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can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/21/2006 11:12:44 AM   
maysubgirl


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Status: offline 		when you spank your  sub  (as punishment)  dont you feel bad when they cry or weep ...... do  you stop  if  they cry or weep or  keep doing it  until punishment is complete ?

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/21/2006 12:27:41 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I am not a fan of tears and yes I will sometimes feel bad about being the cause of it.  However, punishment was necessary not because of something I did but something the slave did (or failed to do).  The slave deserved it.  So nope, don't stop, don't let it affect me.  I will, however, forgive and forget and carry on once punishment is over.  I don't believe in hanging on to it.  It's over.  It was dealt with. 

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/21/2006 1:09:16 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		If it is a punishment, then it continues until it is done.

I would never touch someone hard enough to do physical damage and the fact that it is a punishment means it bettter be affecting them emotionally. I'd take the tears or crying as a sign it was affecting them.


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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/21/2006 2:17:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Exactly! I mean, if they are laughing its not exactly a punishment.

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/21/2006 3:20:54 PM   
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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/21/2006 8:03:28 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		If its punishment he just has to deal with it until I am done. If we are scening he's usually to far out into subspace to even think to cry. So far he has never cried on me and being such a painslut I doubt he ever will.

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/22/2006 2:04:05 AM   
thegunslinger


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Status: offline 		If it's during a punishment, I wait until the punishments over. If it's during a scene I might ask once or twice, but not stop until I heard the safeword.

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/22/2006 2:31:15 AM   
BeeQueen


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Status: offline 		agreed...safeword is the key
IF i ever give a physical punishment....than its off when the safeword falls
same in a session .....
but tears per se...dont make me stop anything...

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/22/2006 12:48:39 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Hey BeeQueen good to see you, havent seen you post in awhile.

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/22/2006 8:09:53 PM   
MistressWolfen


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Status: offline 		no I would not stop...punishment is punishment and not to be manipulated out of...in a scene tears turn Me on *shrugs*...I am mad what can I say


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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/23/2006 2:01:30 AM   
Nikolette


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Status: offline 		I certainly don't stop the punishment until its over, and generally I don't feel bad because my slave maybe crying. Occasionally it irritates me even because I feel like it can be a way of him trying to manipulate me, especially if he cringes unproportionately to the hardness of the strike.

I want my submissive to try to be stoic in the face of unpleasntness, I don't expect him to be perfect, but I certainly want an effort applied. I additionally aim for him to be repentant, opposed to sorry- which I've heard defined as "sorry enough to stop." Thus I want the punishment to fit the crime and I want it accepted as graciously as possible- and then bad behavior discontinued. If he seems really upset by the punishment I usually try to tenderly explain the issue again (afterward), and WHY I am punishing him- which is out of affection and a desire to direct him to our mutual relationship satisfaction. He can learn out of negative behaviors and be happier for it.


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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/23/2006 3:20:35 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Tears used to bother me a lot more than they do now.  Sometimes a sub needs to cry, and it's a mistake to change what you're doing or try to get her to stop crying.  More than once I've been thanked for letting someone cry.  I think it takes most doms a little while to grasp that tears aren't always bad.

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/23/2006 8:19:03 PM   
Mtldomme


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Status: offline 		I so agree with you. There are times when a sub DOES need to cry. For some, it's considered healthy not to mention a good release of feeling pent up. Yes, it can be hard to see them cry, but in the end, after you wipe those tears, the look you see after they've calmed down....

it's a wonderful feeling!

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/24/2006 2:12:16 PM   
JessicaLashes


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ORIGINAL: maysubgirl

when you spank your  sub  (as punishment)  dont you feel bad when they cry or weep ...... do  you stop  if  they cry or weep or  keep doing it  until punishment is complete ?


i dont feel bad because i enjoy punishing guys, infact it excites me and turns me on.  however i could never punish a another woman with pain or anything that would make her cry.

when a guy friend asks me to punish him, or i'm in the mood to punish someone and he consents to let me, that means i choose the beatings and i alone decides when the punishment is over.  in fact if the slave resists crying out then i know that what i am doing to him isnt as servere as it needs to be.  so each stroke will keep landing harder and harder untill he cries out in pain, that is when the punishment starts, not when it ends.

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/25/2006 4:42:24 AM   
submaleslaveuk


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Status: offline 		Well thanks for the insight there JessicaLashes and have to say Your thoughts are commenable!!

Isnt there more than one type of crying though? dont some subs just get overcome with emotion so it isnt the actual spanking or discipline that makes them cry but the strong emotional connection You can get with Your Master/Mistress??

Take care all

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RE: can you see your loved once crying and weeping - 7/27/2006 2:22:27 AM   
CowgirlTough


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Status: offline 		My slave's crying has never  bothered Me other than I feel that I have gotten the message across that he messed up. I agree that sometimes the emotional tie with Me causes his tears as he is trying to manipulate Me but also he realizes as he should that he made the mistake and disappointed Me and the tears are his way of showing his realization and his sorrow for that.

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