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no reply - 7/12/2016 4:40:09 PM   
johnsk


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Status: offline 		When a sub messages a Domme, often there is no interest so no reply. Makes sense. Not as good as a thanks for your message but no interest. Best wishes.
What does bother me is to have my messages deleted unread. How does one explain that? Just venting..thanks for listening.
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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 4:43:56 PM   
debydeb


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Status: offline 		dont take it personal is all i can say because on this site people get loaded with unwanted emails... did you read the profile first to see if maybe they didnt want to be contacted????

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 5:01:22 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: johnsk

When a sub messages a Domme, often there is no interest so no reply. Makes sense. Not as good as a thanks for your message but no interest. Best wishes.
What does bother me is to have my messages deleted unread. How does one explain that? Just venting..thanks for listening.

Because she knew before she opened it that she wasn't interested.

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 5:08:20 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: johnsk
How does one explain that? Just venting..thanks for listening.

Do we really have to go through this again?

<Sigh>

OK, first off, I have that neat sig line at the current time that says, "If I do not know you, I will delete your email unread". Pretty simple, really. If you put a sign on your door that says "no solicitors," what does that mean to you?



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Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 5:41:48 PM   
ThatDizzyChick


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What does bother me is to have my messages deleted unread. How does one explain that?

Oh that's easy: they didn't want to read it.

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 8:04:58 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Also, they can hover the cursor over it and read the beginning of it without it showing as "read".

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 8:27:11 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Also, they can hover the cursor over it and read the beginning of it without it showing as "read".

I can't if I'm on the tablet.

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 9:20:48 PM   
Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Also, they can hover the cursor over it and read the beginning of it without it showing as "read".

I can't if I'm on the tablet.

nor on my phone

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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 9:22:54 PM   
ThatDizzyChick


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RE: no reply - 7/12/2016 9:25:24 PM   
Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: johnsk
What does bother me is to have my messages deleted unread. How does one explain that? Just venting..thanks for listening.

They probably were read. On this site, if you hover the cursor over an unopened message, it shows the first few lines of content, without ever actually opening it up. Many people read the little bit they get in that pop-up window and decide whether to actually read it (meaning open it) or not.

So while you may have a notification showing deleted unread, they probably have actually read it, just were not interested.

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RE: no reply - 7/13/2016 5:23:21 AM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I used to find it disheartening when I was actively looking. In fairness to you, you're not whining like a baby, which is what some posters have done on this topic in the past.

I've got four tips for you, which you've probably already figured out but hey...

1) Develop a really good filter. If you're seriously looking for a relationship, think a little about each profile you come up against. Crazily emailing every 25 y/old 5'3" profile with an absurdly professional looking profile pic isn't going to make anyone happy. So... does the person say something interesting in their profile text. Have they listed a decent mix of nilla and kinky interests, are they within a reasonable distance of you. What might you say to them in an email that would indicate that you're a) genuine and b) have read their profile

2) Make the first sentence interesting... not just "Hiya, how are you?" - Perhaps "I saw you like sailing...." - That way if they hover over it they can see you're in the 1% who have bothered to read their profile

3) Make sure your profile is up to scratch... make sure a potential partner knows what you're like, that you're sane, and that you're for real

4) Don't sweat it - Plenty of females here get hundreds of emails... newcomers can get pages of emails in an hour... so often they'll just bulk delete loads of them.

Over time, if you put a little thought and effort into it your reply rate will improve considerably.

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RE: no reply - 7/13/2016 9:55:21 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Crazyml's got some good suggestions. Let me add to them.

Your profile says that you'll pay for a spanking with a dinner out. By making it a quid pro quo, you're cheapening it and making them feel used. Instead, make it clear that you're looking for friendship with play instead of simply a spanker.

Your last paragraph needs to be changed. Right now, it specifies certain kinks. Instead, simply say, "Hey, it's not just all about me. I'd welcome you telling me what you'd like as well. Let's talk!"

Delete all your journal entries. They're not helping you. Instead, write something like, "I was listening to the radio yesterday, and a Beatles song came on. Love Me Do. It took me back fifty years. Isn't it incredible what a song can do?" Or "I've got an oboe at home. Had it forty years. I'm learning to play it, little by little." Something that shows your humanity.

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"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: no reply - 7/14/2016 6:29:56 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		Your profile isn't bad, but it is not great. If you can afford to do so upload a picture of you(ideally) or pictures you have taken.

Truth be told I just cant find anyone decent to mail in my lands, or south of the wall. That does not mean they do not exist it means they are lost within the crowd of scammers and fake profile and cheats and liars...which is the bulk of these sites...Yes it is and incidentally half those women you mailed are not actually women sighs :( Therefore amend your profile and be more selective. And also join fet pof (tis allowed, but stay here and support this place it has been around a very long time(12-14 years?)..although its userbase is in free fall and rock bottomed a long long time ago..which had nothing to do with me or some above me.

Maths wise if I sent 100
0 may actually reach someone genuine.
But some will get through

Women are rare on here and I envisage that not changing in the foreseeable future - what say you men regulars, and you women regulars, and couples?

I have no issue with anyone honest, not a secret....but the biggest culprits online are lying "attached" men, then scammers and thats pretty much it. There numbers are so vast they can dilute all gene pools across all sites....but mathematically that still leaves more genuine men than women so i feel sorry for the genuine men most of all...unless you can talk malarkey to woo women

i have no idea who you mailed but I doubt very much 50% reached someone genuine.

As I said make your profile better and be more selective

edited to add

being a man on a fetish site you must stand out from the rift raft



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RE: no reply - 7/16/2016 10:27:50 AM   
johnsk


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Status: offline 		I think the true answer is what Steven said about running the cursor over the msg, seeing it and it not registering that the msg. was read. Makes perfect sense. thanks.
johnsk

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RE: no reply - 7/16/2016 3:05:31 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: johnsk

I think the true answer is what Steven said about running the cursor over the msg, seeing it and it not registering that the msg. was read. Makes perfect sense. thanks.
johnsk
Here's the thing - if they're using a tablet or phone, they don't have that ability. So, your reasoning only true about 50% of the time.

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