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LadyPact -> RE: Post-Apocalypse BDSM (8/2/2016 6:11:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul
What affects, good or bad, did you start to see in the scene starting with the emergence of the initial book, and building up to the release of the sequels, and finally the movie release?
On the good side, it did bring some people who might not have been interested in BDSM before into our communities who have turned out to be serious about alternative ways to have their relationships. It was good for certain venues as far as attendance and revenues. It also became an easy reference point for people into kink when dealing with vanillas. Most vanilla folks aren't familiar with "When Someone You Love Is Kinky," but ask them if they've heard of "50 Shades of Grey," well, at least you have a starting point. In anticipation of the influx of new people, some munch groups/venues got semi-serious about issues such as orientations and things like classes on negotiation and consent.
The bad. A definite increase in our communities regarding consent violations that easily trace back to miscommunications, p*ss poor negotiation skills, and assuming fiction was education. Bad press/sensationalism, such as headlines to the tune of "50 Shades of Grey <insert criminal case here>," which is never good for any of us. Tops thinking they could be like Christian Grey, even though they didn't have topping skills, etc.
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Now that the 'frenzy' is over, what lasting effects, good and/or bad, do you think the whole 50SoG phenomenon has had on the scene?
The frenzy isn't entirely over, though it's slowed quite a bit. That does make it easier on the education front because it's not so much of an influx all at once. Damage has been done in some areas because they didn't handle their problems appropriately and they are now left with a crap reputation. Others got stronger because it forced them to look at their group/event/venue policies for when issues arose. I know a few groups that went back to sponsor memberships and tougher vetting prior to attending play events. There's a lot more "what venues should I avoid" that experienced people talk about now.
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Do any of you believe that things have changed enough that you are prepared to leave it behind?
Leave what behind, in particular?
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Anyone like to share their funniest, stupidest, weirdest anecdotal experiences that can be attrbuted to the influence of 50SoG?
I admit to having my patience tried more than once when people would say, "that's not how they did it in 50SoG" or some other thing that showed they really believed that book was the gospel of kink. You just try to remember that they only have this bit of poorly written fiction to go on and ask them if they'd be interested in some of the educational opportunities that the local venue provides. I'll be nice and just say it like that.
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