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Murphster -> Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 1:35:11 PM)
So, on other websites there is a great bemoaning of the fact that Masture men (i.e. 45 to 70 years old) are plentiful AND horny/available. But the same age group women are just not anywhere to be found. Now the standard responses involve menopause...but i know that menopause effects women differently, some get asexual while some get even more horny! So where, exactly, are all those "mature" kinky ladies hiding? Did they not watch "50 shades of gray", get rebuffed by hubby for even suggesting such things, and then want to find someone out there for some fun? Aren't there women in sexless marriages, who basically have a hall pass to find someone to "relieve" their hubby of all that hard work he no longer wants? Aren't there kinky mature couples that just want to try a MFM? Woman's sewing circles that need something NEW to try on Friday night? Alas, we seek, but we do not find!

LilJuly76 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 1:50:42 PM)
ah yes mention 50 shades of this is not BDSM and the count down begins. 10-9-8-7-6-5.....and so on

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 2:14:55 PM)
We're around, and we're selective. Edit: and tend to be dismissive of cheating married men.

OsideGirl -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 2:25:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Murphster So where, exactly, are all those "mature" kinky ladies hiding? Well, in my case, I'm not hiding - I'm happily married to M, having a blast. quote: Did they not watch "50 shades of gray" Why would I want to read/watch a terribly written book about a dysfunctional, Non D/s relationship? quote: get rebuffed by hubby for even suggesting such things, and then want to find someone out there for some fun? So, your assumption is that "mature" kinky women are all unhappily married and looking to cheat? quote: Aren't there women in sexless marriages, who basically have a hall pass to find someone to "relieve" their hubby of all that hard work he no longer wants? Cheating is absolutely despicable. So, the reality is that you don't care about ethics or trust, as long as your dick gets sucked. quote: Aren't there kinky mature couples that just want to try a MFM? I'm sure there are....but it's up to you to be someone that they want to be with. quote: Woman's sewing circles that need something NEW to try on Friday night? Stereotype much? quote: Alas, we seek, but we do not find! Judging by this post, I'm guessing that the reason you're not finding, is you.

LilJuly76 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 2:39:21 PM)
OsideGirl is correct yet again! in my sewing circle we dance naked in the moonlight not cater to horny toads

OsideGirl -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 2:45:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 OsideGirl is correct yet again! in my sewing circle we dance naked in the moonlight not cater to horny toads My sewing circle involves the needles going through skin.....but ya know....[sm=angel_girl.gif]

LilJuly76 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 2:50:32 PM)
oh that's good to especially if you get into subspace like me, whhhhhhhheeeee high as a kite!

LadyPact -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 3:30:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Murphster So, on other websites there is a great bemoaning of the fact that Masture men (i.e. 45 to 70 years old) are plentiful AND horny/available. But the same age group women are just not anywhere to be found. Now the standard responses involve menopause...but i know that menopause effects women differently, some get asexual while some get even more horny! So where, exactly, are all those "mature" kinky ladies hiding? Did they not watch "50 shades of gray", get rebuffed by hubby for even suggesting such things, and then want to find someone out there for some fun? Aren't there women in sexless marriages, who basically have a hall pass to find someone to "relieve" their hubby of all that hard work he no longer wants? Aren't there kinky mature couples that just want to try a MFM? Woman's sewing circles that need something NEW to try on Friday night? Alas, we seek, but we do not find! Your first mistake is being under the impression that women, kinky or not, need the internet to get laid. I'm not submissive, but I'm in that age group. If somebody thought I needed an account on a kink site to accomplish the goal of finding and engaging in sex, I'd probably laugh so hard my sides would hurt. It ain't exactly that hard to find guys for MFM, either. There's a club not thirty minutes from my house that has swinger nights, if I was so inclined. Much better option than the internet.

peppermint -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 4:02:18 PM)
Cheaters are not highly sought after, no matter what the age. Many women are picky as to whom they choose for sexual partners. Apparently cheating and whining are not attractive to the women you are targeting. Why you brought up 50 shades is beyond me. Is that your idea of BDSM? I read the first book and it was nonsense.

