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LilJuly76 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 3:14:42 PM)
oh totally agree I tried to tell her the same thing but she kept yelling at me, then freedomdwarf explained the same thing but did it better. if she can't understand that kind of relationship is not about her then maybe whatever we say it will never sink in.

LilJuly76 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 3:17:40 PM)
now I would call that a double standard, she dislikes it when he sleeps with married women but he's not allowed to dislike it when she sleeps with married men namely her husband, never thought of that either.

LilJuly76 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 3:23:42 PM)
the other reason why she didn't say anything because at the beginning of this thread she kept insisting that she's not allowed to say anything about her feelings because she's the submissive, which also led me to think she really didn't understand a D/s dynamic.

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 4:18:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 the other reason why she didn't say anything because at the beginning of this thread she kept insisting that she's not allowed to say anything about her feelings because she's the submissive, which also led me to think she really didn't understand a D/s dynamic. I was feeling guilty for being upset and didn't want to cause a disagreement with Daddy. Sorry I'm not perfect

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 4:22:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 now I would call that a double standard, she dislikes it when he sleeps with married women but he's not allowed to dislike it when she sleeps with married men namely her husband, never thought of that either. I don't understand this at all. Who is he and she and what are you trying to say? I don't sleep with married men unless it's with Daddy. I don't sleep with any other men unless it's with Daddy or I'm having sex with my husband. It's been the same for Daddy until this new sub. This is the first time since I agreed to be his sub that he's been intimate with another woman without me there. I didn't say me being jealous of this new girl made sense, I said it made me miserable and I want to overcome it

SuzyHolewrecker -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 4:27:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 She is an experienced Mistress herself. She told me all her sexual partners are married. I said she needs to tell Daddy about her other men. It not only affects him but could affect me and she needs to be 100% with him if she is serious about him and let him decide what he will accept. I wasn't going to be the faceless partner of the man she was sleeping with like she's treated all her other partners. I don't think she expected that. Here's the part where you said she's a Mistress. Earlier you said you encouraged Daddy to look for another sub. Being married and having a Dom dunt make you poly. i'm pretty sure you need to share a bed to do that. if you're not involved in every aspect with them, then how can it be poly? it's Daddy having His babygirl AND a Mistress. Lucky Daddy. :\

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 4:37:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SuzyHolewrecker quote: ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 She is an experienced Mistress herself. She told me all her sexual partners are married. I said she needs to tell Daddy about her other men. It not only affects him but could affect me and she needs to be 100% with him if she is serious about him and let him decide what he will accept. I wasn't going to be the faceless partner of the man she was sleeping with like she's treated all her other partners. I don't think she expected that. Here's the part where you said she's a Mistress. Earlier you said you encouraged Daddy to look for another sub. Being married and having a Dom dunt make you poly. i'm pretty sure you need to share a bed to do that. if you're not involved in every aspect with them, then how can it be poly? it's Daddy having His babygirl AND a Mistress. Lucky Daddy. :\ Holy crap y'all. It's not that confusing. I called her a mistress because she told me all her current sexual partners are married men, making her their mistress. Daddy is single. And poly means different things. Not all poly arrangements are the same. A noob like me shouldn't have to point that out. Not everyone involved in a poly relationship has to sleep with eachother or even live with each other. Poly amorous simply means you have romantic feelings for more than one person at the same time. I don't have to love his lovers and he doesn't have to love mine. It's not that hard to understand.

LilJuly76 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 4:50:00 PM)
I was replying to LadyPact's question to you: How come it's ok for disliking her for sleeping with married men, but you don't dislike Daddy for sleeping with married women? And, yeah, I mean YOU. Oh, but it's ok when you do it. I'm kinda with LadyPact, you seem to be getting worse not better, you're still very antagonistic towards what people are saying.

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 5:38:35 PM)
I'd be a fool to take everything anybody said. I'm not trying to be antagonistic, but I'm also not a push over.

