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RE: Married men - 9/6/2016 11:37:48 PM   
Hernando


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Wow, are you seriously a male trying to say that, women will have little options left IF they refuse to screw men who are married and who have genital herpes?


All I'm saying is that with herpes being rampant in the US you need to be very careful not to stumble upon a case, if you have frequent casual sex with lots of different people :)

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RE: Married men - 9/6/2016 11:54:11 PM   
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Women that are kinky are not fetish fulfillment devices to service your dick.
It's a true delight to finally see that courteous, laid-back, bubbly, upbeat personality you're advertising on your profile. I don't know how I could possibly have missed it.


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RE: Married men - 9/6/2016 11:57:14 PM   
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what do you mean by solicitor?
Solicitors are lawyers who advise clients and draw up contracts.
Barristers are lawyers who represent clients in court.


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RE: Married men - 9/6/2016 11:59:34 PM   
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Ah, you thought it was more somebody who solicits?


Admittedly, 'solicitor' is quite a stupid word, when you think about it.
What, you think lawyers AREN'T whores?


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RE: Married men - 9/7/2016 12:34:00 AM   
BitaTruble


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ORIGINAL: Rush30

I sent a message to a women trying to start a conversation. She responded by saying she's not going to help a married man cheat on his wife.
I state clearly on my profile that my wife is aware of my activities on this site.

Does that mean that most women think I'm lying about my wife knowing?

I've seen several profiles from married women who are not looking to leave their husbands and just want to have fun.
Is this just the difference between
married men and married women?

Even just to have fun, dont women want to play with married men?

Just to make sure I understand the context - You wrote to one woman and now want to know if "most" women feel the same.

I will base my answer on my understanding of the context of your question. If my understanding is incorrect my answer may change depending on the feedback.

"Trust but verify."

Perhaps put something in your profile about people being free to meet and speak with your wife prior to interaction and see if that ups your credibility. You don't have much in the way of other options because there are as many men who fudge/lie about their status as there are scammers and findoms. It's an unfortunate state but part of the landscape. Identifying problems is a first step, lamenting them need not be involved since solutions make laminations moot.

Don't ask/don't tell is not the same as 'my partner is super cool and down with all this and has no problem meeting you and giving her blessings in person' ...then follow through on that.





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RE: Married men - 9/7/2016 1:12:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I dont play casually with married/partnered men as a generality. On rare occasion at an event a friend may offer their partner for whip or cane scenes, but its not sexual. I dont wish to invest of myself in a partner that isnt legitimately MY partner. Time is finite, ill spemd mine on those who are looking fir the same thing as myself.

Married/partnered people are welcome to schedule a non-sex pro bdsm scene, but they arent eligible to play privately

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RE: Married men - 9/7/2016 3:05:02 AM   
LilJuly76


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RE: Married men - 9/11/2016 8:03:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Rush30

Thank you to everyone who responded. It's always interesting to read the different points of view. I try to take something positive away from every situation.
But I'm disappointed with the the assumptions that was made about me.


I'm disappointed by most of the responses you got, too. I'm also a new member and this hasn't given me the best impression of the community here. Sadly, I'm not surprised by the latent (and not so latent) hostility to what appears to be an honest question.

I do have to say, though, in all frankness, it's the attitude and the "how DARE you suggest that a woman exists that won't demand you marry her immediately and devote every second of the rest of your life to her and her alone, treating her like the princess/goddess/queen that she obviously is?!?! How DARE you???" that makes me sooooooooooo glad I'm gay. We just don't have that problem. Thank goodness.

The truth is that there are plenty of women out there that are happy to fool around with a married man (although apparently not many of them are on CollarSpace....), probably for the same reason that I've fooled around with plenty of them over the years. If you want a drama-free, no pressure, no commitment sex buddy, you're hard pressed to find a safer choice than a guy with a lot to lose. And being married in today's up-tight, puritanical, "marry me and devote your soul to me or fuck off" culture, married guys have a lot to lose. So when I find one that's willing to fool around with another guy, we both end up having a great time for as long as it lasts and when it's over, it's over. No stress, no problems, and we both get on with our lives.

Any chance you've got a wee bit o' the bi in your orientation, Rush? It would be really handy for you if you did. ;-)

-eJohn.

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RE: Married men - 9/12/2016 7:41:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: eJohn


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ORIGINAL: Rush30

Thank you to everyone who responded. It's always interesting to read the different points of view. I try to take something positive away from every situation.
But I'm disappointed with the the assumptions that was made about me.


I'm disappointed by most of the responses you got, too. I'm also a new member and this hasn't given me the best impression of the community here. Sadly, I'm not surprised by the latent (and not so latent) hostility to what appears to be an honest question.

I do have to say, though, in all frankness, it's the attitude and the "how DARE you suggest that a woman exists that won't demand you marry her immediately and devote every second of the rest of your life to her and her alone, treating her like the princess/goddess/queen that she obviously is?!?! How DARE you???" that makes me sooooooooooo glad I'm gay. We just don't have that problem. Thank goodness.

The truth is that there are plenty of women out there that are happy to fool around with a married man (although apparently not many of them are on CollarSpace....), probably for the same reason that I've fooled around with plenty of them over the years. If you want a drama-free, no pressure, no commitment sex buddy, you're hard pressed to find a safer choice than a guy with a lot to lose. And being married in today's up-tight, puritanical, "marry me and devote your soul to me or fuck off" culture, married guys have a lot to lose. So when I find one that's willing to fool around with another guy, we both end up having a great time for as long as it lasts and when it's over, it's over. No stress, no problems, and we both get on with our lives.

