better, it will come. Also, reward your slave with praise and show your appreciation when this successfully occurs. This is the best way to get the slave to continue striving to anticipate your needs IMO.

:) good luck

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RE: Training a Submissive to anticipate My needs - 7/21/2006 1:16:55 PM

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What are some of the experiences that some Dommes have had in teaching their submissive or slave to be more attentive to their needs? I suppose I'm asking how do you train a submissive to anticipate your needs?

This is about 75% of the training I do -- I do a minimum 14 week training period before I talk about possibly owning someone.

First, know what your needs are.

Second, write them down as best you can.

Three, have the submissive practice doing the things you know you need regularly.

Fourth, have the submissive interview you -- its another way for them to get to know you, let them decide on the questions and you be honest and full in your replies.

Fifth, have them shadow you for a few days. Not on full duty but just to see how you live day to day.

Sixth, when they step in and get you something you need, say "thank you" or "good boy/girl". Positive feedback greatly encourages this type of attentiveness.

These are the things I do. It doesn't take just 14 weeks cause our needs and desires change over time, but you can figure out if someone has the ability and the willingness to be this attentive in that time I think.

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RE: Training a Submissive to anticipate My needs - 7/22/2006 1:35:01 AM

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nobody is a mind reader...but if i find out to train them to read my mind...i gona share the wisedom. untill that happens i express myself clear in simple orders....very important to not give contradicted ones (ever tried to give a horse hey and ho in on move?) .
the most of anticipation i expect is that when we walk some place...that he opens the doors.....puts chair....gets my coat...or when we have a drive that he gets the car before i stand out on the street.............but that is already hard task *winks*

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RE: Training a Submissive to anticipate My needs - 7/23/2006 11:10:11 AM

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Its hard to be a mind reader like most have said.
So you need to be clear on what you want.

I think Tammyjo has some great steps you can use.

In reality We are always changing and have bad days,so its impossible to get them to know your every whim.

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