JOHNTHEFOX -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 6:32:46 PM)
BEWARE OF WHAT YOU WISH FOR. YOU MAY GET IT! PERHAPS YOU COULD HELP ME. I'M A SOCIOLOGIST TRYING TO STUDY HOW THE NET HAS CHANGED SEX AND DATING. MY PROBLEM IS FAKES AND BOTS. I WOULD LIKE TO PICK YOUR BRAIN. DEPENDING UPON YOUR LOCATIONI MAY EVEN HELP YOU RELIEVE SOME OF YOUR UNHAPPINESS!

Lucylastic -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 6:38:23 PM)
oh dear

DesFIP -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 7:03:08 PM)
The op is very passive aggressive. That's not something that improves any relationship. More the contrary.

Gauge -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 7:03:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JOHNTHEFOX BEWARE OF WHAT YOU WISH FOR. YOU MAY GET IT! PERHAPS YOU COULD HELP ME. I'M A SOCIOLOGIST TRYING TO STUDY HOW THE NET HAS CHANGED SEX AND DATING. MY PROBLEM IS FAKES AND BOTS. I WOULD LIKE TO PICK YOUR BRAIN. DEPENDING UPON YOUR LOCATIONI MAY EVEN HELP YOU RELIEVE SOME OF YOUR UNHAPPINESS! Caps lock is cruise control for cool.

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 7:05:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JOHNTHEFOX BEWARE OF WHAT YOU WISH FOR. YOU MAY GET IT! PERHAPS YOU COULD HELP ME. I'M A SOCIOLOGIST TRYING TO STUDY HOW THE NET HAS CHANGED SEX AND DATING. MY PROBLEM IS FAKES AND BOTS. I WOULD LIKE TO PICK YOUR BRAIN. DEPENDING UPON YOUR LOCATIONI MAY EVEN HELP YOU RELIEVE SOME OF YOUR UNHAPPINESS! No. Weirdo

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 7:06:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP The op is very passive aggressive. That's not something that improves any relationship. More the contrary. You are literally the first person who has ever called me passive aggressive

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 7:32:00 PM)
Y'all I want to apologize. I'm sorry I came off as aggressive or confrontational or confusing or ungrateful. I really am grateful and trying to adjust to this new dynamic. I sincerely want this to work, and not because I'm stubborn or insecure or lonely, but because I love this guy. I hope you all can see my sincerity and real desire to adjust in a healthy way.

catize -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 9:18:22 PM)
Bless your lil pea-pickin' heart!

Aquanerd1983 -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 9:35:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: catize Bless your lil pea-pickin' heart! Oh hush. [8D]

LadyPact -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/29/2016 11:15:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SuzyHolewrecker Here's the part where you said she's a Mistress. Earlier you said you encouraged Daddy to look for another sub. Being married and having a Dom dunt make you poly. Actually, yeah, it kind of does. quote: i'm pretty sure you need to share a bed to do that. I would highly suggest you become more educated on the matter. quote: if you're not involved in every aspect with them, then how can it be poly? Real simple. The OP has more than one relationship. Pretty much the basic definition of poly. quote: it's Daddy having His babygirl AND a Mistress. Lucky Daddy. :\ Which is what makes him poly.

LadyPact -> RE: He took on a second sub and I'm miserable (8/30/2016 1:57:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JOHNTHEFOX BEWARE OF WHAT YOU WISH FOR. YOU MAY GET IT! PERHAPS YOU COULD HELP ME. I'M A SOCIOLOGIST TRYING TO STUDY HOW THE NET HAS CHANGED SEX AND DATING. MY PROBLEM IS FAKES AND BOTS. I WOULD LIKE TO PICK YOUR BRAIN. DEPENDING UPON YOUR LOCATIONI MAY EVEN HELP YOU RELIEVE SOME OF YOUR UNHAPPINESS! No. Your problem is that you had a prof that would ever give you credit towards your degree if you typed it in all caps. Holy sh^t, dude. People aren't stupid.

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