Any chance you've got a wee bit o' the bi in your orientation, Rush? It would be really handy for you if you did. ;-)

-eJohn.


And the likes of those bitches are the reason my son no longer has his family together. It's why he had to go through his final exams at school knowing his dad and I were finally splitting up, because some slack cow helped my husband destroy my relationship. So you can take your sanctimonious twaddle and stick it up your arse, your where your head is.

Needles

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RE: Married men - 9/14/2016 5:29:25 AM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry that happened to you. But everyone is responsible for their own actions. Unfortunately some will lie and cheat, and that gives all of us that want to do the right thing a bad name.

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RE: Married men - 9/17/2016 10:22:12 AM   
Daddyplsfindme


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Status: offline 		OP- Not everyone is poly, and they can say that many different ways. Or yes, she didn't believe you wife knows.
Years ago, I met my husband thru this site. Fast forward he wanted me to find another man. I had not heard of poly before my mentor, and the whole idea seemed interesting back then, but not for me. So when the time came that I was actually at least Open to the idea, I started talking to a guy as a friend online thinking I would never meet him. Turns out he didn't believe me that my husband knew. And we chatted online for HOURS daily. Then he heard me telling husband who i was speaking to on phone and he was shocked...He knows??? For real? And they spoke. Hilarious. Same thing with someone else more recent, they simply didn't believe it. I met a guy once nearby for a day at the beach and when my husband dropped me off and shook his hand and they spoke for a bit he started laughing and said he didn't believe me even though he hadn't said so beforehand. SO, people are not going to just believe that your wife knows.
Also from the other side, soooo many emails from "couples" and you speak to the guy but not her, she is at work or busy the first few times, okay. But after a few rounds of the brush off you see the wife doesn't know. So I make it a rule up front we don't talk more than once until I also speak to your wife, on Skype providing we cant meet face to face(yet) Because so many men lie and have pictures of them with their wife and think that's 'proof'
Maybe if you have a short video greeting that includes your wife?

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RE: Married men - 9/17/2016 1:24:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daddyplsfindme
I met a guy once nearby for a day at the beach

Did that guy have herpes?

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RE: Married men - 9/19/2016 6:03:18 PM   
eJohn


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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins

And the likes of those bitches are the reason my son no longer has his family together. It's why he had to go through his final exams at school knowing his dad and I were finally splitting up, because some slack cow helped my husband destroy my relationship. So you can take your sanctimonious twaddle and stick it up your arse, your where your head is.

Needles


You should know that until you stop blaming things on other people and start taking responsibility for the part you played in your own problems, you'll be doomed to repeat them over and over.

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RE: Married men - 9/19/2016 6:30:04 PM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		Rush30 presents himself as honest with 67% narrative which is 67% better than almost all...actually he borders on 100%

Do not make me come in here again

He is an iota of that 67% who is aware therefore he shroud be commended...if i see any of you lot attack him again my words will weigh you down with your own doom, granted i may finish you off with some of mine.

I myself was tested for rabies last week and they declared the strain virulent and me as mad as bag of irate owls

I have simply been lucky and i not sleep around luck was the keyword there


Rush30 I myself have cfs/me and a non perfect being bereft of women in 2016 and most women, and understand there are no women on here looking perhaps <0.1%not impssoible - judge me for that it makes me feel subhuman


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RE: Married men - 9/19/2016 8:14:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Rush30

I sent a message to a women trying to start a conversation. She responded by saying she's not going to help a married man cheat on his wife.
I state clearly on my profile that my wife is aware of my activities on this site.

Does that mean that most women think I'm lying about my wife knowing?

I've seen several profiles from married women who are not looking to leave their husbands and just want to have fun.
Is this just the difference between
married men and married women?

Even just to have fun, dont women want to play with married men?


"Does that mean that most women think I'm lying about my wife knowing? "

Yes.

"I've seen several profiles from married women who are not looking to leave their husbands and just want to have fun.
Is this just the difference between married men and married women?"

(They have tits....deal with it).

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RE: Married men - 9/21/2016 12:43:43 PM   
eJohn


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Status: offline 		Wow. I continue to be amazed by the hostility being shown in this thread. I guess it's considered way better to simply lash out with insults and judgement and turn everyone off than it is to have a clue about what's really going on. Bravo.

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RE: Married men - 9/21/2016 2:18:30 PM   
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Wow. I continue to be amazed by the hostility being shown in this thread. I guess it's considered way better to simply lash out with insults and judgement and turn everyone off than it is to have a clue about what's really going on. Bravo.

Seems to me that it's you that doesn't have a clue.

The hostility has nothing to do with what OP has done, or declared in his profile - true or not.
Most of it comes from the fact that he makes light of a very serious STI as if it's nothing worse than a common cold.
Perhaps you should re-read the whole thread instead of skimming it.


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RE: Married men - 9/21/2016 2:23:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		In this particular thread, it's presented as a "Why don't women want to have sex with me if I'm married?" which was only half the story.

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RE: Married men - 9/21/2016 5:05:58 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		They have tits? Really?
Thanks for the news flash!

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RE: Married men - 9/21/2016 5:28:14 PM   
Rush30


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

In this particular thread, it's presented as a "Why don't women want to have sex with me if I'm married?" which was only half the story.


Don't you have something better to do with your life? My goodness, what's the matter with you? People like you are part of the problem and not the answer. At least get the info correct about what I said instead of making up your own than crap. You're misquoting me and continue to show your ignorance! Do you actually give helpful advice or are you that pathetic where all you do is bash people? That's right! You're part of the masters of the collarspace universe, where you give unhelpful, useless advice.
Everyone has an opinion, but not everyone is educated!


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