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needlesandpins -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 8:36:30 AM)
I don't regret that any of the men I've had dealing with are very firmly in my past. They all deserve to be there. The last two have treated me so badly in the end that there is just nothing at all for either of them. Before them there are a couple that I remain friends with, and only one that will hold my heart forever. I can't regret the choices I made in my past, or the fact that I turned down the love of my life when he asked me to marry him. I was in love with him from the moment we met when I was 11yrs old, and I will love him until the day I die. I chose my ex over him later on, and for all the bad he's caused in my life, I can't regret that because I have my son because of my choice. The love of my life died though, so even if I had chosen him I would have been a widow, and I may not have had my son. I loved my ex with everything that I was, and gave him everything of myself that I could, but it was not the same love I have for the first. I may love someone else in the future, and he too may have everything of me, but it will not be the same either. As for the mention of being broken; many of us are, it's just a case of finding someone with piece that fit with your own. Needles

Awareness -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 1:40:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2 quote: ORIGINAL: Awareness quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Anyone ever wonder....the one that got away....why you fucked up....how you fucked up.....are you still fucking up (as to....the future Mrs/Mr Wuhnaful)....did you stop fucking up....do you care...are you past the point....do you wanna stop fucking up....do you wish that today you were with her/him (?) Fuck, no: https://youtu.be/Gaid72fqzNE Was this your wedding song? Very nearly. We were seriously considering it. Or maybe that was just me. I forget. [:D]

Kaliko -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 2:02:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Anyone ever wonder....the one that got away....why you fucked up....how you fucked up.....are you still fucking up (as to....the future Mrs/Mr Wuhnaful)....did you stop fucking up....do you care...are you past the point....do you wanna stop fucking up....do you wish that today you were with her/him (?) I'm curious - why would you say this is probably a guy thing?

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 2:21:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Not all bipolar refuse to take their meds. Why do you assume she will do that if she hasn't exhibited that behavior? If she does exhibit that, then the question to ask yourself is why are you only attracted to unhealthy women? Where did you learn this? And why haven't you sought help to change this? Well....I would assume that because....she has (and does). I don't find myself attracted to unhealthy women by any possible measure. I found myself attracted to this woman....an amazing woman....a brilliant woman.....who happens to be unhealthy...unfortunately, beyond her own control. Would you like to go any further in attempting to deconstruct what I believe.....or would you like to just chill the fuck out and realize that for me, this was a painful relationship....one in which I would have hoped for (and worked very hard for) an entirely different outcome.

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 2:23:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kaliko quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Anyone ever wonder....the one that got away....why you fucked up....how you fucked up.....are you still fucking up (as to....the future Mrs/Mr Wuhnaful)....did you stop fucking up....do you care...are you past the point....do you wanna stop fucking up....do you wish that today you were with her/him (?) I'm curious - why would you say this is probably a guy thing? Probably because it's a lot easier for a woman to get in to a new relationship......maybe I'm wrong.

JSands12 -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 9:34:51 PM)
Yes, I have one that got away. On stormy nights when I'm feeling melancholy I will think about her and wonder "what if".

Greta75 -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/10/2016 9:38:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Because she's bi polar. It's unfixable. Many that are, stop taking their meds and it's a roller coaster. As much as I would love to spend my life with her, she's broken. Then she's not the one who got away. It's more like, you're better off without her right? I don't feel like I got any that got away, because I can't think of any guy that I am not better off without him right now. Life works in strange ways. Whatever he lacked for me at that time, I meet someone new who fulfills that element that I craved for. But the new person may lack something the old person may have as a good point. But then, because while I was with the old person, I was missing out on one element important to me so much, I always feel like the new person is better! I guess it boils down to, we're all dealing with human beings, with all different good and bad. And ya gotta decide which combination of good and bad works best for you.

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/11/2016 3:42:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Because she's bi polar. It's unfixable. Many that are, stop taking their meds and it's a roller coaster. As much as I would love to spend my life with her, she's broken. Then she's not the one who got away. It's more like, you're better off without her right? I don't feel like I got any that got away, because I can't think of any guy that I am not better off without him right now. Life works in strange ways. Whatever he lacked for me at that time, I meet someone new who fulfills that element that I craved for. But the new person may lack something the old person may have as a good point. But then, because while I was with the old person, I was missing out on one element important to me so much, I always feel like the new person is better! I guess it boils down to, we're all dealing with human beings, with all different good and bad. And ya gotta decide which combination of good and bad works best for you. I don't feel that way.

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/11/2016 3:46:32 PM)
It's so funny reading all these IDIOT responses that PURPORT to know my feelings.....MY experiences....the guy is ALWAYS the asshole.....chics always know the answers.... Lay it out for me ladies.....you know it all....you know what I lived through....tell me how it is.... Guys....we can't POSSIBLY be understanding....we can't POSSIBLY be the one that gave more....because....we're guys. Chics know everything....guys can't POSSIBLY be the more giving (and forgiving) ones. Chics own it....DesFIP made that clear.....yeah....of course. FUCK YOU!!!! You piece of human UNADULTERATED sewage!!!! You don't know me....you don't know how much I love (and loved). Go fuck yourself.

