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Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 12:38:41 AM

AZFEETGuy

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Hello,

I would like to ask women what they prefer....being dominated or dominating?

I understand it's a personal preference but I wanted to get a majority preference.

It seems that there are far more "sub" women vs dominant woman.
Additionally, how many women can switch roles depending on the mood at the moment? Or once you identify yourself with sub or dom, do you typically stay that way? For example could someone who is sub but can identify with being in control, learn how to Dom?

Thank you for all who respond.

Thank you, Jeff

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 1:01:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AZFEETGuy
Hello,

I would like to ask women what they prefer....being dominated or dominating?

I understand it's a personal preference but I wanted to get a majority preference.

It seems that there are far more "sub" women vs dominant woman.
Additionally, how many women can switch roles depending on the mood at the moment? Or once you identify yourself with sub or dom, do you typically stay that way? For example could someone who is sub but can identify with being in control, learn how to Dom?

Thank you for all who respond.

Thank you, Jeff

Domme here.
What I have noticed is that there is greater flexibility (switchiness) with dominants of either gender and with poly bisexual submissive women.

I suppose any submissive could learn how to service Top, but would they enjoy doing so? That is the real question. I have found that most submissives of either gender do not. YMMV

For some submissives, just the simple act of Topping feels like punishment, or it can be an outright deal breaker because that is not what they signed up for.
Of this subset, seeing their dominant in a "submissive" posture (from their perspective) can cause them to lose respect for their Master or Mistress. That is why it is not uncommon for dominants to take turns Topping one another or else seek out a switch for that purpose.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 1:40:38 AM

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I find it perplexing that you made this a gender issue.
Typical stereotyping.

Given that there are probably 10x more male subs than female ones, and 10,000 male subs to every domme, I find the question disingenuous.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 2:32:37 AM

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as a Lesbian SWITCH the question never arises, complete mutual pleasure is the most important thing. xx

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 2:34:03 AM

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dear grouch what is the best aerial for my denon dab. xx
the wire thing is useless.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 2:50:46 AM

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dear grouch what is the best aerial for my denon dab. xx
the wire thing is useless.

Chuck your DAB in the bin. They're all useless.

You are almost certainly better off streaming stuff off the internet than DAB.
There are many many internet radio apps out there.
I happen to like AIMP3. It's from a Russian auther but I like it for choice.
You can get it here. Current version is v4.10.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 2:55:39 AM

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I like my Denon , wanted help not your MCP opinion .

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 2:58:36 AM

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You asked, I answered.
Not my fault you don't like the answer.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 3:43:55 AM

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I'm a dominant. I switch in topping and bottoming, and my mental headspace is being in charge.

freedomdwarf1 has the right idea. I wrote this some time ago:

Yes, There Are More Submissives Than Dominants.

And I don't just mean there are fewer FemDoms to male submissives. I mean there are fewer dominant people than there are submissive people.

Period.

Across all genders/interests/lifestyles.

Of course there are. There HAVE to be. For humans to survive through history there HAD to be more followers than leaders!

You get it, now?

And yes, that means that some people will never find their perfect partner. Louis CK sums it up perfectly:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUgQPzq6ifc

(although that last line is highly illogical, as if people don't just fuck "across," then someone is fucking down, every time someone fucks up)

However, all hope is not lost.

Not everyone needs GrandLordlyDommyMcBonerPants, the tippest toppest of all the domly doms.

And that's good. Because, really, there is only one of those, ever. Or, one in each state, or one in each city or one in each clique...

In fact, some experts say that there is 1 leader to every 99 followers.

There is merit in this, but I think it paints a very sad picture.

If we were to suggest that out of every 100 people, that there is one that is most dominant and one that is least dominant, then the other 98 will be "Shades of Grey" in between.

So #80 will still be more dominant than #20. And #35 will still be more dominant than #28.

So, while #35 may not be GrandLordlyDommyMcBonerPants or MistressGoddesSheWhoMustBeObeyedBecauseTheV, there is still as much leadership there as #28 may need in his/her life, if not "quite" enough to write racy romance novels and make wank-fodder porn from... at least not on a daily basis.

So, don't give up hope. Not quite yet.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 4:19:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: bondageerone

I like my Denon , wanted help not your MCP opinion .

You've already said the wire thing is useless.
Why?? Because the basic unit is crap. That's why.
Hence my advice.

Use internet radio - because there's more choice.
Apps for Android mobile devices, programs for laptops and towers.
Plenty to choose from.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 5:24:33 AM

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There is no such thing as the average woman, or average man... so these generalized questions have no meaning.

You are much better off understanding that people are unique individuals, and acknowledging that you have to get to know them as such.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 10:29:41 AM

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For example could someone who is sub but can identify with being in control, learn how to Dom?

Sure, just as soon as she hs a kid she quickly learns how to make decisions and give orders.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 11:31:33 AM

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This one doesnt.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 12:17:37 PM

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For example could someone who is sub but can identify with being in control, learn how to Dom?

Sure, just as soon as she hs a kid she quickly learns how to make decisions and give orders.

Isn't that the truth. That or risk raising irresponsible self entitled spoiled brats

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 3:06:43 PM

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Actually I meant giving orders to the boyfriends.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 4:06:26 PM

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Every individual is different. I am a Switch, will bottom for a Dom if he is able to do so. I am also stubborn-headed, opinionated and will run you over if you don't show restraint and understand you piss me off, you don't show control at all. Abuse of any kind is a turn-off.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 4:59:30 PM

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> Do women prefer to be dominated?

Yes.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 5:09:56 PM

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LOL

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 5:29:12 PM

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Take this one for example, (please... nobody else will) she's just gagging for my attention. She tells herself otherwise, but I know what she wants. And she knows I know - she just can't bring herself to admit it.

Can you, ya ditzy tart.

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RE: Do women prefer to be dominated - 9/12/2016 8:14:34 PM

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LOL
Keep telling yourself that.

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