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subbiejenn -> RE: questions (12/3/2004 11:04:06 PM)
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well i don't know a lot about cuckold or pony play really but i do love to be fisted *grins* My most rememberable orgasms have been when i am being fisted ----
Vaginal fisting (or fist-fucking), means inserting one entire hand into the vagina.
This - if done correctly - will usually result in a very violent orgasm, often combined with female ejaculation. The fisting is usually done by the partner but occassionally women do it themselves.
The technique, described here, to a large extent is similar to the technique used for anal fisting. Vaginal fisting is an intense play form that quite a lot of submissive women dream about. They usually long for it as much as they fear it, especially if fisting is totally new to them. The combination of fear and desire is what does the trick. Fisting can be performed safely, provided you observe the precautions and technique below.
Be aware that not all women can handle fisting. Some may simply be built too small, although this is uncommon.
Regardless what others may tell you, fisting - when done correctly - is not dangerous. Many men are afraid their hands will be too big. This can be the case, but usually it is not. And: you don't have to have a baby first before you can be fisted, although there are some differences between women who have had a baby and those who haven't.
The objective is to create a violent, very satisfactory and usually revolving orgasm that has some similarities to giving birth. Vaginal contractions will be much stronger and the orgasm can not be compared to any other. This is due to the fact that the vagina is "filled" entirely and stimulated everywhere - especially the G-spot, the uterus and the bottom of the vagina - simultaneously.
What you need is:
(a) lots of lubricant -
(b) latex gloves.
Wear Latex gloves ALWAYS, to avoid damaging the tender inner vaginal tissue, disturbing the vaginal flora and kidney infections (caused by dirty hands or fingernails). Cut and file your nails very short before fisting, even if you are wearing latex gloves.
A pro-tip - warm the lubricant slightly before use, for example, by putting the dispenser in a bowl of warm water. It is much more comfortable for the woman NOT to get that cold splash just before the moment supreme. It will also make it much more difficult to penetrate. Use water based lubricant only (not butter, no oil or oil based substances, since this will ruin your latex glove and possibly the condom afterwards. Most lubricants contain Nonoxynol. Some women have allergic reactions to this. If you are not sure, try a little bit on the armpit. If the spot turns red and itchy after a while, find a lubricant without Nonoxynol.
Be aware that this may be an emotional barrier for your partner and talk it before you even attempt to do it. No consent? Forget it. It wont work. Remember that the vagina is the most precious female organ, designed for other purposes and women are usually very protective about it, for obvious reasons.
Next: it's good to know (if fisting is new to you) that the effect is intensely emotional and that after-care (always extremely important) is paramount in this case.
Fisting takes time And patience. Remember that the vagina has some very obvious defence systems. If you go to quick, the muscles will cramp in defence and you wont get anywhere.
Start with one finger and WAIT until sufficient room exists for the next finger and so on. Once you have three fingers in it usually helps to use your thumb to stimulate the clitoris as well. Use lots of lubricant. Not only will it make penetration easier, feeling extremely wet will also increase your partners' lust.
Once you are able to get four fingers in, you are close but now you need to take extra time. Stimulate the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time.
WAIT until the vagina starts to "absorb" your fingers (you can feel that).
Then lay your thumb alongside your middle finger, form an arrow and very carefully push without applying force. Twist your hand a little bit until you suddenly and naturally glide in. When inside, form a fist and keep moving up and down.
WARNING - here is the difference between those who have had babies and not: the contractions can be extremely violent, even more with women that have NOT yet given birth. Do not retract in the middle of an orgasm, but stay inside and let your wrist cope with the contractions. If you retract it is not impossible your partner will seriously hurt or even break your fingers (apart from being extremely disappointed).
After the orgasm, retract slowly and let the vagina do the pushing out.
When necessary, apply some extra lubricant.
Sometimes fisting will require training to learn to cope with the natural fear and the need to relax. A very flexible large dildo or a so called "Man handler" may be extremely useful in these cases.
A word of warning. Always consult your doctor in the event an attempt to fisting after a hysterectomy causes unusual effects, such as pain, unexpected bleeding or cramp. When in doubt, talk about your specific situation with your doctor before attempting to fist again. Most doctors will not have a problem discussing this.
*wiggles* i love a good fisting....
~jenn~
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