LilJuly76 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 4:20:29 PM)
a lot of newbies think that's what BDSM is. I made the mistake after meeting up with someone online, which I'm very picky with after that, found out he was a cheater, he went to the bathroom and his wife phoned his cell, he was lucky I didn't cut off his penis.

kiwisub22 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 4:37:44 PM)
Some of us ARE online. looking for kinky men. I would guess that the majority of us are looking for a relationship, rather than friends with benefits (not that there is anything wrong with that). And once we find that person, we aren't looking anymore. After my dom died, I was one of those seeking-submissives, and I found a lovely man - even though he isn't dominant. He is, however sadistic as hell, which definitely pushes some of my buttons. And my sewing circle makes quilts, where the kinkiest thing going on is sewing myself to my quilt - by accident naturally, because I really don't want blood on my quilts.

DesFIP -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 6:53:15 PM)
The older women get, the more picky we get. Which means you have to be a lot better than you are. Figuring that all you need to offer is a dick isn't going to get you any takers. In case you don't know, we can buy a vibrator to get off. You can be easily replaced, and apparently, you have been.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/21/2016 11:13:57 PM)
Watches the Animal Traps, Land Mines and popcorn bags getting set off...

DarkSteven -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 1:10:59 AM)
I find loads of women of all ages who are willing to play with an older man nonsexually (spanking and bondage). I make sure they know that sex will not be involved, and that my sub is aware of what I do. Part of it is that I'm somewhat active in the community.

Murphster -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 3:18:50 AM)
thanks for all the comments. things to consider. I can see why a lot of married people lie about that on their profile page....so as not to get lambasted. LOL. Yes i probably need to start going to munches to meet local people....too lazy i guess. It would help if the wife was less vanilla and wanted to come along. was thinking of getting her to go to the kinky con tomorrow to see if that gets her more interested in the local community. and i personally am DEVASTATED to find there is no sex in those sewing circles! i always fantasized about being a sewing machine repair man.....

LilJuly76 -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 3:28:13 AM)
why is it I come across so many married men that are married to vanilla women and he can't get he interest in kink or BDSM so he looks elsewhere behind her back. at least I came across one incident where the female told her husband it was ok to engage in kink and she even came down to the club to watch what he was doing with a submissive. at least that's straight up and not behind someone's back. my parents cheated on each other, I guess that's why I'm against cheaters.

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 4:09:39 AM)
Ignore all the other advice and make it easy on yourself. Tell your wife you want someone to give you orders, set standards, give you chores to do, boss you around. She may jump at the chance. Most vanilla wives I know would kill for a husband who would do the laundry, cook meals, drive the kids places, mow the lawn. Why do for a stranger what you could do for your own family? Heck, she may even tie you to the bed and make you watch a Lifetime movie marathon as a reward.

Murphster -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 5:55:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss Ignore all the other advice and make it easy on yourself. Tell your wife you want someone to give you orders, set standards, give you chores to do, boss you around. She may jump at the chance. Most vanilla wives I know would kill for a husband who would do the laundry, cook meals, drive the kids places, mow the lawn. Why do for a stranger what you could do for your own family? Heck, she may even tie you to the bed and make you watch a Lifetime movie marathon as a reward. yeah, except i am not submissive! [:D] i DO do all the cooking and food shopping, would that count? Maybe get her to let me tie HER up?

OsideGirl -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 9:40:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Murphster thanks for all the comments. things to consider. I can see why a lot of married people lie about that on their profile page....so as not to get lambasted. LOL. Do you know why they get lambasted? This is a lifestyle based on trust. As a submissive you are literally putting your life into the hands of a Dominant. And cheaters, as a Dominant, have just proven that they can't be trusted.

WickedsDesire -> RE: Mature Submissive Ladies (7/22/2016 11:33:12 AM)
Women are rare on these places so I will correct that fact. Genuine and also looking are rarer still....yes married men dilute pretty much all sites down with their shenanigans and their porn addled brains have bizarre expectations I knew a genuine Scottish women on here a wee bit older than my 46. i haven't seen her on here this year, but over the years we talked a bit and I asked her how she was getting on and we shared words and many a story. In all that time she found no-one and that is a great shame, a travesty actually. has no good words to say about cheats The majority of people on these sites, who are looking for a "relationship", are cheats(a number only bettered on swingers sites) and that still sits uneasy with me and wonders what it has to do with the lifestyle. although most of the time I do not think about it...occasionally i will let one rip

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