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angeldmort -> I don't understand this.... enlighten me. (7/26/2016 6:07:21 PM)
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I know that the number one complaint that most Dommes have is "time wasters." Subs that message and want to email back and forth, want to talk about kinks and make plans, but who then either cut off all contact when they are expected to call or show up. Or who make excuse after excuse for why they can't/didn't show up as planned, even just to meet and see if we click.
I need to understand. I need to find out if I'm doing something incredibly wrong that causes them to promise to be somewhere, then just bail without a word. Or come up with wild excuses time after time. Or just blow it off after being SO ardent and SO determined to prove that they are "real."
The one was only requested to contact me at least once a day, even if it was only to say hello. He was long distance, so it's not like he could come do anything for me. I didn't demand money. He wanted "desperately" to be a LIVE IN, 24/7 slave, but couldn't manage something as small as a text message during the day. And this was after 4 months of chatting back and forth and his making big plans to come visit for a weekend.
Today I'm being stood up after talking since May, and he was supposed to drive down and spend a week here. I even took a week's vacation for this. Lots of chit chat, then less, then me writing him to say "hey, haven't heard from you, are we still on?" and him saying "yes, still going to be there" over and over. Now today, he won't respond via any method. Good thing I have plenty to do on my renovations to fill up the week.
One got stomach flu the morning he was supposed to drive over the hour from his town.
I've even had one tell me his grandmother died and he was out of signal range, only to post a long nearly love letter about the Fin. Domme he'd been talking to the whole time. And that was after I'd given him a second chance to show up. He wrote me again and wanted to rant about how it's actually "three strikes and you're out" so I had to give him a third chance (after the Fin Domme stopped talking to him because he couldn't pay.)
One wanted to take us out to lunch asap then killed his account when we were setting up a date to do so.
These are just a few of the more shockingly big examples of the the dozens who got that far in the process. I know every Domme I've met has similar stories, and says it's the most common situation.
I just don't understand. Help me understand why someone would supposedly want something and then sabotage their chance of getting it when they get the chance?
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