HoneyBears -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/11/2016 3:59:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix It's so funny reading all these IDIOT responses that PURPORT to know my feelings.....MY experiences....the guy is ALWAYS the asshole.....chics always know the answers.... Lay it out for me ladies.....you know it all....you know what I lived through....tell me how it is.... Listen, OP dude. You are traipsing down the What-If lane of Memory Lane, and no good can ever come from getting stuck in regret. The person who got away, the one you want back ... You did not appreciate what you had when you had it. Or you would not have fucked up like an immature punkass bitch. (Not that that is what you are, but just saying [8D]) Or that other person did not appreciate you, and you fucked up on purpose to get back at her. Either way, it is a lose/lose proposition. -- Cub

Greta75 -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/11/2016 6:40:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Because she's bi polar. It's unfixable. Many that are, stop taking their meds and it's a roller coaster. As much as I would love to spend my life with her, she's broken. Then she's not the one who got away. It's more like, you're better off without her right? I don't feel that way. Then contact her and work with her with her problem. If you don't feel better off without her, then be with her.

needlesandpins -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/12/2016 2:24:06 AM)
There is no such thing as 'the one that got away' with someone from your past. Either you screwed them over, didn't want them anymore, and in that case either screwed them over, or you're forgetting now why you didn't want them at the time, or they left you for the former mentioned. The ones that get away are the ones you never made the move on in the first place. They are the 'What-if's', and seriously, what is the fricking point of that? Either look them up to see if they are available, or drop it. However, the problem with all of it is that you're not even the same people right now as you were back then. You're in love with an echoing memory. Needles

PeonForHer -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/12/2016 3:44:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins There is no such thing as 'the one that got away' with someone from your past. Either you screwed them over, didn't want them anymore, and in that case either screwed them over, or you're forgetting now why you didn't want them at the time, or they left you for the former mentioned. There is the line about nostalgia casting things from the past in a peachy hue. I still miss an ex of mine after a decade - mainly because she was such a great friend as well as a partner. But we split because we had to split ....

needlesandpins -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/12/2016 4:19:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins There is no such thing as 'the one that got away' with someone from your past. Either you screwed them over, didn't want them anymore, and in that case either screwed them over, or you're forgetting now why you didn't want them at the time, or they left you for the former mentioned. There is the line about nostalgia casting things from the past in a peachy hue. I still miss an ex of mine after a decade - mainly because she was such a great friend as well as a partner. But we split because we had to split .... That's it, break-up's are rough deals, and even when amicable, they are done for a reason. The only exception would be where one has to move away, and then again there is still that instance that the person isn't 'the one that got away', and you'd both be different now, so nothing to say you'd get on together now either. There is one person from my past where I miss the friendship the most about us, but he's such a drama queen. We had so much in common, but this negative energy about him brought a lot of bad to my life that altered the person I am too, and the way I had to be around him just to prevent the drama. It was far too exhausting. As much as I miss that friendship I am better off without him. Needles

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/12/2016 3:01:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: ORIGINAL: AtUrCervix Because she's bi polar. It's unfixable. Many that are, stop taking their meds and it's a roller coaster. As much as I would love to spend my life with her, she's broken. Then she's not the one who got away. It's more like, you're better off without her right? I don't feel like I got any that got away, because I can't think of any guy that I am not better off without him right now. Life works in strange ways. Whatever he lacked for me at that time, I meet someone new who fulfills that element that I craved for. But the new person may lack something the old person may have as a good point. But then, because while I was with the old person, I was missing out on one element important to me so much, I always feel like the new person is better! I guess it boils down to, we're all dealing with human beings, with all different good and bad. And ya gotta decide which combination of good and bad works best for you. Some would say.

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/12/2016 3:03:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins There is no such thing as 'the one that got away' with someone from your past. Either you screwed them over, didn't want them anymore, and in that case either screwed them over, or you're forgetting now why you didn't want them at the time, or they left you for the former mentioned. There is the line about nostalgia casting things from the past in a peachy hue. I still miss an ex of mine after a decade - mainly because she was such a great friend as well as a partner. But we split because we had to split .... Nostalgia. Well said.

LadyPact -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/13/2016 1:32:34 AM)
<Fast reply.> I still miss tk, sometimes. More often than I'd care to admit. I can't say it's better or worse. Victim of circumstance. More often than not, I'm glad for what I had, rather than dwell on what I lost. Cried like a bitch for the longest time. I just figure, if I hadn't have loved him that much, it wouldn't have been all that. He really was something wonderful.

shiftyw -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/13/2016 10:41:31 AM)
It's not a guy thing. I love my man now. Previously though the one that got away married and had babies with a girl who looked just like me- I couldn't give him marriage or babies at the time- and he couldn't wait. So... It all worked out in the end, cause my guy now is great and amazing and I love him, in the end I'm glad the first one got away.

AtUrCervix -> RE: This is probably a guy thing but..... (8/13/2016 3:20:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins There is no such thing as 'the one that got away' with someone from your past. Either you screwed them over, didn't want them anymore, and in that case either screwed them over, or you're forgetting now why you didn't want them at the time, or they left you for the former mentioned. There is the line about nostalgia casting things from the past in a peachy hue. I still miss an ex of mine after a decade - mainly because she was such a great friend as well as a partner. But we split because we had to split .... Flawless.

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