Dauric
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There are some who are naturall leaders, ther are others that are naturally subserviant. It's just the way that they are. People in these relationships recognize their own tendencies, and temper their tendencies in such a way that they are under control.
I am a natural leader, oftimes wether I want to or not. In any group I end up in some way in charge. Without some of the perspectives I have found in the D/s writings I could easily abuse that tendency, making submissively inclined people do things against their interests. By knowing that I am a dominant personality I also know that some people of a "needy" personality will seek me out. I can protect myself from those who would demand that I do their thinking for them.
People who are naturally submissive but do not know it often get themselves in to bad, frequently abusive, relationships. For a submissive to recognise what their tendencies are is half the battle in protecting themselves from people who would abuse them. A submissive who does not know that they are often test the patience of others around them with constant "needy" behavior.*
"Owning" a slave is not an 1800's kind of slavery where the master seeks an unwilling slave captured from some other continent and buys them from the slavers. The slavery of BDSM is one where the submissive consents to the relationship, recognizing that they need a leader in their life. The Master consents to leading the slave because that is who they naturally are and they do not wish to, in blindness of their personality, force themselves on someone who would not accept that.
These hold true for both masters and slaves regardless of their gender.
*I think most everyone has had to deal with someone who constantly asked how to do the same task at work or in school regardless of how many times that they were instructed. Psycological studies show that this is not so much raw stupidity as we often think of it, but rather a plea for attention and direction.
Now there are those who seek a BDSM relatinnship for less honrable reasons. Insecure, vengeful "masters" and lazy, demanding "submissives". They are pitfalls to any relationship, "Vanilla" or "Lifestyle". Some will get in to this subculture and learn more about themselves and become better people, others will be wantonly blind to the ways that the BDSM culture acually works to better those within it, others will continue to be a boat-anchor around the neck of those they associate with.
Finally: maysubgirl, when you post to a group like this, be respectful. If te only reasons you can think of are negative ones, don't post them as a multiple choice thing, just ask the question. If you -must- post sample reasons, then challenge yourself to balance your viewpoint.
From the posts of others in this thread it is some wonder that you haven't been banned from the boards already. Be thankful that this community is tolerant.
But this is all just my own $0.02
Dauric.
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